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  • S2 Ep125: Kama Sutra Secrets Every Woman Deserves to Know ft. Seema Anand

    S2 Ep125: Kama Sutra Secrets Every Woman Deserves to Know ft. Seema Anand
    Jun 24 2025
    What if the key to better sex isn’t new, but rooted in ancestral knowledge?

    In this episode, Shan sits down with storyteller, mythologist, and ancient erotica expert Seema Anand to explore the rich, and yes, deeply sexy, history of sexual liberation, and why it's never really been a modern idea.

    Together, they unpack what it means to reconnect with your desire through ancestry, ritual, and unapologetic self-expression. We talk sex positions (yes, the Kama Sutra makes an appearance), the role of storytelling in the bedroom, and how wearing your desire, literally, can be one of the boldest, most freeing things you do.

    This conversation even inspired a whole jewelry line. The Kama Collection is a tribute to sensuality, intention, and the art of not hiding your hunger.

    👑 Follow Seema Anand on Instagram: @seemaanandstorytelling

    🔥 Shop the Kama Collection: surmeyi.com/kama
    The waist chain designed for being on top
    The anklet designed for when your legs are in the air
    The necklace designed for yab yum
    The earrings designed for riding
    The choker designed for lotus position
    The spine chain designed for doggystyle

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    54 min
  • S2 Ep124: He Was Never Going To Commit And Here's Why ft. Duckwrth

    S2 Ep124: He Was Never Going To Commit And Here's Why ft. Duckwrth
    Jun 18 2025
    Why do fuckboys… fuckboy? In this episode, we dig into the root of it.

    Just ahead of the release of his new single Permanent Vacation (dropping June 18), genre-bending artist Duckwrth joins Shan for a raw and revealing conversation on why some men detach, ghost, and repeat the cycle. Together, they unpack how fear of commitment, cultural conditioning, and childhood wounds can all contribute to the “Certified Loverboy” identity.

    Duckwrth opens up about his own evolution—from polyamory and emotional avoidance to developing a deeper sense of self-awareness and desire for real connection.

    If you’ve ever dated a fuckboy, been affected by one, or are reflecting on your own relationship patterns, this one’s for you.

    🎧 Watch the video for Permanent Vacation
     💫 Follow Duckwrth on Instagram: @duckwrth
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    57 min
  • S2 Ep123: I Wanted My Man, Not the Sex: Tamsen Fadal on Losing Her Libido At the Worst Possible Time

    S2 Ep123: I Wanted My Man, Not the Sex: Tamsen Fadal on Losing Her Libido At the Worst Possible Time
    Jun 11 2025
    Have you ever wondered where your libido went? In this episode we do a deep dive on sexual slumps, low libido and lack of sexual desire that is frustrating (lack of desire that is not frustrating is not a problem!). We get to have this conversation first from the lens of Emmy-winning journalist Tamsen Fadal whose journey with low libido started in perimenopause and peaked on her honeymoon! From hot flashes and brain fog in the newsroom to bedroom low sex drive, Tamsen has become treasured for pulling back the curtain on midlife like never before. In this honest and empowering episode, menopause advocate Tamsen joins Shan for a conversation about menopause, sex drive and embracing life’s shifts.

    Tamsen shares how a one-word note from her doctor "menopause...?" set off a journey she wasn’t prepared for, and how that diagnosis impacted her body, her identity, and her intimacy. From tough talks with her husband to the quiet shame so many women carry through midlife transitions, Tamsen reminds us that getting older isn’t the end of our sensual selves, it can actually be the beginning.

    In part two of this episode we are giving you a MasterClass on low libido led by three doctors: OBGYN Dr. Mickey, lifestyle medical physician Dr Lean AND Pelvic Floor expert Dr. Janelle Frederick aka the Vagina Rehab Doctor.

    This is a highlight of our hour and fifteen convo if you’d like to listen to the rest go to
    Loversbyshan.com/community

    Follow Tamsen on Instagram
    https://www.instagram.com/tamsenfadal

    Get her book How to Menopause
    Listen to her podcast The Tamsen Show
    Checkout her website https://www.tamsenfadal.com/
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    54 min
  • S2 Ep122: Go Where you are Celebrated, Not Just Tolerated ft. Kennedy Ryan

    S2 Ep122: Go Where you are Celebrated, Not Just Tolerated ft. Kennedy Ryan
    Jun 4 2025
    From fatphobia to racism to ageism and ableism, Kennedy challenges the norms around love, desirability, and who gets to be the “main character.” This one’s for anyone who's ever felt left out of the story — and is ready to take the pen back.

    Bestselling romance author Kennedy Ryan (Before I Let Go, Reel) sits down with Shan to talk about what happens when women stop shrinking themselves to be chosen. From rewriting the stories we’ve inherited about sex, love, and partnership — to questioning why women with standards get labeled as “too much”

    Kennedy opens up about what radical self-worth actually looks like, and why romance should always center women’s pleasure. This episode is a love letter to anyone who’s ever been made to feel like they’re asking for too much. Kennedy shares her love story of being married to Sam for over 20 years while raising their autistic son.

