In this intimate and thought-provoking episode of the Healthy Love and Money Podcast, Ed sits down with powerhouse couple Doug and Heather Boneparth—co-founders of Bonafide Wealth and co-authors of an upcoming book that dives deep into the intersection of love, money, and trauma. But this isn't just a story of professional success—it's a raw, unfiltered look at the real journey behind the scenes: a couple navigating early adulthood in the throes of a recession, redefining roles around ambition and financial contribution, and learning to recalibrate their relationship through the evolving seasons of marriage, parenthood, and business. From grappling with shifting power dynamics and gender roles to reclaiming shared ambition after years of imbalance, Doug and Heather open up about the invisible labor, emotional recalibration, and personal transformation required to keep their relationship strong. Whether you're in a relationship, building a business with your partner, or simply trying to figure out how love and money can coexist—this episode will challenge your perspective, inspire reflection, and remind you that the dance of marriage is messy, beautiful, and always evolving.

Key Takeaways:

• How do couples navigate ambition and financial roles within a relationship while maintaining mutual respect and balance?

• What challenges arise when transitioning from traditional career roles to shared entrepreneurship, and how do partners support each other through these shifts?

• How can couples continuously recalibrate their relationship and financial dynamics to reflect changing life circumstances and maintain equity?

Key Timestamps:

(00:00) - From college sweethearts to financial partners

(05:00) - Defining “collective ambition” in a marriage

(08:00) - Redefining masculinity and partnership in finances

(12:30) - Marriage isn’t a “set it and forget it” model

(14:00) - The invisible labor of love and money

(16:00) - Redefining contribution beyond income

(21:00) - Walking it out: conflict resolution on the move

(23:00) - The emotional toll of leaving corporate life

(33:00) - Letting go of the “conflict-free relationship” myth

(34:30) - Spotting when it’s time to switch roles

(38:00) - Financial recalibration in new life seasons

Key Topics Discussed:

Healthy Love and Money, Ed Coambs, Charlotte North Carolina, Financial Therapy, Couples Financial Planning, Financial Intimacy, Money and Relationships, Financial Communication for Couples, Attachment Styles and Money, Financial Conflict Resolution, Therapy-Informed Financial Planning, Financial Trauma Healing, Financial Wellness for Couples, Couples and money, Financial planning for millennials, Marriage and financial equity, Love and money podcast, Navigating money and relationships, Douglas and Heather Boneparth

Mentions:

Website: https://www.readthejointaccount.com/

Email: themergebook@gmail.com

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Healthy Love & Money is a personal podcast meant for education and entertainment. It should not be taken as financial advice and is not prescriptive of your financial situation.

Ed interviews Justin and Hailey Brown-Woods, the dynamic couple behind the 'Price of Avocado Toast' podcast and financial coaching business. The Brown-Woods share their personal journey from receiving a $600,000 wrongful death settlement to blowing through the money and accruing $220,000 in debt, and how they turned their financial hardships into a mission to help others. They discuss the origins of their podcast name, the impact of their similar humble upbringings, and their transformation through effective communication about money. They also delve into their unique approaches to financial counseling and education, emphasizing the importance of dreaming big, staying present, and de-stigmatizing money conversations. The episode provides valuable insights into how couples can navigate financial struggles, improve their financial health, and build a strong, supportive relationship.

Key Timestamps:

(00:00) - The Origin of 'Price of Avocado Toast'

(04:17) - The Pumpkin Muffin Story

(05:39) - Blowing Through $600,000

(10:15) - Destigmatizing Money Conversations

(14:38) - Healthy Communication Practices

(19:55) - Managing Sensitivity in Relationships

(24:16) - Redefining Masculinity and Vulnerability

(29:07) - Supporting Each Other's Growth

(34:28) - Evolving Financial Coaching Practices

(37:03) - Balancing Dreams and Reality

Key Topics Discussed:

Healthy Love and Money, Ed Coambs, Charlotte North Carolina, Financial Therapy, Couples Financial Planning, Financial Intimacy, Money and Relationships, Financial Communication for Couples, Attachment Styles and Money, Financial Conflict Resolution, Therapy-Informed Financial Planning, Financial Trauma Healing, Financial Wellness for Couples

Mentions:

Website: https://www.priceofavocadotoast.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/priceofavocadotoast

Mentions: Happy Money Happy Life by Jason Vitug

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Healthy Love & Money is a personal podcast meant for education and entertainment. It should not be taken as financial advice and is not prescriptive of your financial situation.

