Conflict and differences in marriage don't mean you married the wrong person; they simply mean you're two human beings from different backgrounds working together to build a life. Statistics show "incompatibility" is the leading cause of divorce, but what couples often interpret as irreconcilable differences are actually normal variations in perspective.

• Differences between spouses are normal and healthy, not red flags
• The idea that real love should feel effortless is a damaging myth
• Conflict isn't a sign of incompatibility but an opportunity for growth
• Working through differences builds intimacy and connection
• My husband and I had completely opposite backgrounds regarding travel and dining out
• Early conversations about money and lifestyle were extremely strained
• It took a decade to find solutions that worked for both of us
• We created unique approaches to travel and date nights that blend both perspectives
• Successful couples don't agree on everything - they collaborate creatively
• Turning differences into strengths makes marriages unbreakable

My book "Bad Marriage Advice: Debunking Myths That Will Make You Miserable And What To Do Instead" launches October 1st. Email me at moni@monicatanner.com if you'd like to join the launch team and help get it into as many hands as possible.

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