What does it actually look like to serve your friends—without burning yourself out or building quiet resentment?

In this episode, we’re having an honest, real-life conversation about service in friendship—what it looks like in busy seasons of motherhood, mental health struggles, and full calendars. Because showing up for your friends shouldn’t come at the cost of your own well-being.

We talk about how to support and serve your friends in ways that are sustainable, how to be honest about your capacity, and why keeping a “scorecard” of who does what will quietly destroy even the strongest friendships.

In this episode, we cover:

• What healthy service in friendship really looks like

• How to show up without overextending or people-pleasing

• Being honest about your needs and limitations

• How to ask your friends how they need support (instead of assuming)

• Giving grace when there’s been silence, distance, or missed seasons

• How to say no to friends while still offering meaningful support

• Why healthy friendships don’t keep score

Whether you’re feeling stretched thin, navigating a distant friendship, or learning how to show up better without resentment, this episode will help you rethink what it means to be a supportive, grace-filled friend.

If this episode resonated, share it with a friend you want to grow with—not keep score with. Be sure to subscribe, leave a review, and send us a message on Instagram letting us know what part of friendship feels hardest in this season.

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