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  • S2 Ep139: Why is Lilly Singh Drawn to Absence and Drama?

    S2 Ep139: Why is Lilly Singh Drawn to Absence and Drama?
    Oct 1 2025
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    This week, I interview Lilly Singh, actor and history-making content creator, with a new movie RIGHT up our alley: Doin’ It (yes it’s a movie about sex, specifically what happens when a South Asian virgin is assigned to teach sex ed). In this episode Lilly opens up about growing up in a world where emotional chaos felt familiar, why she kept gravitating toward toxic partners who gave her the bare minimum, and how she’s now doing the inner work (therapy, inner child healing, setting boundaries) to protect “little Lilly.”

    In this conversation, we explore how past wounds shaped her romantic choices, and how she’s rewriting that story one day at a time.

    🎬 About Doin’ It

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    You can get tickets and showtimes via AMC Theatres or Fandango. JustWatch+1

    Mark your calendar: starting October 7, Doin’ It will be available to stream.
    For more information visit doinitmovie.com


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    1 h et 3 min
  • S2 Ep138: How Jemele Hill is Fighting Back Against America’s #1 Sex Life Killers

    S2 Ep138: How Jemele Hill is Fighting Back Against America’s #1 Sex Life Killers
    Sep 24 2025
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    What happens when you realize the best sex of your marriage only shows up on vacation?

    Award-winning journalist, author, and podcaster Jemele Hill joins Shan for a conversation about how she uncovered the connection between stress, rest, and desire in her own marriage. She shares why her husband seems to get luckier when they’re away, how that awareness has deepened their relationship, and what it taught her about the balance between ambition, partnership, and intimacy.

    This episode is for my overachievers who struggle to “do it all,” for the happily partnered (or hoping-to-be), and for anyone who’s ever wondered how to bring that vacation spark back home.

    Together, Jemele and Shan break down:
    - Why “having it all” is a myth (and the price women pay for chasing it)
    - How silence around stress robs intimacy, and what to do instead
    - What “fair trade” in the home has to do with mutually desirable sex
    - Practical ways to bring vacation sex energy into everyday life

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    52 min
  • S2 Ep137: The Truth About Getting The Man I THOUGHT I Always Wanted ft. Rosa Acosta

    S2 Ep137: The Truth About Getting The Man I THOUGHT I Always Wanted ft. Rosa Acosta
    Sep 17 2025
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    What does it mean to choose love on your own terms? How do our values, self-worth, and cultural expectations shape the way we show up in relationships?

    In this conversation, entrepreneur, fitness model, and actress Rosa Acosta shares her perspective on redefining what relationships can look like when you step away from society’s scripts. She reflects on leaving behind relationships that don’t serve both partners, questioning inherited scripts about men and women, and what it takes to create intimacy outside of convention.

    This is a dialogue about love as partnership, the courage to release what no longer fits, and the art of rewriting our own story.

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    48 min
  • S2 Ep136: Am I Still Who You Want? Are You Becoming Who I Need? A Relationship Check-In + Free Guide ft Jared Brady

    S2 Ep136: Am I Still Who You Want? Are You Becoming Who I Need? A Relationship Check-In + Free Guide ft Jared Brady
    Sep 10 2025
    Watch what happens when you ask for a performance review in your relationship. Do the hard and awkward questions lead to more intimacy or new resentments?

    In this week’s episode of Lovers, Shan sits down with her husband, Jared Brady, for their quarterly relationship check-in — on camera. Together, they ask the tough but necessary questions: Am I still who you want? Are you becoming who I need?

    This raw and real conversation reveals how couples can stay aligned, navigate change, and keep intimacy thriving over time. Plus, Shan and Jared share a free Relationship Check-In Guide so you and your partner can try this practice at home.

    Whether you’re dating, married, or somewhere in between, this episode is a roadmap for honest communication, vulnerability, and keeping love strong.

    The full conversation of Jared and I lives in my community in the premium tier.

    Resource - Interactive Guide
    https://www.loversbyshan.com/resource/relationship-checkin

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    https://www.youtube.com/@MusicMondayEnjoy

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    56 min
  • S2 Ep135: My Mom Talked to Me About Sex, And It Made Me Rebel ft. Blair Imani

    S2 Ep135: My Mom Talked to Me About Sex, And It Made Me Rebel ft. Blair Imani
    Sep 3 2025
    What does it mean to be ready for motherhood? How do love, faith, and our relationship with our maternal figures shape our parenting?