Ed sits down with Blake Brewer, founder of Legacy Letter, to explore how one handwritten letter can change families for generations. Blake shares the heartbreaking story of losing his father at 19, and the unexpected gift his father left behind that transformed his grief into purpose. Together, they unpack why love, apology, belief, and identity are the true foundations of healthy relationships. This conversation is both a call to action and a reminder that the words we leave behind may matter more than anything we pass on financially.

Key Takeaways:

• How can intentional words and written legacy shape a child’s identity for life?

• Why are apology, love, and belief essential foundations for healing and strengthening family relationships?

• What responsibility do parents have to pass on emotional wisdom—not just financial or material inheritance?

Key Timestamps:

(00:00) - How Blake Lost His Father

(09:00) - Letter That Healed

(12:00) - Grief And Growth

(15:00) - Why Words Matter

(18:00) - Parenting With Intention

(21:00) - Apology In Parenting

(24:00) - Affirming Child Identity

(27:00) - Love, Pride, Belief

(30:00) - Sharing Meaningful Memories

(33:00) - Advice That Shapes Life

(36:00) - Writing From The Heart

(39:00) - Legacy Beyond Death

Key Topics Discussed:

Healthy Love and Money, Ed Coambs, Charlotte North Carolina, Financial Therapy, Couples Financial Planning, Financial Intimacy, Money and Relationships, Financial Communication for Couples, Attachment Styles and Money, Financial Conflict Resolution, Therapy-Informed Financial Planning, Financial Trauma Healing, Financial Wellness for Couples, Legacy Letter, Parent Child Relationships, Emotional Inheritance, Healing Family Relationships, Meaningful Parenting Conversations

Mentions:

Website: https://www.legacyletter.com

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/blakecbrewer/

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Healthy Love & Money is a personal podcast meant for education and entertainment. It should not be taken as financial advice and is not prescriptive of your financial situation.

Ed and researcher and financial planner Mikel Van Clelve, unpack the hidden emotional dynamics, common misconceptions, legal pitfalls, and the critical conversations couples need before making long-term decisions. Whether you’re part of a blended family or simply connected to one through parents, children, or extended relatives, this episode gives you the clarity, language, and confidence to handle even the most complex family-money situations. Mikel’s work is transforming how blended families navigate money, communication, and legacy-building, so you’ll walk away with practical steps, deeper understanding, and the tools to protect the people you love most.

Key Takeaways:

• What risks do couples face when they avoid discussing inheritance, assets, and fairness?

• How can financial therapy and professional guidance help families create clearer, more equitable plans?

• How can blended families better navigate the emotional and financial complexities of estate planning?

Key Timestamps:

(00:00) – Blended Family Landscape

(03:00) – Estate Planning Foundations

(06:00) – Unintentional Disinheritance Risks

(09:00) – Blended Families Statistics

(12:00) – What Are Emotional Barriers?

(15:00) – Kinship Theory Insight

(18:00) – Fairness Versus Equality

(21:00) – Stepchild Support Dynamics

(24:00) – Family Systems Complexity

(27:00) – Emotional Avoidance Costs

(30:00) – Negotiation Within Marriage

Key Topics Discussed:

Healthy Love and Money, Ed Coambs, Charlotte North Carolina, Financial Therapy, Couples Financial Planning, Financial Intimacy, Money and Relationships, Financial Communication for Couples, Attachment Styles and Money, Financial Conflict Resolution, Therapy-Informed Financial Planning, Financial Trauma Healing, Financial Wellness for Couples, Blended Family Estate Planning, Stepfamily Financial Challenges, Unintentional Disinheritance, Financial Therapy Support, Legacy And Inheritance Planning

Mentions:

Website: https://www.myweb.ttu.edu/mvanclev/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mikel-van-cleve

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Healthy Love & Money is a personal podcast meant for education and entertainment. It should not be taken as financial advice and is not prescriptive of your financial situation.

