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This week we’re bringing this conversation back because it speaks directly to what so many women are moving through right now - the moment you realise you’ve been living as a version of you that feels safe but not true.

In this updated Season 3 episode, we’re joined by Jennifer Liss - breathwork coach and host of F**k Around and Get Paid to talk about the masks women wear to be liked, the guilt that keeps us performing and what it really looks like to untether from an identity that no longer fits.

We explore why women become chameleons in different rooms, how to reconnect with what you actually want and the simplest ways to come back to yourself through awareness, breath, nervous system support and joy.

What We Cover

• Leaving a “successful” life that no longer fits (and why it takes courage to start again).
• Why women become chameleons: different versions of self at work, in relationships, in rooms.
• The moment you realise you’ve been playing characters your whole life.
• Why clarity can’t come from the outside it has to come from you.
• Untethering from the “safe self” to meet the real self underneath.
• Joy as a strategy (not a bonus): why fun is transformational.
• How breathwork helps you access your real self under the layers.
• A simple, practical breath pattern.
• The truth about responsibility: guilt-based responsibility vs empowered responsibility.
• What to do when guilt shows up as you choose yourself (parts work & nervous system support).

Time Stamps:

• 00:00 Welcome & Meet Jennifer Liss: Unmasking & the Question ‘What Do I Actually Want?’.
• 00:45 Burned Out Behind the Chair: Quitting a Successful Hair Business.
• 01:32 Starting Over: Back to School, $20/hr Internship and a New Career Path.
• 02:42 Why People Hide at Work: The ‘Rockstar’ Self vs the Corporate Mask.
• 04:31 Step One to Finding Yourself Again: Noticing the Characters You Play.
• 06:28 ‘I Don’t Know Who I Am’: Guilt, Shame and the Identity Wake-Up Call.
• 08:34 Untethering to the Soul Level: Getting Quiet to Discover What You Want.
• 10:04 Jen vs Jennifer: Choosing an Identity and the Energy You Show Up In.
• 12:14 No Shame in the Mask Game, until It’s Used to Shrink and Hide.
• 15:26 Responsible vs Sovereign: How Guilt (and Catholic Conditioning) Shapes Us.
• 18:14 Joy Isn’t a Bonus, it’s the Strategy: Pleasure as a Compass.
• 20:57 The Guilt Voice in Real Life: Choosing Joy (Spa Day Example) & Somatic Work Begins.
• 23:55 Radical Self-Acceptance: Talking to Your Inner Critic (Parts Work).
• 25:29 Imposter Syndrome & the ‘Other Shoe’ Fear When Joy Shows Up.
• 27:17 Growing Your Edges: Guilt Triggers, Expansion and Being Human.
• 31:30 From Corporate to Podcast Confidence: Humanising Interviews.
• 33:56 Breathwork Breakthrough: Finding Joy Under the Layers.
• 40:05 1-Minute Reset.
• 44:25 Final Takeaway: Have More Fun (and Why It Pays Off).

📥 Resources & Next Steps

🎧 Reignmaker Hypnosis Audio Collection
Three guided audios designed to help you move out of self-doubt and into embodied self-trust:

• Self-Doubt Release
• Inner Confidence Boost
• Money Mindset Rewire.

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