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In this heartfelt episode, I share the inspiring story of my youngest client ever — a 13-year-old young woman on the cusp of high school. What started with her reading My Self Care Sht: The Workbook* turned into some of the deepest, most powerful conversations I've ever had as a coach.

Together, we explore how early experiences with friendship, bullying, people-pleasing, and boundary-setting shape us—and why healing from codependency isn't just adult work. It's essential for our kids too. This conversation reignited my passion to share these lessons far and wide, not just for adults doing the work, but for the next generation who deserve a more authentic, self-loving life from the very start.

If you've ever questioned whether the healing you're doing is making a difference, this episode will remind you: it absolutely is.

📝 Show Notes:

In this episode, I talk about:

• How my relationship with my youngest client, a 13-year-old girl, began through My Self Care Sht: The Workbook*.
• The powerful moment she shared her experience with toxic friendships — and how it reflected deep emotional wisdom at a young age.
• Why teaching self-love, boundaries, and emotional healing early can change the entire trajectory of a life.
• My own struggles with starting this podcast and how this young woman inspired me to finally hit "record."
• A reminder that healing is not just for us—it's for those who come after us, too.
• Why learning to protect, defend, and love yourself like you would a small child is one of the greatest acts of self-care.

Takeaway:
Whether you're doing the inner work as an adult or you're just beginning your journey as a young person, remember: the struggles, emotions, and healing paths we walk are universal—and we have so much to learn from each other.

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Sande Golgart opens up about his personal transformation, revealing the importance of releasing control, embracing vulnerability, and cultivating awareness. This conversation is a deep dive into how we can all learn to be more present, take better care of ourselves, and live more freely.

Show Notes:
Kathy Love chats with Sande Golgart, a coach and friend who has helped her take the leap in launching her podcast and in her personal growth. Sandy shares the profound journey he's been on, discovering how to balance his masculine energy—traditionally focused on achievement and doing—with the softer, more receptive aspects of his feminine energy. The conversation explores themes of self-care, awareness, and personal transformation.

3 Main Takeaways:

1. Masculine and Feminine Energy Balance: The importance of finding harmony between the driven, task-oriented masculine energy and the nurturing, receptive feminine energy. This balance can create a more holistic and fulfilling life.
2. The Power of Awareness and Vulnerability: Sandy emphasizes that personal growth is driven by cultivating awareness. By acknowledging and embracing vulnerabilities, we free ourselves from limiting stories and fears that prevent us from reaching our potential.
3. Living from a Place of 'Enough': True fulfillment comes from understanding that we are already enough as we are. By shedding societal pressures and limiting beliefs, we can approach life with gratitude and create meaningful experiences from a place of self-love.

This episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to transform their approach to life and self-care, unlocking their full potential by embracing both energies within themselves.

Schedule a free call with Sande Golgart at sandegolgart.com

Connect with Sande on LinkedIn and Instagram at @sandegolgart

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Welcome to the first episode of My Self-Care Shit, the podcast where we dive deep into what true self-care really looks like—and it’s not just about bubble baths and massages. I’m your host, Kathy Love, and this is the beginning of a journey we’re going to take together. In this first episode, I talk about how I finally hit record after months of procrastination, the journey that led me to truly understand self-care, and why it’s so much more than the clichés we often hear. I’ll share how small, simple practices changed everything for me. Each week, we’ll explore a new aspect of self-care and learn how to make it our own—whether that’s through journaling, setting boundaries, or learning to listen to our true needs. This is just the beginning, so I’m glad you’re here.

In this episode, Kathy shares:

• Overcoming Procrastination: Kathy discusses the delay in starting her podcast, the fear of getting it perfect, and how she finally decided to stop waiting and just hit record.
• What Self-Care Really Is: Kathy talks about how she initially misunderstood self-care and how, through trial and error, she discovered what it truly means to take care of herself—focusing on simple, accessible actions that made a real difference.
• Reconnecting with You: Kathy shares her personal experience with reconnecting with herself, and how self-care is about discovering what you need to feel peaceful, healthy, and whole.
• Finding What Works for You: This episode emphasizes the idea that self-care is a journey. Kathy explores how she made a list of things that made her feel peaceful and happy, which eventually became My Self-Care Shit: The Workbook.
• The Importance of Knowing Yourself: One of the biggest lessons Kathy has learned is that self-care is about knowing who you are, what you need, and what you want, which often means learning to prioritize yourself after years of putting others first.

Key Takeaways:

• Self-care is a practice of reconnecting with yourself, not just pampering yourself.
• Learning to be alone and embrace stillness is a huge part of self-care.
• Self-care can be simple, cost-effective, and accessible—it's all about finding what works for you.
• It's normal to struggle with self-care. The important part is the willingness to keep searching for what resonates with you.

If you're ready to start your own self-care journey, stay tuned for more episodes. Subscribe to My Self-Care Shit to learn how to prioritize your peace, joy, and well-being in simple ways that fit into your everyday life. Please leave a review—it helps others find the show and start their own journey too.

