Today we’re talking about The Slow Fade: that slow, quiet drifting apart where the messages get shorter, the replies slower, and the energy shifts until one day…it’s just silence.

In this episode, we’re unpacking:

• Why we quietly quit people instead of having real conversations
• What’s actually happening beneath the surface for both sides — the Fader and the Fadee
• Who deserves an explanation and who doesn’t
• What can we do instead of fading away

If you’ve ever been on either side of The Slow Fade, this conversation will help you see what’s really going on underneath, and how to move through it with more clarity, courage, and integrity.

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• Michael DiIorio
• Matt Landsiedel
• Reno Johnston

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What we want you to gain from this episode is the importance of non-sexualized, safe, and brave spaces for gay men to heal and grow together. By the end of this episode, you will be able to identify what a nest is, how you could benefit from one, and where to find or create one if you are interested in nesting.

The concepts and questions we explore in this episode are:

• What is “nesting” and why is it important for gay men?
• What moments in our lives require the need for nesting?
• How do we know when we’re “nested” — or when we’re not?
• What makes a nest truly safe?
• How do you tend and protect a nest once it’s formed?
• What could gay culture look like if nesting became normal?
• What’s one small way you can begin nesting today?

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We all say we want love… but are we actually open to receiving it?

In this episode, we’re going deeper into what it really means to open your heart. From the subtle subconscious programming that keeps love at arm’s length to the sneaky ways we self-sabotage, we’re unpacking the hidden barriers that make intimacy feel unsafe (even when we crave it most).

You’ll learn:

• Why receiving love can feel harder than giving it
• How old conditioning teaches us to block love without realizing it
• The difference between performing for love and allowing it in
• Practical ways to build safety, self-trust, and openness in all forms of love—romantic, platonic, and self

If you find yourself pushing love away, deflecting compliments, or find yourself stuck in patterns that keep intimacy just out of reach—this one’s for you.

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• Michael DiIorio
• Matt Landsiedel

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Some of us don’t fall in love with people, we fall in love with an idea of them. The story, the potential, the fantasy of the perfect boyfriend who finally makes everything click. But that idealized version of love often keeps us chasing what looks right instead of what feels real.

In this episode, Michael and therapist, Michael Pezzullo, explore how fantasy, perfectionism, and external validation shape the way we love- and why chasing the ideal often keeps us from the real thing.

We’ll unpack:

• What it looks like to fall in love with potential - and why we do it
• How to tell the difference between healthy excitement and mental storytelling
• How seeking the “perfect” partner keeps us single or dissatisfied
• How to stop chasing the ideal and let love be more organic and human
• Whether letting go of the fantasy means “settling for less”

If you’ve ever been in love with potential or the picture-perfect relationship, this conversation will help you come back to reality…where real connection actually happens.

Today's Guest: Michael Pezzullo

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Why does joy feel so hard to hold onto? In this episode of Gay Men Going Deeper, we’re revealing the joy killers: those sneaky ways we sabotage happiness even when life is going well.

We explore:

• The difference between chasing pleasure and cultivating joy
• Foreboding joy (a.k.a. waiting for the other shoe to drop) and how it robs us of the present.
• How trauma and disappointment condition us to expect loss
• The role of protector parts and self-sabotage in keeping joy at arm’s length.
• What we’re really trying to protect ourselves from when we don’t let joy all the way in.

By the end, you’ll see how internalized shame, fear, and control kill our joy- and how practicing gratitude, presence, and vulnerability can help us reclaim it.

Today's Hosts:

• Michael DiIorio
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What would your day, your week, your next year, or even your life look like if you spent it following your joy? What if joy became your North Star? Your guiding light? Your compass?

What is in the way of you experiencing more joy in your life?

What if you could find joy in how you dress, what you eat, how you exercise, where you live, what you do for work, who you spend time with, and how you navigate your day to day life?

These, and more, are the questions we’ll cover in this intuitive and inspired conversation around following your joy.

True to form, you will be joining Reno on location at Sunset Beach, in beautiful Vancouver, British Columbia, where he followed his joy down to the beach where he fell in love with Vancouver, so that he could not just talk about following your joy, but embody it.

Note: You may occasionally hear some fun background noise, which actually becomes part of the conversation, so you’ll want to keep listening.

Today's Host: Reno Johnston

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Joy isn’t just fireworks and big milestones; it’s in the ordinary, everyday moments we often overlook. Yet for many of us, joy feels slippery and hard to find.

In this episode of Gay Men Going Deeper, we’re diving into what joy really feels like, how it shifts as we evolve and age, and why it’s less about chasing highs and more about cultivating presence.

We’ll explore:

• The difference between joy and pleasure (and why we confuse them)
• Joy-givers vs. joy-suckers (and how to spot yours)
• The role of play, laughter, and lightheartedness in a joyful life
• How to deepen your relationship with joy in your next chapter
• Why joy is a skill you can practice, not just a mood you stumble into

If you’re ready to move beyond quick fixes and start building a life that feels nourishing, playful, and deeply fulfilling, this conversation is for you.

Today's Hosts:

• Michael DiIorio
• Matt Landsiedel

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