Some conversations don’t start because they’re new; they start because they’re familiar.

In this episode, I sit with a truth that stopped me in my tracks after hearing it spoken by Iyanla Vanzant: “The masks we wear become our baggage.” Not poetic. Diagnostic.

This episode was sparked by watching how quickly people respond when someone dares to remove a mask, especially when that someone is a Black woman. What’s often labeled as discernment is, in reality, control. What is often called holiness is actually legalism. And what’s framed as concern can be judgment wrapped in religious language.

As a woman of faith who has served in ministry, lived inside religious systems, and later began the work of deconstruction, I share what it looks like to move from performance to healing, from conformity to conviction, and from survival to autonomy.

Within this episode, we explore:• How masks form as survival strategies.
• When faith becomes surveillance instead of transformation.
• The difference between legalism and healing.
• Why Black women feel this weight so deeply.
• The emotional cost of being the strong one, the good one, or the spiritual one.
• And what it means to unmask without shame.

This is a conversation about reclaiming your body, your voice, your choices, and your relationship with God, without fear, policing, or performance.

I’ll leave you with this question:
What mask are you still wearing… and what has it cost you?

Because when the mask is no longer serving your healing, it becomes baggage, and you deserve to travel lighter.

🎧 Press play if you’re ready to breathe again.

If you've ever felt uneasy when things are finally calm, or if peace makes you suspicious instead of settled, this conversation is for you.

Today, we're talking about the paranoia trauma leaves behind; the quiet hypervigilance that lingers even after the danger has passed.

We're unpacking why so many of us are healed enough to function, but not healed enough to rest, and how survival patterns like over-functioning, emotional guarding, and anticipating harm can follow us into new seasons if we don't pause and address them.

I'll help you understand how trauma-based paranoia shows up in real life, how it differs from intuition, and why your nervous system may still be operating as if something bad is always around the corner.

Together, we'll slow down, name what's happening (without judgment, of course), and begin creating safety from the inside out.

This conversation is an invitation to start the year softer, not guarded, not hardened, but grounded. You don't have to carry every survival skill into your next chapter.

Some things may have protected you once, but they don't have to lead you anymore.

How to Position Yourself to Win in the New Year is not about pressure, hustle, or becoming someone new. It’s about alignment.

In this episode, Coach Carla invites listeners into a grounded, honest conversation about what it truly means to prepare for a new season; emotionally, mentally, spiritually, and practically.

You’ll learn why most people carry old patterns into a new year, how healing and positioning go hand in hand, and what it looks like to release survival mode, allowing you to move with clarity and intention.

This episode explores mindset shifts, emotional regulation, boundaries, self-trust, and intentional decision-making without guilt or overwhelm.

If you’re entering the new year craving peace, clarity, and sustainable growth, not just goals, this conversation is for you.

Consider this your reset, your reminder, and your invitation to move forward aligned, healed, and ready to win.