What most women call overwhelm or anxiety is often something deeper: emotional burnout — the kind that happens when you’ve spent years trying to tolerate your emotions instead of learning how to expand your capacity for them.

In today’s episode, I’m sharing a private training from the podcast I create exclusively for my clients. We’re breaking down the real difference between emotional tolerance (the rigid, finite jar that eventually cracks) and emotional capacity (the flexible container you can actually grow).

You’ll learn:

• Why simply “tolerating” your emotions exhausts you
• The glass-jar metaphor that explains emotional burnout perfectly
• What true emotional capacity looks like — and why it’s a skill, not a personality trait
• How nervous system regulation expands your capacity in real time
• The 4 pillars of capacity-building (regulation, nature, pleasure, and thought quality)
• How to stop outsourcing control and reclaim it in a way that’s actually sustainable
• Simple daily practices to grow your internal bandwidth so you don’t get knocked over by life

If you’ve felt like you’re at the end of your rope — irritated, overstimulated, or one small thing away from snapping — this episode will help you understand why… and what to do next.

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The holidays bring everything — family dynamics, overwhelm, expectations, pressure — and underneath it all is the fear of speaking up in a way that feels good. In this episode, we break down what a boundary actually is, why it feels so hard to set one, and how fear and nervous system dysregulation keep you stuck in people-pleasing or emotional shutdown.

You’ll learn how to identify fear in your body, regulate before you respond, and create clean, grounded boundaries that support the life you want. This is the episode to listen to if you want to stop abandoning yourself and start honoring what works for you.

• What a boundary really is (and what it’s not)
• Why fear makes speaking up feel impossible
• How fight/flight/freeze/fawn sabotage your voice
• How to regulate before having brave conversations
• Why self-worth must be chosen first

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If you’ve spent your whole life trying to “think more positively,” “change your mindset,” or “just stop spiraling,” this episode is going to shift everything for you.

Because here’s the truth most sensitive women never get taught:

Thoughts are not facts.

They never have been.

But when your nervous system is dysregulated (Part 1) and your emotions feel too big to hold (Part 2), your brain grabs the easiest, most familiar thought it can find — even if that thought hurts you.

This episode breaks down why your overthinking isn’t caused by the thoughts themselves…

It’s caused by the beliefs you’ve practiced for years, the ones that have become so familiar your brain mistakes them for truth.

You’ll learn how beliefs become well-worn paths in the brain, why new thoughts feel impossible at first, and how to practice thinking in a way that creates safety, self-trust, and actual change. This is the step that allows everything you learned in Part 1 and Part 2 to finally land.

This is the third and final part of my overthinking series — and it’s where the transformation really locks in.

• Why thoughts feel true (even when they aren’t)
• The real reason you can’t access helpful thoughts when your emotions are at a 9 or 10
• How practiced beliefs become mental “paths” your brain walks automatically
• Why your brain prefers painful familiarity over unfamiliar possibility
• What it actually takes to create a new belief you can rely on
• How radical self-love, compassion, and hope build the thoughts that change your life
• Why you keep ending up in the same emotional patterns even when you try to “think differently”
• A simple, repeatable three-step system to create thoughts that serve you instead of sabotage you
• How changing your thoughts becomes effortless when your nervous system and emotions are balanced

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