What if sobriety isn’t the goal—just the doorway? In this conversation, Bill Matthews shares how a DUI sent him to rehab… and into a life of recovery, purpose, and endurance.
We unpack the rituals that actually stick, the language shifts that change outcomes, and why tribe is the multiplier for every transformation.

Expect “aha” moments you can put to work today, whether you’re sober-curious or rebuilding your foundation.

🎧 Highlights:

• Bill’s forced rehab & the truth about “deciding” to get sober
• How community beats willpower every time
• Rituals vs. habits — and the floor/ceiling rule
• Sober October done right
• Endurance, leadership, and daily alignment

🧭 Takeaways:

• Build rituals with a floor and a ceiling—consistency > intensity
• Change your language, change your results
• Engineer daily awareness—train your brain to notice what matters
• Borrow a tribe until it’s yours

📩 Next Steps:

• Subscribe & review to keep the conversation rolling

Chapter Markers / Timestamps

00:00 – The truth about “deciding” to get sober
03:00 – Tribe > Willpower
05:00 – Rituals that last
09:00 – Sober October done right
19:00 – Find your mountain
25:00 – Alignment & leadership

Resources / Links

Books & Ideas Mentioned:

• Meditations — Marcus Aurelius
• The Daily Stoic — Ryan Holiday
• The Five Regrets of the Dying — Bronnie Ware
• Oxygen Advantage — Patrick McKeown
• 12-Step Recovery — “a God of your understanding”

Connect:

• Todd: https://www.instagram.com/toddsquires_/
• Bill: https://www.instagram.com/cornermancoaching/

You can pray for calm seas all day long… sometimes, at some point, you’ve got to start swimming.
In this episode, Todd and Travis dive deep into the power of prayer — where faith meets movement. They unpack how words can breathe life or take it away, why your direction matters more than your speed, and what it looks like to trust God while taking action.

If you’ve been waiting for the “right time” to start something, this conversation will light a fire under you to stop waiting and start swimming.

Highlights & Timestamps

• [00:30] Pray to God, but Swim for Sure — the best analogy for faith in motion.
• [04:00] Walking someone else’s path: how easy it is to chase another person’s dream.
• [07:00] The guitar story — and how one careless comment can silence a dream for years.
• [10:00] “What if the good stuff?” — reframing worry into faith.
• [18:00] Death awareness, fear, and what it means to live while you’re here.
• [26:00] Failure, the reticular activating system, and the Walt Disney mindset.
• [30:00] The takeaway: Courage, faith, and movement are the true ingredients for change.

Next Steps

• Subscribe to InsideThe Outhouse wherever you listen to podcasts — new episodes every week that mix humor, healing, and real talk.
• Reflect: What’s something you’ve been praying for… but not taking action on?
• Share: Send this episode to a friend who needs a reminder to get moving — faith first, stroke second.

Are you stuck in “have to” mode—handing away your power with every excuse? In this episode of InsideThe Outhouse, Todd and Travis unpack the victim mentality and reveal how small shifts in language can flip your perspective from powerless to purposeful. You’ll learn how to spot the subtle traps of self-sabotage and discover tools to reclaim authorship of your life.

This isn’t about blame. It’s about freedom. And it starts with a single word.

Scannable Highlights / Timestamps

• [00:03:00] Why words like “should” and “have to” quietly keep you trapped in victim mode.
• [00:07:00] The powerful reframe: shifting from “he did this to me” → “I did this to me” or “he did this to himself.”
• [00:12:00] The high cost of staying a victim: your peace, your health, and your future.
• [00:16:00] A cancer story that shows how perspective can literally change outcomes.
• [00:22:00] Why walking into a gym—and taking ownership—became the turning point in Todd’s journey.
• [00:27:00] The one-word shift that flips you from victim to creator and changes your life’s story.

What's next?

• 💡 Reflect: This week, notice every time you say “I have to.” Flip it into “I get to” and see how it changes your energy.
• 🎧 Subscribe: Don’t miss the next episode of The Outhouse—where humor, honesty, and healing come together.
• 📩 Share: If this episode made you laugh, think, or squirm a little—send it to a friend who needs to hear it.

Links / Resources

• Related Episode: Why Language Shapes Your Life (Episode 2)
• Connect with Todd → https://www.instagram.com/toddsquires_/
• Scripture mentioned: 1 Peter 4:10 and James 1:22