    This episode is sponsored by Lovers by Shan. Join the community today:
    https://www.loversbyshan.com/community


    Follow Kennedy on Instagram
    https://www.instagram.com/kennedyryan1
    Get her latest book https://kennedyryanwrites.com/


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    51 min
  • S2 Ep121: Having the Sex I’d Want My Daughter to Expect with Xosha

    S2 Ep121: Having the Sex I’d Want My Daughter to Expect with Xosha
    May 28 2025
    What kind of stories do we pass down through the way we love?

    Actor and mom Xosha Roquemore sits down with Shan to talk about sex, self-worth, and how becoming a mother shifted everything. It starts with one question she asked that stopped us both: “Have the kind of sex you’d be proud to tell your daughter about.”

    We talk about the early messages she got about sex, how sexual coercion showed up in her past, and why that experience still needs more language. She shares a fun one-night stand story and how even casual sex can feel good when it comes from choice, not pressure.

    Xosha also talks about single motherhood, not as a hardship, but as a privilege. Being a mom has made her sharper, clearer, and way more intentional about who gets access to her.

    This episode is sponsored by Lovers by Shan. Join the community today!
    https://www.loversbyshan.com/community

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    https://www.instagram.com/xoshro/

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    1 h et 5 min
  • S2 Ep120: Jessie Woo Opens Up About Surviving Sexual Assault, Reclaiming Pleasure and Building Healthy Love After Trauma

    S2 Ep120: Jessie Woo Opens Up About Surviving Sexual Assault, Reclaiming Pleasure and Building Healthy Love After Trauma
    May 21 2025

    Reclaiming Intimacy: Jessie Woo’s Journey Beyond Trauma. Comedian and media personality Jessie Woo joins Shan for a powerful conversation about healing, love, and rediscovering sexual joy after surviving sexual assault. Jessie shares her painful story of her assault and her joyful story of her relationship with Jay Allen aka Mr Easter.


    Now Jessie is on the path to reclaiming pleasure and building healthy relationships, offering hope and practical insights for anyone on their own journey of recovery. This episode explores the complexities of intimacy after trauma, the importance of self-love, and why your story doesn’t end with someone else’s actions.


    At the end of the episode, trauma expert Jimanekia Eborn joins us to discuss why sexual assault is a community issue plus she give her hot take on the Diddy trial and some people’s harmful comments about Cassie.


    How do you reclaim love and pleasure after trauma? How do you support survivors in your life?


    We discuss these questions PLUS we have a free resource for sexual assault survivors and those navigating grief called The Grief Registry.


    Content Warning:


    This episode discusses sexual assault and trauma. Listener discretion is advised.


    If you or someone you know is a survivor of sexual assault, resources and support are available. Visit RAINN.org or call 800-656-HOPE.


    Thank You Jessie Woo
    https://www.instagram.com/thejessiewoo/
    Jess a Couple Things Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCmu_OLDekKoPr-TgAY8lYIg



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    1 h et 9 min
  • S2 Ep119: Alessia Cara Opens Up About How Death Anxiety Affects Her Relationships

    S2 Ep119: Alessia Cara Opens Up About How Death Anxiety Affects Her Relationships
    May 14 2025
    Nothing good lasts. Right? In this deeply moving episode, Canadian singer-songwriter Alessia Cara joins Shan Boodram to explore the connection between intimacy, loss, and the fear of death (thanatophobia). Inspired by her song "Subside" from Love and Hyperbole, Alessia opens up about her personal journey with grief and how it shapes the way she loves and creates. Together, they dive into universal questions: How do we hold on to love while letting go of control? How does the fear of loss impact our relationships, intimacy, and even our everyday choices?

    Esther Perel talks about how desire and loss can sit right next to each other. This made me think about how those ideas show up in everyday relationships: the death of connection, the slow fading of intimacy, or the fear that something we’ve built might not last.

    When you zoom out, so much of how we attach, how we love, and even how we have sex is shaped by that deeper fear, what happens if I lose this? Or if I lose you? Or if I lose me in this?

    Thank You Alessia Cara
    http://alessiacara.com
    https://www.instagram.com/alessiasmusic
    https://www.youtube.com/@alessiacara

    Thanks Dame for sponsoring this episode:
    Dame makes products designed to enhance intimacy and connection—whether you’re with a partner or flying solo.
    http://dame.com/shan

    Dame Coupon: SHAN15

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    54 min
  • S2 Ep118: Raven-Symoné and Miranda on How Sleep Divorce Strengthened Their Marriage

    S2 Ep118: Raven-Symoné and Miranda on How Sleep Divorce Strengthened Their Marriage
    May 7 2025
    In this week’s episode, I sit down with Raven-Symoné and her wife Miranda Pearman-Maday for a refreshingly honest conversation about love and what it really takes to sustain a modern relationship. They share why they chose a sleep divorce, and how sleeping separately has deepened their emotional bond, sharpened their communication, and brought them even closer.

    This episode is a masterclass in emotional maturity and intentional partnership, an invitation to rethink what a healthy marriage can look like in a monogamix relationship.

    Thank You Raven & Miranda
    instagram.com/ravensymone
    instagram.com/mirandamaday

    Catch them on Tea Time with Raven & Miranda, a candid, cozy space where they spill everything from relationship realness to spiritual insights. Streaming now on YouTube.
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    54 min