Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with certified holistic sex educator and Beyond the Beez founder Elizabeth Ashford for a deeply practical, funny, and no-BS conversation about talking during sex—and why silence, shame, and faking orgasms are some of the biggest barriers to good sex. From dirty talk and giving direction to toys, lube, boundaries, aftercare, and post-sex debriefs, this episode is a masterclass in how communication transforms intimacy, pleasure, and connection.

In this episode, Alexa and Elizabeth discuss:

• Why silence during sex creates insecurity and confusion
• Dirty talk vs simply communicating during sex
• Using your voice for pleasure, direction, and curiosity
• Why most people struggle to talk during sex
• Cultural shame, lack of sex education, and sexual confidence
• Finding your sexual voice and understanding your desires
• Why dirty talk looks different for everyone
• Trauma, shame, BDSM experience, and comfort levels with dirty talk
• Blending dirty talk with practical direction
• Giving feedback without killing the mood
• Starting with positive reinforcement before giving direction
• How safety makes sexual communication easier
• How faking orgasms reinforces bad sex habits
• Why honesty leads to better long-term sex
• The orgasm gap and why penetration alone isn’t enough
• Why partners need to genuinely care about your pleasure
• Oral sex as a baseline expectation, not a bonus
• “Non-eaters” as a dealbreaker
• Curiosity as the foundation of good sex
• Sex worth having vs sex worth avoiding
• Starter phrases for people new to dirty talk
• Keeping dirty talk simple and natural
• Compliments during sex and feeling desired
• Post-sex communication and debriefing
• Aftercare beyond cuddling
• Talking about what worked and what didn’t
• Porn, audio erotica, and learning language for desire
• Erotic menus and yes/maybe/no frameworks
• Borrowing phrases instead of reinventing dirty talk

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Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with pleasure coach, intimacy educator, and professional Dom Sir Marvelous for a conversation about real dominance, fake Doms, pleasure-centered sex, and why communication and patience are the foundation of good BDSM—and good sex in general. This episode breaks down what dominance actually looks like beyond performance, how to spot manipulative dynamics early, and why prioritizing pleasure leads to deeper trust, safety, and better sex.

In this episode, Alexa and Sir Marvelous discuss:

• What actually makes someone a real Dom vs a fake Dom
• Why “pleasure Dom” is often misunderstood and misused
• How fake Doms weaponize submissive language on dating apps
• Manipulation, rushing dynamics, and early red flags
• Patience as the most attractive and essential Dom skill
• Why dominance is about giving and not controlling
• Why dominance doesn’t have to include pain, whips, or chains
• Eating pussy before, during, and after penetration
• Anxiety, erections, and why losing one isn’t a failure
• Strap-ons, toys, and removing ego from penetration
• Asking better questions about pleasure and satisfaction
• The brain as the biggest sex organ
• Post-sex debriefing: what worked, what didn’t, what to do more of
• Advocating for pleasure in Dom/sub dynamics
• Beginner Dom mistakes to avoid
• Why Doms should experience submission or bottoming
• Performative dominance vs authentic presence

Thank you Splash Blanket for keeping me and my guests cozy ◡̈

Sexologist Alexa Andre (@sexwithalexa) gets in bed with musician and content creator Emi Larraud for a raw, funny, and deeply honest conversation about vulnerability, masculinity, oversharing on the internet, and why emotional availability makes men more desirable and better lovers. From shitting yourself on the subway to tips on how to be more vulnerable, this episode explores how being human, communicative, and emotionally present leads to better sex, safer intimacy, and more meaningful connections.

In this episode, Alexa and Emi discuss:

• Masculinity, patriarchy, and how it harms men
• Why toughness, aggression, and emotional suppression are not attractive
• Healthy masculinity and being raised with emotional permission
• Men crying, expressing emotions, and being fully human
• How emotional openness improves dating and sex
• Why men shouldn’t center other men’s approval
• Seeking male validation vs caring what women actually want
• Listening to women instead of guessing what they want
• Being bisexual and how that shaped Emi’s perspective on intimacy
• The hot take: men who refuse to eat pussy are kinda gay
• Why vulnerability filters out the wrong people
• Getting approached more after being emotionally open
• Emotional growth through therapy
• Holding male friends accountable for harmful jokes
• Sex, intimacy, and performance anxiety
• Feeling pressure to perform sexually
• Liking women vs just wanting to fuck them

Thank you, Beducated, for making this exploration possible. Take their quiz to start your journey. https://beducate.me/pd2602-alexa

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