Trigger Warning: This episode contains discussion of sudden loss, widowhood, and grief.

In this unforgettable episode of WTF Just Happened — Life Is Messy, Let’s Talk About It, Sada shares her full, unfiltered story of love, marriage, sudden loss, and the moment her life split into before and after.

This is not just a story about losing a husband.
It’s a story about growing up together, building a life side-by-side, surviving the messy middle of marriage, and then losing everything in a single, quiet moment — thousands of miles from home.

Sada takes us back to meeting Kris at 14 years old, growing up together, raising two daughters, navigating the ups and downs of a decades-long marriage, relocating states, rebuilding connection, and finally arriving at the most beautiful, aligned season of their relationship — just weeks before his sudden death from a brain aneurysm while on vacation in Hawaii.

With honesty, tenderness, and remarkable clarity, Sada walks us through:

• Loving someone for over half your life
• Marriage, miscommunication, and growing up together
• Moving states, identity loss, and reinvention
• The illusion that “the next thing” will finally make you happy
• The night everything changed — sudden loss in Hawaii
• Performing CPR on the person you love most
• Navigating shock, trauma, and the hours that follow
• Sitting bedside in the ICU while waiting for answers
• Organ donation, honor walks, and saving other lives
• Flying home without your spouse
• Grief brain, nervous system shock, and survival mode
• Parenting through profound loss
• Holding joy and devastation at the same time
• Choosing meaning, gratitude, and purpose after loss

This episode also explores the reality of widowhood — not as a linear journey, but as a constant balancing act between grief and joy. Sada speaks candidly about PTSD, brain fog, gratitude, mentorship, community, and why she refuses to live the rest of her life numb or disconnected from beauty, travel, laughter, and love.

If you’ve ever:
• Lost a spouse or partner
• Experienced sudden or traumatic loss
• Wondered how people survive the unimaginable
• Felt your old self disappear overnight
• Tried to hold joy and grief in the same breath
• Needed proof that life can still be meaningful after devastation

This episode will meet you exactly where you are.

It’s raw.
It’s sacred.
And it’s a reminder that even after everything breaks — life can still be lived fully, intentionally, and with heart.

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Thank you for joining us for another real, raw, and healing conversation on WTF Just Happened — Life Is Messy.

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If you’re walking through grief, midlife transitions, healing, or the messy middle and want deeper support, Sada offers RISE, an intimate 8-week mentorship container for women ready to feel held, seen, supported, and less alone. It’s for anyone craving community, clarity, connection, and a softer place to land through the hard.

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This podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. The views shared are based on personal experience and do not constitute medical, legal, financial, or professional advice. Always consult a qualified professional regarding your individual situation. Guest opinions are their own and do not necessarily reflect the views of the hosts or this podcast.