Welcome to Episode One of WTF Just Happened — Life Is Messy, Let’s Talk About It, the unfiltered podcast for women in midlife, grief, healing, reinvention, and the wild ride of becoming who you are now. If you’ve ever looked around and thought, “What the F just happened to my life?”—you’re in the right place.

In this premiere episode, Sada and Hilary introduce themselves, their stories, and the real-life, unglossed-over messiness that inspired this podcast. From widowhood to divorce, perimenopause to parenting adult kids, facelifts to fixing your credit score, this show is about naming the truth, laughing through the chaos, and building a community of women who refuse to pretend everything is perfect.

In today’s episode we explore:

💛 Who we are:
— Sada: widow, mom of two adult daughters, joy mentor, sunshine-seeker, ocean lover, grief guide, and midlife truth-teller.
— Hilary: alum of the longest starter marriage ever (16 years), blended-family mom of five, Amazon addict, slightly unhinged, animal rescuer, and professional Instagram cleaning-reel scroller.

💛 Why we created this podcast — because midlife is wild, grief is heavy, marriage is complex, divorce is brutal, and pretending everything is “fine” is exhausting.

💛 The messy middle — the phase of life where your kids are grown, your marriage may be shifting, your body is changing, and you’re figuring out who the hell you are now.

💛 Grief, widowhood & healing — how Sada is rebuilding life after losing her husband, the fog of the first year, and the power of connection.

💛 Divorce, survival & starting over — Hilary’s raw journey from restraining orders to rebuilding her life, repairing her credit, and learning to thrive in her second marriage.

💛 Glow-ups, facelifts & fixing what bothers you — why aesthetics are never about shame and always about agency.

💛 Motherhood, identity & reinvention — navigating midlife shifts, parenting in chaos, and rediscovering hobbies, dreams, and joy.

💛 Real talk about Instagram vs. reality — the highlight reels, the filters, the pressure, and the truth behind the screens.

This is NOT a podcast about perfection. It’s a podcast about survival, humor, messy healing, midlife rebirth, and the community of women who get it.

Grab a cocktail, mocktail, or your favorite emotionally supportive snack and settle in — you’re home.

Thank you for joining us for another real, raw, and healing conversation on WTF Just Happened — Life Is Messy.

Connect with us on the socials:

🎙 Podcast: @wtf.lifeismessy

💛 Hilary: @hilary.mode

💛 Sada: @simplysadajames

If you’re walking through grief, midlife transitions, healing, or the messy middle and want deeper support, Sada offers RISE, an intimate 8-week mentorship container for women ready to feel held, seen, supported, and less alone. It’s for anyone craving community, clarity, connection, and a softer place to land through the hard.

We love you for being here. Subscribe, share, and stay messy with us. 💛

Disclaimer:
This podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. The views shared are based on personal experience and do not constitute medical, legal, financial, or professional advice. Always consult a qualified professional regarding your individual situation. Guest opinions are their own and do not necessarily reflect the views of the hosts or this podcast.