Have you ever caught yourself thinking… “We’re just stuck in the same patterns”?

Maybe you’re tired of the arguments that go nowhere…

Or feeling like roommates who just handle the day-to-day stuff but don’t really connect anymore.

You can have more than a marriage that just “functions.”

You deserve one that feels fulfilling—where you enjoy each other, laugh together, and feel like true partners.

In this week’s episode of the podcast, I’m sharing what it really takes to build that kind of marriage.

After listening, you’ll walk away with:

:: A way to get clear on what you actually want in your relationship (beyond just knowing what’s not working)

:: How to stop repeating the same old habits and start showing up differently

:: Why your growth matters just as much as your partner’s (and what that looks like in real life)

:: Simple shifts that make intimacy and connection easier

This episode will lay out the steps necessary to create a marriage you actually love living in.

Also mentioned in this Episode:

The Marriage UpGade is opening up for Early Enrollment September 23-30. This is my signature couples program designed to guide and coach you to creating a more fulfilling marriage - one with easier communication, deeper connection, and more passion and intimacy. Get all the details here: https://marriageupgrade.drchavonne.com/

You’ve built success everywhere else—your career, your family, your home life looks great on the outside.

But behind closed doors, it feels like constant miscommunication, emotional distance, or like you’re just roommates passing in the night.

In this episode, I’m breaking down why even high-achieving couples struggle in marriage, the common patterns I see that quietly erode connection, and the key shifts that help you communicate better, laugh more, and feel like a team again.

If you’ve ever thought, “We should be happier than this,” you’ll want to listen in.

And if you'd like my proven process designed to address your unique marriage challenges, I invite you to learn more about my signature couples coaching program, The Marriage UpGrade. You can learn more here: https://marriageupgrade.drchavonne.com/

Early Enrollment opens September 23-30.

When it comes to your marriage, progress doesn’t come from one big breakthrough conversation or waiting for your partner to suddenly change. Progress comes from habits.

Not the once-in-a-while things you do when you’re on your best behavior, but the predictable patterns you fall into over and over again.

In this episode, we’re talking about how to recognize these habits for what they are, and—more importantly—how to start changing them so you can create a different experience in your marriage.

You’ll learn:

How to spot the patterns that keep pulling you both back into the same fights.

Why self-awareness is the first step in shifting your behavior.

What it takes to experiment with new ways of responding—and why that matters.

How to create systems and structures (like code words or marriage check-ins) that make new habits stick.

And why celebrating small wins is just as important as the big breakthroughs.

If nothing changes about what you do, nothing changes about what you experience. But once you start shifting your habits, you’ll not only make progress—you’ll transform who you are to each other.

In this episode, we’re breaking down why managing your emotions is the key to making real progress in your marriage.

You’ll learn:

• Why emotions are physical sensations that will pass—and how to ride that wave instead of getting pulled under.
• How to see emotions as signals guiding you to something important.
• What it looks like to truly take responsibility for your own feelings—without blaming or offloading them onto your partner.
• Why “you can’t heal what you won’t feel” (and how to practice that in a safe, grounded way).
• And how staying centered in your emotions actually makes it more likely that your partner will hear you.

If you’ve ever wondered why you keep ending up in the same fights, or why the same feelings seem to hijack your progress—this episode is going to show you a new way forward.

And for more personalized support using my proven process to making progress in your marriage, I invite you to work with me in one of my coaching programs. To learn more, visit my website: DrChavonne.com

In today’s episode, we’re digging into the simple but transformative truth that your thoughts create your results. Not just in your to-do list, but in the way you feel about yourself, your partner, and your relationship.

I’ll show you how to spot the thoughts that are quietly working against you, and how to start choosing thoughts that bring you closer to the peace, connection, and love you really want.

By the end of this episode, you’ll know:

• How to recognize the kinds of thoughts that keep you stuck in overwhelm, disconnection, or resentment.
• A simple way to reframe your thinking so it actually supports what you want in your marriage.
• Why “choosing a better thought” isn’t fake positivity—it’s a skill that can change the emotional climate of your relationship.
• What to do when your negative thoughts feel true and how to shift without dismissing your reality.

This is the work that changes you first—and when you change, your marriage begins to change too.

And if you are looking for help to develop the right thoughts and actions that ultimately create a better marriage, I invite you to work with me in one of my coaching programs. You can learn more on my website: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

Staying out of that negative cycle isn’t just about avoiding another argument.

It’s about giving your relationship the stability it needs so you can actually enjoy your time together…

… and so you have the runway to address the deeper issues that have been wearing on you both.

In this episode, I’m sharing the key shifts that help you:

• Spot the patterns that predictably trip you up.
• Calm your own triggers so they stop running the show.
• And create moments of heartfelt connection, even when things feel tense.

This is how you break the cycle and start building a relationship that feels good to be in.

And for more personalized support to help you and your partner keep your marriage feeling better for longer more sustained periods of time, I invite you to consider private coaching with me. You can learn more about becoming Better Together by booking a complimentary consultation call here: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

When you and your spouse aren't connecting, everything feels harder.

You might go from small misunderstandings to full-blown silence—or you’re stuck repeating the same argument over and over, never really resolving it.

That’s the disconnection dance or negative cycle—and it’s not just frustrating, it’s exhausting.

In today’s episode, I’m walking you through 5 powerful steps to help you break that cycle.

You’ll learn how to:

• Recognize what’s actually driving your disconnection (it’s not just the surface argument)
• Reflect on your own patterns with compassion and ownership
• Get clear on what you really want—and how to create it
• Self-soothe in moments where your partner isn’t able to meet you
• And take meaningful steps—internally or together—to reconnect without pride or resentment getting in the way

This episode will challenge you. It might even stir something up. But if you’ve been waiting for things to shift—this is your roadmap.

And if you're looking for help and tools to support you in quickly getting out of these negative cycles, I invite you to consider signing up for one of my coaching programs. We can talk more about how I can help in a complimentary consultation call. Learn more here: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/

There are three essential skills that often get left out of our upbringing—and they are crucial to creating a thriving, connected relationship.

Skills like:

• Introspective questioning—so you can understand why you think, feel, and operate the way you do, and start asking: What if I’m wrong about this?
• Perspective taking—so you can stop assuming the worst and start seeing the logic in your partner’s experience.
• And truly listening to understand—so that curiosity, not defensiveness, becomes your default.

In today’s episode, we’re diving into these foundational shifts—what they are, why they matter, and how they can completely change the way you show up in your marriage.

If you’ve ever wondered why you keep having the same arguments, or why your good intentions still lead to misunderstandings, this episode is going to give you a fresh lens and powerful new tools.

And if you are looking for help creating positive change in your marriage and would like professional help, I invite you to book a complimentary consultation call with me here: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/