Holiday Joy vs. Holiday Blues: How to Show Up Either Way
Navigating Friendsgiving, Family Gatherings & Feelings

Episode Summary:In this vibrant, honest, and hilariously real episode of Not Vanilla, your favorite mother–daughter duo, Roxana and Dominique, explore the emotional mix that comes with Friendsgiving and the full “Thank-mas” holiday season.

Whether you’re thriving and full of joy, or moving through grief, burnout, and holiday blues, this episode breaks down how to show up authentically without dimming your light or overwhelming your spirit. From shifting family traditions to inner-child healing, boundaries, burnout, and hosting etiquette, this conversation gets real, gets spicy, and stays full of heart.

Real conversations. Real emotions. A little spice. A whole lot of love. 💛

Key Takeaways

• Holiday pressure is real: emotions, expectations, and shifting family dynamics collide this time of year
• Ground your joy without dimming yourself
• Avoid energy vamping; bring calm, warm presence
• Acknowledge people’s feelings without trying to fix them
• Invite don’t pressure: let people participate at their own pace
• Showing up when you don’t feel like it is valid
• Three show-up styles:

Full Show-Up, Soft Show-Up, Love You From a Distance
• Create a personal plan: know your limits and exit strategy
• Protect your inner child and honor meaningful traditions
• Hosting matters: set the vibe and create safe spaces
• Presence is more important than performance

Resources Mentioned

• Hulu series “Unprisoned”
• Holiday traditions and family rituals
• Friendsgiving and hosting ideas
• Emotional boundaries and self-awareness

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