Dr. Daniel Crosby, psychologist, author, and Chief Behavioral Officer at Orion Financial joins Ed to explore the deeper meaning behind how we earn, spend, save, and relate to wealth. Drawing from his new book The Soul of Wealth, Daniel shares stories from his personal life, his faith background, and his years studying human behavior to reveal why our relationship with money is far more emotional than logical. Together, he and Ed unpack how childhood narratives shape our financial beliefs, why couples collide over money even when the numbers are fine, and how personal growth can dramatically increase both life satisfaction and earning potential. This episode goes beyond budgets and bank accounts to ask the profound questions of what wealth is for and how it can support a more meaningful life. Prepare for an honest, funny, and deeply human conversation about money, identity, and purpose.

Key Takeaways:

• How do childhood experiences and family beliefs shape the way we relate to money as adults?

• Why do couples clash over financial decisions even when they share the same goals?

• What role does personal growth and emotional awareness play in building true, sustainable wealth?

Key Timestamps:

(00:00) – Health Scare Perspective Shift

(09:00) – Eating Disorders Background Connection

(12:00) – Understanding Money Stories

(15:00) – Budgets Reveal Priorities

(18:00) – Couples’ Spending Conflicts

(21:00) – Navigating Money Differences

(24:00) – Anxiety’s Role In Finances

(27:00) – Gender And Money Expectations

(30:00) – Identity Beyond Net Worth

(33:00) – Therapy Boosts Earnings

(36:00) – Emotional Skills And Wealth

Key Topics Discussed:

Healthy Love and Money, Ed Coambs, Charlotte North Carolina, Financial Therapy, Couples Financial Planning, Financial Intimacy, Money and Relationships, Financial Communication for Couples, Attachment Styles and Money, Financial Conflict Resolution, Therapy-Informed Financial Planning, Financial Trauma Healing, Financial Wellness for Couples, Financial Psychology, Money And Meaning, Behavioral Finance Insights, Wealth And Well-Being, Couples And Money Dynamics

Mentions:

Website: https://orion.com/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/danielcrosby

Mentions: The Soul of Wealth Book

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Healthy Love & Money is a personal podcast meant for education and entertainment. It should not be taken as financial advice and is not prescriptive of your financial situation.

Ed chats with psychotherapist and author Tamala Floyd and financial wellness leader Saundra Davis for an eye-opening conversation at the intersection of healing, money, and identity. Together, they explore how Internal Family Systems (IFS) helps people unlock deep emotional transformation, why legacy burdens shape our financial behaviors, and how ancestral wisdom can accelerate healing across generations. Through honest stories, vulnerable insights, and grounded guidance, this episode highlights the truth that money is never just about numbers, it’s about the parts of ourselves we’ve protected, the wounds we’ve carried, and the generations that came before us. Listeners will walk away with a new understanding of wholeness, the power of self-leadership, and the emotional roots underlying our financial lives.

Key Takeaways:

• How do internal parts and protectors shape the way we approach money and emotional healing?

• In what ways do legacy burdens and ancestral patterns influence financial behavior across generations?

• How can therapy, self-leadership, and mindful awareness create lasting change in both personal and financial well-being?

Key Timestamps:

(00:00) - Childhood Creativity Foundations

(06:00) - Therapy Journey Beginnings

(09:00) - IFS Core Principles

(12:00) - Legacy Burdens Explained

(15:00) - Generational Money Patterns

(18:00) - Emotional Money Conflicts

(21:00) - Wealth Fear Insights

(24:00) - Therapy and Money

(27:00) - Protectors And Wounds

(30:00) - Trauma Healing

(39:00) - Rupture Repair Process

Key Topics Discussed:

Healthy Love and Money, Ed Coambs, Charlotte North Carolina, Financial Therapy, Couples Financial Planning, Financial Intimacy, Money and Relationships, Financial Communication for Couples, Attachment Styles and Money, Financial Conflict Resolution, Therapy-Informed Financial Planning, Financial Trauma Healing, Financial Wellness for Couples, Internal Family Systems, Financial Healing, Legacy Burdens, Ancestral Wisdom, Emotional Money Patterns

Mentions:

Tamala’s Website: https://www.tamalafloyd.com/

Tamala’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tamala-floyd-lcsw-2ba1a837

Saundra’s Website: https://www.sagefinancialsolutions.org/

Saundra’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/saundradavis

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Healthy Love & Money is a personal podcast meant for education and entertainment. It should not be taken as financial advice and is not prescriptive of your financial situation.

