Trying to change your life but still feeling stuck in old patterns?

In this episode, Anya explains how to stop trying to rewrite yourself and instead let go of the past version of you that you’ve outgrown. This mindset shift for personal growth will help you release survival habits, heal burnout, and step into a new version of yourself with clarity and ease.

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You can’t become who you’re meant to be while carrying who you had to be.

1️⃣ Release Enables Growth — You cannot become a new version of yourself while holding onto an identity built for survival. Growth begins when you allow the old version to rest.

2️⃣ Honor, Don’t Erase — Letting go of the past doesn’t mean rejecting who you were; it means honoring her role and releasing her responsibility.

3️⃣ Burnout Is an Identity Signal — Exhaustion often comes from carrying outdated coping mechanisms into a season that requires something new.

4️⃣ Transformation Requires Surrender — Real personal growth doesn’t come from trying harder, but from releasing control and allowing change from within.

5️⃣ Space Creates Becoming — When you stop hustling for worth and allow space, clarity emerges and the next version of you can take shape.

00:00 What If You Gave Your Past Self a Funeral

00:36 Why This Isn’t About Loss — It’s About Completion

01:12 The Truth About Identity and Growth

01:58 Survival Versions vs. Becoming Who You Are

02:44 Honoring the Version of You That Got You Here

03:34 Why Clinging to Your Old Self Creates Burnout

04:18 Letting Go Without Guilt or Fear

05:02 She Becomes the Foundation, Not the Driver

05:38 Let Her Rest — Making Space for Who You’re Becoming

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