Have you ever been in the middle of a therapy session and found yourself silently (or loudly 😂) begging for advice from your therapist? You lay it all out — the overthinking, the relationship questions, the confusion… and they smile gently and say, “Hmm... what do you think you should do?” 😵‍💫

This is an all too common occurrence that can result in confusing, frustrating, and disappointing experiences with therapy. So on this episode of the Love, Happiness & Success podcast, we’re going to talk about why your therapist won’t give you advice, what therapists can help you with, and what kind of support will give you the guidance you’re looking for.

Traditional therapy isn’t designed to tell you what to do or how to do it, and if you’re someone who wants clarity, structure, and movement forward… it might be time for a different kind of support. If you’re in therapy and wondering why you still feel stuck, this is an episode you won’t want to miss.

Timestamps
00:00 – Why therapists don’t give advice (and why that’s intentional)
05:21 – Understanding different types of therapy
15:19 – What coaches do differently (and why it works)
21:52 – How to know what kind of support you need
24:05 – When therapy helps… and when it doesn’t
25:49 – Coaching vs. therapy: what’s right for your goals?
29:44 – Watch out: unqualified “coaches” are everywhere
33:34 – The honest truth about what will actually help you
34:21 – Finding clarity, confidence, and direction
36:38 – Questions to ask before hiring a therapist or coach
45:02 – Feeling stuck in therapy? Say this to your therapist
48:05 – It’s not you, you just need the right support

If you’ve been nodding along while listening to this and thinking, "YES. I need a plan. I need movement. I need someone who gets it", I created Clarity and Confidence Coaching just for you. To meet you where you are right now, help you find clarity for your path forward, and to guide you step-by-step through transformation.

Right now, you can work with a brilliant therapist trained in coaching psychology for a fraction of what coaching usually costs. You’ll get expert support and a solid framework to actually create meaningful change in your life. And these spots go fast.

👉 Come visit growingself.com/clarity and snag your spot before the cohort fills up.

And hey, if this conversation resonated with you? Come hang out with me on Instagram or YouTube. I share interviews with experts, evidence-based tools that actually work, and lots of free resources to help you create love, happiness and success in your life.

Xoxo
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

P.S. Know someone who’s been stuck in therapy wondering where the heck to go from here? Share this episode with them and support them on their journey.

You might look like you’ve got it all together. You show up. You work hard. You smile, you joke, you say you’re “fine.” But inside? You might be carrying more than anyone knows.

This is especially true for men. You’d never guess it by looking at them, but so many—maybe even someone you love—are silently carrying a weight that feels too heavy to bear. They’re suffering in silence, quietly fighting battles they don’t feel safe talking about. Not because they’re weak—but because the world taught them that real strength means not showing emotion, not needing help, not breaking down.

In this episode of Love, Happiness and Success, I’m joined by Steve Kramer—host of the Certified Mama’s Boy Podcast and the Kramer & Jess Morning Show—for a very important conversation about the epidemic of men suffering in silence. Steve opens up about the private pain he hid behind a public smile, how disconnection and emotional isolation nearly overwhelmed him, and what helped him begin to heal.

We’re shedding light on the emotional experiences so many men keep hidden—because they’ve never been taught how to talk about them, or even how to recognize what they’re feeling. We’ll talk about the real risks of going it alone, the quiet ways people often show they’re not okay even when they say they are, and how men can get the support they need.

If you or someone you care about has ever felt overwhelmed, stuck, or like you’re barely holding it together behind the scenes, this conversation is for you.