Don’t forget to subscribe and share it with someone who might need a little self-care in their life. . I’ll be back ne

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In this episode of My Self-Care Shit, Kathy Love sits down with Amy Morgan, a seasoned nurse with over 19 years of experience, to talk about the unique challenges nurses face when it comes to self-care. As caregivers, nurses often find themselves putting their own needs aside while caring for others, which can lead to burnout, exhaustion, and a lack of emotional balance. Amy shares her journey of learning to prioritize herself while navigating the demands of a high-pressure profession. Together, Kathy and Amy discuss the importance of setting boundaries, recognizing emotional codependency, and the vital role of self-care in maintaining mental and physical well-being. Whether you're a nurse or anyone who tends to put others first, this episode is a must-listen for those looking to reclaim their health and happiness.

Show Notes:

In this episode, Kathy and Amy discuss:

• The Realities of Nursing: Amy shares her diverse nursing experience, from emergency rooms to trauma care, and how nurses often suppress their own needs to focus on patient care.
• Emotional Codependency in Healthcare: They dive into the emotional toll caregiving can have on nurses and the risk of codependency, especially when it comes to seeking validation and neglecting personal needs.
• Self-Care Amidst Chaos: Amy talks about the importance of setting aside time for self-care after long shifts and how she decompresses, including through walks with her dog, journaling, and nature.
• Setting Boundaries: Amy and Kathy explore how nurses often struggle with saying "no" to extra shifts and how this contributes to burnout. They discuss how boundaries are key to maintaining a healthy work-life balance.
• Hobbies and Self-Care: Amy highlights the importance of maintaining hobbies and creative outlets, which can be a vital form of self-care, especially when caregiving becomes all-consuming.
• Practical Self-Care Tips: Amy offers practical advice on how nurses (and anyone else) can implement self-care into their daily routines to avoid burnout and stay connected with their own needs.

Key Takeaways:

• Nurses and caregivers must recognize the emotional toll of their work and make self-care a priority.
• Setting boundaries, saying "no," and taking time for personal needs is essential for long-term health and effectiveness as a caregiver.
• Emotional codependency often arises in caregiving professions, and it’s important to address it to maintain balance.
• Hobbies, nature, and self-reflection are all vital tools in combating burnout and sustaining emotional well-being.

Resources Mentioned:

• My Self-Care Shit: The Workbook
• Free Daily Self-Care Checklist on myselfcareshit.com

If you’re a nurse, caregive

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In this episode of My Self-Care Sht*, Kathy Love explores the subtle yet profound ways emotional codependency can impact our lives. Often, we equate independence with being free from codependency, but the truth is, emotional dependence on others can show up in unexpected ways. Whether it’s seeking validation, comfort, or approval from others, Kathy discusses how these tendencies can create unhealthy dynamics in our relationships and personal well-being. She shares personal anecdotes, reflecting on her own journey of recognizing and healing from emotional codependency. Tune in to learn how to recognize the difference between healthy independence and emotional codependency, and discover how self-awareness and self-love can set you on the path to true freedom.

Show Notes:
In today’s episode, Kathy Love dives into the topic of codependency and what it really means to be emotionally independent.

Key Points:

• Emotional Codependency vs. Independence: Kathy shares how many people mistake emotional independence for physical independence. Just because you’re financially independent or can live on your own doesn’t mean you aren’t emotionally dependent on others.
• Looking for Validation: Whether you need others to validate your worth, make you feel safe, or make you feel understood, these are signs of emotional codependency. Kathy explores how to recognize and address these patterns in your own life.
• The Comfort Trap: Kathy talks about how she used to seek comfort from external sources like people and objects (e.g., furry clothes and blankets) to fill emotional gaps. She explains how she learned to comfort herself and why this self-sufficiency is key to healing.
• Self-Validation: When it comes to simple decisions, like choosing what to wear, Kathy explains the importance of making choices based on what feels right to you, not on the opinions of others.
• The Fear of Vulnerability in Relationships: Kathy shares how sometimes we build walls of independence to protect ourselves from potential hurt or abandonment in relationships. The fear of letting others in can often look like the need for extreme independence.
• Healthy Independence: It’s not about cutting others off; it’s about learning how to ask for help when needed and building confidence in your ability to stand on your own. Kathy emphasizes the need to reflect on whether your independence is empowering you or keeping you isolated.

Takeaways:

• Recognize when your independence is rooted in emotional fear or self-doubt.
• Learn how to self-validate and find comfort within yourself, rather than relying on others.
• Understand that emotional codependency is not about needing others, but rather about learning to trust yourself and ask for help when necessary.

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If you’ve been struggling with emotional codependency or want to learn how to establish a healthy balance of independence and vulnerability in relationships, join Kathy on this transformative journey. Be sure to subscribe to My Self-Care Sht* and leave a review!

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