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  • Why Best Friends Make the Best Lovers
    Dec 10 2025

    ❤️ Strong marriages aren’t built on grand gestures — they’re built on deep friendship. Curiosity, laughter, emotional safety, and feeling like you’re on the same team form the foundation of lasting intimacy.

    We’re Andrew and Lara Pilcher — married 20 years, parents of two, and a couple blending clinical Body–Mind–Heart understanding with real marriage experience.

    In this episode, we’re unpacking why friendship is the strongest predictor of long-term marital satisfaction — and how rebuilding your friendship can transform your emotional and physical intimacy.

    ✨ Download your free Body–Mind–Heart Marriage Reset (BMH Reset)

    Your guided shift to reconnect and soften communication.

    👉 https://andrewandlara.com/

    🎙 In this episode:

    🟣 Why friendship is the foundation of intimacy

    🟣 How emotional intimacy fuels physical intimacy

    🟣 Signs your friendship needs nurturing

    🟣 How to rebuild closeness if you’ve drifted

    🟣 BMH tools that strengthen connection

    🔗 Show Notes

    Free BMH Marriage Reset: https://andrewandlara.com/

    Learn about Creative Restoration International: https://creativerestorationinternational.com

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/andrewandlara

    Website: https://andrewandlara.com/

    This podcast is part of our nonprofit work through Creative Restoration International — restoring homes, strengthening marriages, and renewing hearts.

    If you believe in funding meaningful restoration work, learn more at https://creativerestorationinternational.com

    marriage, intimacy, friendshipinmarriage, relationshipadvice, marriagepodcast, BMHreset, AndrewAndLara

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    20 min
  • From Snapping to Softness: How to Calm Conflict Fast
    Dec 3 2025

    ❤️ When conflict happens fast, most couples don’t know how to slow it down. Today we’re showing you how to shift from snapping… into softness.

    We’re Andrew and Lara Pilcher — married 20 years, parents of two, and a couple blending clinical Body–Mind–Heart understanding with real marriage experience.

    This episode will help you understand why your reactions fire before you can stop them — and how to communicate with more calm, connection, and kindness.

    Download your free Body–Mind–Heart Marriage Reset (BMH Reset)

    Your guided shift to calm conflict and reconnect.

    👉 https://andrewandlara.com/

    🎙 In this episode:

    🟣 Why small moments trigger big reactions

    🟣 What your nervous system is doing during conflict

    🟣 How to interrupt the snap before it happens

    🟣 A simple BMH shift to soften instantly

    🟣 How to reconnect after a rupture

    🔗 Show Notes

    Free BMH Marriage Reset: https://andrewandlara.com/

    Learn about Creative Restoration International: creativerestorationinternational.com

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/andrewandlara

    Website: https://andrewandlara.com/

    This podcast is part of our nonprofit work through Creative Restoration International — restoring homes, strengthening marriages, and renewing hearts.

    If you believe in funding meaningful restoration work, learn more at https://creativerestorationinternational.com

    marriage, marriagehelp, relationships, conflictresolution, intimacy, BMHreset, AndrewAndLara

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    21 min
  • Marriage Miscommunication: Why You Keep Missing Each Other
    Nov 26 2025

    💭 Ever walk away from a talk thinking, “That’s not what I meant”?

    Most fights aren’t about content—they’re about tone, timing, and safety.

    We unpack why couples misread each other and how to reset fast. Learn to recognize stress signals, breathe before reacting, and repair without blame.

    ❤️ Here’s what we cover:

    💬 Why tone matters more than words (Gottman Research)

    🧠 The science of the pause + vagus nerve reset

    👫 2 repair phrases that change everything

    Download the free 3-Minute Marriage Reset → https://andrewandlara.com

    🌐 andrewandlara.com | 📱 @andrewandlara

    #MarriageCommunication #MarriagePodcast #RelationshipRepair #MarriageReset

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    21 min
  • Intimacy Beyond the Bedroom: Building Emotional Safety
    Nov 19 2025

    💭 What if the real secret to passion isn’t in the bedroom alone—it’s in emotional safety?