Timestamps:
00:00 – When Life Feels Too Heavy: Steve’s Breaking Point
01:46 – Why Are So Many Men Suffering in Silence?
03:34 – Public Smiles, Private Struggles: The Pressure to Perform
04:21 – When It’s All Too Much
08:17 – The Call That Changed Everything
15:39 – Check On Your “Happy” Friends
23:35 – How to Tell When It’s More Serious Than They’re Saying
35:39 – Loneliness vs. Depression: Understanding the Difference
37:23 – Making Friends as an Adult Is Hard—But Necessary
38:53 – Why Men Struggle With Emotional Intimacy
48:06 – What Emotional Intelligence Really Means (and How to Build It)
55:58 – The Personal Work That Keeps Steve Grounded Today
01:00:35 – How to Support a Loved One Who’s Struggling
01:05:50 – Steve’s New Definition of Happiness

If this hit close to home, it’s time to take a breath and check in—with yourself, or maybe with a man you care about. Struggles that stay hidden don't just go away—they weigh you down over time, and it can start to take a toll on your health, your relationships, your life.

You don’t have to figure it out all on your own. There is space for you to be honest. To get support. To be human. There is help that meets you where you are.

If you’re ready to find your way again, come check out my Clarity and Confidence Coaching. You’ll learn how to reconnect with yourself, get unstuck, and create real momentum in your life. Plus, you’ll pay just a fraction of the cost of other coaches. It’s truly such an amazing value.

👉 Get on the list to join. Together, we’ll help you build a life that feels more connected, meaningful, and joyful. I hope you check it out!

Also, I’d love to stay connected! Follow me on Instagram and YouTube for more insight, encouragement, and authentic conversations that support your growth. I’d love to connect with you there. 💛

Xoxo

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
www.growingself.com

P.S. If you know a man in your life that could use some support, send this podcast over to them. It could be exactly what they need to take the first step to get support.

What if the “therapist” you’re pouring your heart out to… isn’t a therapist at all?

In this jaw-dropping episode of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast, I’m joined by investigative journalists Rebecca Ruiz and Lauren Krause to expose the shocking truth behind Seven Cups Therapy and the dark world of therapy fraud—including unlicensed “helpers,” fake reviews, and predatory chatrooms masquerading as support.

This isn’t just about bad advice or unqualified "virtual counselors." It’s about real people being misled, emotionally exploited, and sometimes even preyed upon while they’re at their most vulnerable. We dive into how this happens, how to protect yourself (or someone you care about), and how to tell the difference between a real therapist and a clever imposter.

If you've ever Googled "online therapy" late at night and clicked on what looked like a trustworthy, affordable platform, you NEED to hear this.

Timestamps:

01:43 - What’s Really Going On with Online Therapy Platforms
03:44 - Seven Cups Therapy: Behind the Curtain
05:21 - Why You Shouldn't Trust Those Awards and Reviews
07:52 - "Virtual Counselors" vs. Actual Therapists
10:45 - How to Spot Therapy Fraud in the Wild
12:50 - Ethical Gray Zones in the Coaching Industry
14:56 - Red Flags of Fake Support Services
18:48 - The Danger of Marketing Funnels Masquerading as Help
21:22 - How Fake Therapy Can Harm Real People
23:02 - The Truth About Licensing, Credentials & Oversight
25:48 - Behind the Scenes at Seven Cups: A Reporter’s Story
28:32 - Inappropriate Chatroom Behavior and No Accountability
37:16 - Free Resources to Help You Make Empowered Choices

If you're looking for actual therapy or coaching from trained, licensed professionals—not a chatbot or a mystery stranger in Timbuktu—you can always find help here at Growing Self. We offer real free consultations so you can find a great fit and know exactly what you're signing up for. No pressure, no weird bait-and-switch. Just ethical, expert support that actually works.

👉 Click here to schedule! We’d love to hear from you!

And if this episode struck a nerve, or opened your eyes, or made you yell “WAIT, WHAT?!”—come join me on Instagram or YouTube. I break down big topics like this every week. You’ll get expert insights, practical tools, and compassionate advice to help you create love, happiness and success in your life.

