From utero and into infancy, babies recognize their mother as being essentially one with them. So, being placed in their father's arms is in fact their first introduction to the "other," the outside world. The father will continue this crucial role as mediator and representative to the outside world throughout a boy's childhood.

With decades of experience and dozens of personal anecdotes, Upper School Head Michael Moynihan addressed the 2025 Fatherhood Conference to share how a father's parenting outlook now will shape his son's vocational and professional readiness to enter the outside world as an adult.

00:05:47 Mr. Moynihan's background
00:08:17 Fathers represent the outside world
00:12:21 Model God's loving fatherhood
00:17:02 Awaken the child's own agency
00:24:52 Partner with your wife to build this home culture

The Talk and Beyond: Raising Children in a Confused Culture by Michael Moynihan

Decisive Parenting: Forming Authentic Freedom in Your Children by Michael Moynihan

The Father and His Family: A Guidebook for Aspiring, New, and Experienced Fathers by Michael Moynihan

You're the Man for the Job: The Vocation of Fatherhood featuring Alvaro de Vicente

Our mission is to assist parents in the intellectual, moral, physical, and spiritual formation of their sons…

At The Heights, we repeat these words often, including a paraphrase at the beginning of every HeightsCast episode. But what constitutes intellectual formation? What does educating the intellect look like? Co-founder of the Hillbilly Thomists and Rector Magnificus at the Pontifical University of St. Thomas in Rome, Fr. Thomas Joseph White, joins us for a deep-dive into the rich Catholic understanding of intellectus, habitus, ratio, and what it means to "form" these God-given faculties.

1:35 Intellectus: to read into reality

7:41 Modern challenges to intellectus

13:35 Habitus: a stable disposition towards excellence

17:59 Modern challenges to habitus

21:22 Ratio vs. intellectus

27:07 Intuitive "sight" as a function of intellect

32:27 Developing clear "sight" in the young

34:35 Forming the heart alongside intellect

38:47 Whether the heart and intellect fully integrate

44:01 Beauty reveals the life of the mind to itself

The Hillbilly Thomists, co-founded by Fr. Thomas Joseph White

Contemplation and the Cross: A Catholic Introduction to the Spiritual Life by Fr. Thomas Joseph White

Wisdom in the Face of Modernity by Fr. Thomas Joseph White

Full catalog of books by Fr. Thomas Joseph White

The Regensburg Address by Pope Benedict XVI

Beauty for Truth's Sake: On the Re-enchantment of Education by Stratford Caldecott

Only the Lover Sings: Art and Contemplation by Josef Pieper

Why Beauty Matters: The Postmodern Pressure on Our Interior Life featuring Dr. Jason Baxter

Teaching Sovereign Knowers, essay series by Michael Moynihan

"Fact or Opinion?": Roots of Relativism in an Ethical Dilemma by Michael Moynihan

The Art of Teaching Boys Conference at The Heights School (May 6-8, 2026)

"Whoever wishes to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for my sake will find it" (Matt. 16:25).

This week we're joined by Fr. Carter Griffin, rector of the St. John Paul II Seminary in the Archdiocese of Washington, and Alvaro de Vicente, headmaster of The Heights School, to examine "discernment." It's become a Catholic buzzword, applied (or sometimes, perhaps, misapplied) to a number of life situations. Here, Fr. Carter and Alvaro discuss the methods and limits of vocational discernment—and the moral courage of commitment.

3:45 Christian discernment

6:09 Misuses of the word "discernment"

9:39 Whether we can wrongly discern vocation

14:46 Choice paralysis

20:25 Submit to the process

25:48 Dating and marriage

29:55 Mentors and spiritual directors

33:21 Principles for discerning well

39:38 "Throw your life away"?!

46:17 The need for prayer

52:36 Crisis of vocations or crisis of faith?

59:59 Church choice and church-hopping

"The Catholic Church Has a Manpower Problem", 22 September 2025, WSJ

2026 Men's Discernment Retreat for the Archdiocese of Washington

2026 Men's Discernment Retreat for the Diocese of Arlington

Forming Families, Forming Saints by Fr. Carter Griffin

Forming Fathers: Seminary Wisdom for Every Priest by Fr. Carter Griffin

Cross-Examined: Catholic Responses to the World's Questions by Fr. Carter Griffin

Why Celibacy? Reclaiming the Fatherhood of the Priest by Fr. Carter Griffin

You're the Man for the Job: The Vocation of Fatherhood featuring Alvaro de Vicente

Fostering Vocations in a Digital Age featuring Fr. Carter Griffin

The Art of Teaching Boys Conference at The Heights School (May 6-8, 2026)