    You can’t have deep intimacy without trust, calm, and connection.

    We explore how small, safe moments—soft touches, check-ins, shared laughter—reactivate love. You’ll hear the science behind oxytocin, attachment, and the safety cues that reopen closeness.

    ❤️ Here’s what we cover:

    💬 How safety builds desire (Sue Johnson & Gottman Institute)

    🧠 Why the body relaxes before the heart opens

    👫 2 simple tools for everyday emotional safety

    Get your free 3-Minute Marriage Reset → https://andrewandlara.com

    🌐 andrewandlara.com | 📱 @andrewandlara

    #EmotionalIntimacy #MarriagePodcast #RelationshipHealing #MarriageReset

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    25 min
  • Why Fun Is a Non-Negotiable for Connection
    Nov 12 2025

    💭 When did you last really laugh together?

    If you’ve felt more like co-managers than teammates lately, this episode will help you rediscover the joy that keeps marriage alive.

    We unpack why fun isn’t optional—it’s essential for emotional safety and connection. You’ll learn how laughter lowers stress hormones, why play rebuilds trust, and how one minute of joy can change your evening.

    ❤️ Here’s what we cover:

    💬 The science of laughter & safety (Harvard Health)

    🧠 How play resets the nervous system and tone of marriage

    👫 Two simple “joy check-in” rituals that actually work

    Download the free 3-Minute Marriage Reset → https://andrewandlara.com

    🌐 Website | andrewandlara.com

    📱 Instagram | @andrewandlara

    🎙️ Hosts | Lara (PCC Life Coach) & Andrew (Doctor of Physical Therapy, US Equiv)

    #MarriageHelp #MarriagePodcast #RelationshipHealing #MarriageReset #Connection

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    17 min
  • 3 Changes That Saved Our Marriage: Money, Parenting & Building Dreams Together
    Nov 5 2025

    💭 Money tension and parenting pressure don’t have to tear you apart.

    We share the three shifts that helped us stay a team through financial strain, parenting chaos, and big moves.

    ❤️ Here’s what you’ll learn

    💬 Turning budget stress into teamwork

    🧠 Values alignment for shared decisions

    👫 Parenting with connection

    📿 Staying anchored in faith and purpose

    Free Guide: 3-Minute Marriage Reset

    Re-center as a couple when life feels too full.

    Subscribe for weekly marriage support

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    46 min
  • Marriage Burnout: 5 Signs You’re in Trouble (and How to Reset)
    Oct 29 2025

    💭 Tired, short-tempered, or running on autopilot?

    Marriage burnout is real — but repair is possible.

    We unpack why couples burn out and how to recover before resentment sets in.

    ❤️ Here’s what you’ll learn

    💬 5 warning signs your relationship is overstressed

    🧠 Shared Stress Recovery + Daily Decompression rituals therapists recommend

    👫 How to divide the mental load without score-keeping

    📿 Weekly Repair Ritual that restores warmth

    Free Guide: 3-Minute Marriage Reset

    Slow down, breathe, and reconnect in minutes.

    Subscribe for weekly marriage support

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    27 min
  • Why You’re Feeling Lonely in Your Marriage (and How to Fix It)
    Oct 22 2025

    💭 Feeling married but still lonely?

    You’re not broken — you’re just disconnected.

    In this episode, Andrew and Lara talk about why emotional loneliness happens even in “good” marriages and how to start to rebuild closeness tonight.

    ❤️ Here’s what you’ll learn

    💬 Why couples drift even when they aren’t fighting

    🧠 Dr John Gottman’s “bids for connection” + Dr Sue Johnson’s emotional responsiveness

    👫 The 3-Minute Connection Check-In you can start tonight

    📿 Small daily rituals that turn logistics into love

    Free Guide: 3-Minute Marriage Reset

    This one-page tool can shift your evening from shut-down to connected.

    🎧 Subscribe for weekly episodes on intimacy, connection & healing in marriage.

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    33 min