Xoxo

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

www.growingself.com

P.S. If you know someone who needs to hear this episode, share it with them today. Let’s look out for one another. 💛

Ever feel like no matter how hard you try, you’re still not good enough? Like you're outrunning a wolf that lives inside you, always whispering, “You’ve got more to prove”. But what if fear isn’t your enemy? What if it's actually pointing you toward your purpose?

In this deeply transformative conversation with bestselling author Mary Marantz, we explore how the experiences that once made us feel underestimated—and the relentless drive to overachieve—can keep us stuck in cycles of perfectionism, people-pleasing, and fear-fueled productivity.

Mary and I unpack the myths of not-enoughness, talk about the parts of ourselves that try to protect us from failure, and offer a new path forward: one where your gifts and your story become your superpowers. Get ready to look at fear differently, reclaim your confidence, and learn to move forward—not from a place of proving, but from a place of purpose.

Timestamps:
00:00 – Why You're Still Not Enough (Even After All the Achievements)
02:01 – Mary’s Story: From Single-Wide Trailer to Yale Law
03:55 – Why Fear Isn’t the Villain You Think It Is
06:14 – The Power of Owning Your Hard Story
14:15 – When Fear Shows Up, You're Closer Than You Think
18:06 – Creativity, Fear, and the Impostor Trap
24:27 – What To Do With Fear When It Gets Loud
29:23 – Catching Fear in the Act
30:35 – A Totally Different Kind of Coaching
36:01 – Your Inner Critic Isn’t Evil—It's Trying to Protect You
39:24 – Procrastination, Perfectionism, and Productivity Traps
45:55 – Underestimated: When They Miss Your Magic (and You Do, Too)
55:58 – Make Art Anyway: Excellence Without Validation
57:02 – Finding Clarity and Confidence

If you feel like you’re hustling for your worth—trying to prove something to someone, maybe even to yourself—it might be time for a new approach. I created Clarity and Confidence Coaching for exactly this purpose—to support brilliant, driven people just like you in shedding their limiting beliefs, getting clear on their direction, and moving forward into their dream life with confidence.

Clarity and Confidence Coaching is an incredible 8-week journey led by my team of trained therapist-coaches. It’s evidence-based, transformational, and wildly affordable — just $49/session right now as part of our practicum program.

You’ll be guided with depth and care and use life changing coaching strategies to rewrite your inner script and start taking action — from your strengths, not your fear.

👉 Book a free consultation to learn more and reserve your spot: Schedule Here

And hey — let’s stay connected. Follow me on Instagram or subscribe on YouTube for more empowering content to help you grow.

Xoxo

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

www.growingself.com

P.S. Know someone who feels like they’re not enough, even though they’re secretly incredible? Share this with them. You might be the reason they finally see what’s been true all along. 💛

What if the secret to living your best life... is remembering that it won’t last forever?

In this episode of Love, Happiness, and Success, I’m joined by author and mindset coach Karen Salmansohn to explore how the ancient principle of memento mori—remembering that you will die—can radically transform the way you live right now.

Together, we unpack how mortality awareness isn’t morbid at all—it’s deeply motivational. When you get clear on what truly matters, you can stop spinning your wheels and start living for meaning with clarity, courage, and joy.

We’ll explore identity-based habits, reverse-engineering your values, and how writing your own eulogy (yep, really!) can actually help you build a life you’re proud to live. This isn’t about bucket lists or productivity hacks—it’s about being intentional and making sure your time, energy, and love are going exactly where you want them to.

Timestamps:
0:00 – The Problem With To-Do Lists
3:12 – Facing the Funeral Test: What Will They Say About You?
6:38 – Memento Mori: Mortality as a Motivator
15:05 – Identity-Based Habits and Core Values
20:44 – Who Do You Need to Become?
24:18 – A Ripple Effect That Lasts Generations
27:35 – Aristotle’s Happiness Formula
32:10 – The Near-Life Experience We Must Escape
36:42 – Your “To-Die” List vs Your To-Do List
40:55 – Creating Daily Habits That Reflect Who You Want to Be
44:00 – What Happens When You Align With Your Core Values
47:26 – The Marble Ritual: Measuring Time With Intention
53:18 – Monthly Reflections and Making This Summer Count
58:01 – Why Fun and Gratitude Are Core Values Too
1:02:20 – It’s Not About Death—It’s About Life
1:07:08 – How to Start Living for Meaning Now

Don’t wait for a crisis to wake you up. Choose to wake up now. Live for meaning. Be intentional. Remember that life is short, and that’s what makes it beautiful.