    In this honest and grounded conversation, educator, author, and activist Blair Imani shares her perspective on family planning, pregnancy loss, and the role of sexual education in real life. She opens up about having conversations with her partner around abortion as part of sexual health, and how her conversion to Islam continues to guide her through questions of timing, family, and faith.

    We also dive into Blair’s relationship with her mom, and how that connection influences her hopes for becoming a parent herself. It’s a conversation about the choices we face when planning for a baby, the loss and love that come with it, and the bigger role faith, values, and family play in planning our future.

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    YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/@blairimani
    Website: https://www.blairimani.com/

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    35 min
  • S2 Ep134: What holds a relationship together when life falls apart ft Dr. Laura Berman

    S2 Ep134: What holds a relationship together when life falls apart ft Dr. Laura Berman
    Aug 27 2025
    What holds a relationship together when life falls apart? Most of us picture the happiest moments when we think about our partner, but what happens when tragedy hits? In this intimate conversation, Dr. Laura Berman shares how she and her husband weathered some of life’s hardest storms together.

    From dating him while she was caring for her young son with cancer, to the unimaginable loss of their son Sammy during the pandemic, Laura takes us inside the moments that tested their love, and the choices that kept them connected.

    Days after the death of their first child together, Sam pulled Laura close and said, “Most couples don’t get through tragedies like this, but we will.”
    It’s a reminder that the strength of a relationship isn’t just built in joy, it’s forged in the fire of what you survive together.

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    49 min
  • S2 Ep133: Inside the Male Fantasy: The Surprising Request Men Keep Paying For ft. The Pink Parley

    S2 Ep133: Inside the Male Fantasy: The Surprising Request Men Keep Paying For ft. The Pink Parley
    Aug 20 2025
    This week on Lovers, Shan sits down with The Pink Parley, a sex worker pulling back the curtain on what men secretly crave but rarely admit—even to their wives. With 98% of her clients being married men who have no desire to leave their marriages, Parley reveals the surprising request that keeps them coming back: ass worship.
    Yes, you read that right. These men don’t just want to “eat the groceries”—they want to be consumed by, suffocated by, and utterly surrounded by the booty. For them, it’s not just an act of pleasure; it’s a full-body, sensory experience.

    Together, Shan and Parley unpack what this hidden desire tells us about:
    - The gap between fantasy and communication in long-term relationships
    - The role of body positivity in sexual confidence and desire
    - How unspoken cravings can complicate fidelity inside marriage


    This episode is provocative, eye-opening, and an important reminder that what we don’t say in the bedroom can be just as impactful as what we do.
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    Instagram: http://instagram.com/thepinkparley
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    52 min
  • S2 Ep132: He Had Multiple Lovers and I Was Good with Just Him. Alyson Stoner On Their Intro To Polyamory

    S2 Ep132: He Had Multiple Lovers and I Was Good with Just Him. Alyson Stoner On Their Intro To Polyamory
    Aug 13 2025
    What does it really mean to build a relationship outside the rules you were taught? Is it still polyamory if only one person has other lovers? And most importantly, what happens when that dynamic actually works for you?

    In this honest and eye-opening conversation, multi-disciplinary entertainer, author, and founder of Movement Genius, Alyson Stoner, shares their experience in their polyamorous journey. We dive into the importance of knowing your own capacity for connection, and Alyson’s go-to communication tool: Frequency, Duration, and Intensity. It’s a simple yet powerful way to check in about how often you connect, for how long, and with what level of emotional depth.

    Even if you’re monogamous, this framework can change the way you relate, helping you set boundaries, stay aligned, and make sure your relationships feel balanced and intentional. Whether you’re curious about polyamory or simply want tools for building healthier, more intentional partnerships, this episode will leave you thinking about love in a whole new way.

    🔗 Follow Alyson
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    TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@alysonstoner
    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@alysonstoner
    📚 Preorder Alyson’s new book Semi-Well-Adjusted Despite Literally Everything (Out August 12, 2025) → https://static.macmillan.com/static/smp/semi-well-adjusted-9781250353498/
    🧠 Learn more about Movement Genius → https://www.movementgenius.com/

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    56 min