Ed sits down with financial therapist Haylie Castillo, whose powerful story bridges finance, trauma healing, and liberation work. Haylie opens up about her path from corporate finance to financial therapy, revealing how deconstructing her faith, motherhood, and her relationship with power shaped her approach to money and meaning. Together, Ed and Haylie unpack how systems, pleasure, and play influence our money stories, and how embracing joy can be a radical act of financial freedom.

Key Takeaways:

• What role does pleasure play in reshaping our relationship with money?

• How can decolonizing and liberation-centered therapy transform financial healing?

• Why is storytelling such a powerful tool for financial and emotional growth?

Key Timestamps:

(00:00) - MLM And Disempowerment

(10:00) - Navigating Corporate Finance

(12:00) - Motherhood And Awakening

(17:00) - Discovering Financial Therapy

(22:00) - Taking Up Space

(25:00) - Storytelling And Self-Healing

(28:00) - Pleasure And Play With Money

(34:00) - Parallels With Sex And Food

(39:00) - Healing Through Relationship

(41:00) - Ritual And Community

Key Topics Discussed:

Healthy Love and Money, Ed Coambs, Charlotte North Carolina, Financial Therapy, Couples Financial Planning, Financial Intimacy, Money and Relationships, Financial Communication for Couples, Attachment Styles and Money, Financial Conflict Resolution, Therapy-Informed Financial Planning, Financial Trauma Healing, Financial Wellness for Couples, Financial Therapy, Money And Trauma, Liberation-Centered Healing, Pleasure And Money, Decolonizing Wealth

Mentions:

Website: https://www.castillofinancialtherapy.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/c_financial_therapy/

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Healthy Love & Money is a personal podcast meant for education and entertainment. It should not be taken as financial advice and is not prescriptive of your financial situation.

What if the missing link in your healing journey was trauma, and no one ever told you? In this eye-opening episode, Ed Coambs sits down with renowned trauma therapist Lou Lebentz for a deeply moving and transformative conversation. Together, they uncover the hidden layers of trauma that shape our lives, from the subtle emotional imprints of childhood to intergenerational pain and societal systems of shame and scarcity. Lou shares her personal journey through breakdown, financial extremes, and profound healing, leading to the creation of her pioneering program, The Voyage. This episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking to understand how unresolved trauma shows up in relationships, mental health, and even your financial behaviors and how true healing is not just possible, but your birthright.

Key Takeaways:

• How can healing through programs like The Voyage help individuals move from survival to thriving?

• What role do our childhood experiences and inherited beliefs play in how we relate to money and self-worth?

• How does trauma—beyond just major events—shape our emotional, relational, and financial lives?

Key Timestamps:

(00:00) - Discovering trauma in addiction therapy settings

(05:00) - Four aspects of trauma explained

(08:30) - How classism and societal systems create trauma

(10:00) - Internalizing parental fears and money beliefs

(13:00) - The importance of addressing past, present, and future in healing

(16:00) - The role of therapy and coaching in trauma recovery

(19:00) - Understanding parts work: adult, wounded, and adapted selves

(23:00) - How childhood money experiences shape financial behaviors

(37:00) - Integrating soul, vision, and purpose in healing

(38:00) - Thriving after trauma as a birthright

Key Topics Discussed:

Healthy Love and Money, Ed Coambs, Charlotte North Carolina, Financial Therapy, Couples Financial Planning, Financial Intimacy, Money and Relationships, Financial Communication for Couples, Attachment Styles and Money, Financial Conflict Resolution, Therapy-Informed Financial Planning, Financial Trauma Healing, Financial Wellness for Couples, Trauma recovery program, Inner child healing, Financial trauma therapy, Parts work psychology, Emotional healing journey

Mentions:

Website: https://loulebentz.com/

LinkedIn: https://uk.linkedin.com/in/loulebentz

Mentions: The Voyage

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Healthy Love & Money is a personal podcast meant for education and entertainment. It should not be taken as financial advice and is not prescriptive of your financial situation.