And if you’re feeling stuck or overwhelmed by where to begin, I’d love to help. My Clarity and Confidence Coaching was made for moments just like this one. In this powerful work, you’ll reconnect with your deepest values, rediscover your purpose, and learn how to make intentional choices that move you toward the life you truly want.

Whether you’re navigating a big life transition or simply ready to stop running on autopilot, coaching gives you tools, insight, and support to create lasting, meaningful change.

Curious if it’s right for you? You can schedule a free consultation with our team. We’ll talk about where you are, where you want to go, and how clarity and confidence coaching can help you bridge the gap.

Also, come hang out with me on Instagram or YouTube — I’m always sharing tips, inspiration, and behind-the-scenes real talk to help you stay connected to what really matters.

Xoxo

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

www.growingself.com

P.S. If this message resonated with you, think of someone in your life who might need to hear it too. Forward this article to them. Let’s keep the ripple going. That’s living for meaning, too.

Ever looked around and thought, “I hate my life… I don’t want to do this anymore”?

If that’s where you are right now—first of all, I’m giving you a big virtual hug.

Second of all, you’re not broken, you’re not failing, and you’re on the right track. This moment could be the best thing that’s happened to you in a long time. Why? Because that awful, burn-it-all-down energy can also be your launchpad to something way, way better.

In this episode of the Love, Happiness and Success podcast, I’ll walk you through my step-by-step process to help you stop spiraling, get clear, and create a life you’re genuinely excited to wake up to.

It’s time to harness the power of that personal meltdown and turn it into the catalyst for a total life upgrade.

Timestamps:
0:00 – The “I Hate My Life” Moment: Why It’s Actually a Gift
2:36 – Your Inner Flare Gun: Pain as Your Wake-Up Call
5:20 – Step 1: Get Honest About What’s Not Working
8:12 – Step 2: Define What You Do Want (With Real Specifics)
12:47 – Step 3: The Real Reason You’re Stuck—Obstacles and Skills Gaps
17:09 – Step 4: Ask the Power Question That Changes Everything
21:42 – Step 5: Build Your Action Plan (One Small Step at a Time)
25:33 – When It’s More Than Frustration: Signs of Depression & What To Do
30:55 – What Comes Next: From Stuck to Strategy

If you’re sitting there thinking, "Yes. This is exactly where I am and I’m ready to change," I want you to know: you don’t have to figure this out alone.

My Clarity and Confidence Coaching is designed for moments just like this. We’ll help you get unstuck, gain clarity on what you really want, identify obstacles (including sneaky internal ones), and create a plan that actually works.

The best part? You can book a free consultation call right now to save your seat in the next coaching cohort and see if this program is a good fit for your hopes and goals. You’ll get to work with one of our expert therapists trained in coaching psychology at a fraction of the normal cost. Because money should never be the thing that keeps you stuck.

Oh! And don’t forget to follow me on Instagram or subscribe on YouTube. I share interviews with experts, motivational tips, and evidence-based strategies to create love, happiness, and success in your life. I’d love to see you there.

Xoxo

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

www.growingself.com

P.S. Know someone else who's silently thinking “I hate my life”? Be their light today. Share this video with them. You might just change everything. 💫

Let’s be honest: if overthinking were an Olympic sport, I would’ve medaled by age ten. And attempts to stop overthinking often never work or they unintentionally make it worse. You too? Then friend, you’re in the right place.

As a therapist and coach, I’ve worked with thousands of thoughtful, high-achieving, big-hearted humans who are amazing at thinking things through—but sometimes that superpower turns into a mental trap. The good news? You can absolutely re-train your brain to work for you instead of against you.

In this episode, we’ll talk about what overthinking really is, how it’s different from anxiety, and the science-backed skills you can start using today to stop overthinking so you can finally find peace, trust yourself, and move forward with clarity and confidence.

Timestamps:
00:00 – Understanding Overthinking: The Basics
01:23 – When Caring Becomes Overthinking: Personality Traits That Fuel It
03:06 – Is It Anxiety or Just Overthinking? Here’s How to Tell
06:11 – 3 Steps to Stop Overthinking and Rewire Your Brain
09:52 – Overthinking in Relationships: How to Stop the Spiral
14:53 – Mastering Emotional Intelligence to Calm Your Mind
16:43 – When to Get Help: Coaching, Therapy, and Real Solution

If you're not totally sure why you're stuck in your head all the time, my free quiz What’s Holding You Back? is the perfect next step. It’ll help you uncover the mental and emotional patterns that might be fueling your overthinking—and give you personalized insight to start shifting out of it. Think of it like a flashlight for your inner world.

And if you’re ready for real change, you don’t have to figure this out alone. At Growing Self, our team of expert therapists and coaches offers support that’s actually effective. Whether you need therapy to tackle deeper anxiety or evidence-based coaching to build confidence and emotional intelligence, schedule a free consultation with us to get matched with someone who’s a great fit for you. No pressure. Just help.

Lastly, let’s stay connected! I’m always sharing new tools, insights, and behind-the-scenes goodies on Instagram and YouTube. Follow me there for weekly insights and support on your growth journey.

Xoxo

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

www.growingself.com

P.S. Know someone whose brain just won’t shhh lately? Be a good friend and share this episode with them. It might be exactly what they need today. 💛

There are few questions more terrifying, more soul-shaking, or more likely to keep you awake at 3 a.m. than this one: How to know when your marriage is over? I mean… whew. Just saying that out loud makes my stomach flip.

As a licensed marriage and family therapist, I’ve walked this path with many people, and in this episode of the Love, Happiness & Success podcast, I’ll help you walk through it too—with clarity, compassion, and courage.

Today we’re unpacking the hidden signs, hard truths, and hopeful possibilities around one of life’s biggest crossroads. We’ll talk about the difference between a rough patch and a dead end, what to do if your partner won’t engage, and how to get the real support you need to move forward confidently—whether that means healing your relationship or letting it go.

Timestamps:

00:00 – Is It Over? The Emotional Toll of Not Knowing
02:47 – When Your Relationship Lives in the Gray Zone
10:40 – Why "Couples Counseling" Often Doesn’t Work—and What Does
31:02 – What Is Discernment Coaching, and How Can It Help?
49:41 – Free Resources + Your Next Right Step

I’ve put together a free resource that might help you take the next step: my How Healthy Is Your Relationship? Quiz. It’s a quick and insightful tool that can help you see where things are strong, where they’re struggling, and what might be possible. You’ll also get a custom report with suggestions you can actually use. You can find the quiz right here on my website.

If you're ready to talk to someone about your relationship — whether you're hoping to repair it or just looking for clarity — my team and I are here. You can book a free consultation call and we’ll help you find the right next step, whether that’s discernment coaching, relationship therapy, or support just for you.

And hey — I’d love to stay connected. You can find me on Instagram and YouTube where I’m always sharing tips, tools, and a little bit of love to help you create the life and relationships you deserve.

Xoxo

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

www.growingself.com

P.S. Know someone who’s going through this exact same thing? Maybe they’re stuck in the gray zone too, or quietly suffering through something they haven’t told anyone about. Please send this their way. You never know — sharing this episode might be the first step toward their healing.