In this episode of the Men Seeking Calm podcast, we explore the thinking trap of Disaster-thinking — the tendency to assume the worst-case scenario in relationships and treat it as inevitable truth.

Men often spiral from minor moments, like a quiet dinner or a single comment, into full-blown emotional catastrophes: breakups, failure, and rejection.

Disaster-thinking feels like self-protection but actually fuels anxiety, shame, and emotional distance. It turns silence into imagined rejection, feedback into proof of failure, and uncertainty into personal doom.

Greg humorously urges listeners to take off the “emotional doomsday bunker” mindset and swap panic for perspective.

The antidote? Pause, reality-check, and ask, “Is this really happening or am I in a mental soap opera?” Instead of scripting drama, men are encouraged to speak gently and check in with their partners. Because most emotional storms are passing showers — not the end of the world. Just breathe… and leave the almond milk drama behind.

In this episode of the Men Seeking Calm podcast, Greg Martin explores the thinking trap of Jumping to Conclusions — the mental habit of assuming the worst before knowing the facts.

Common in men during relationship stress, this distortion includes mind-reading (“She must hate me”) and fortune-telling (“This is going to end badly”). It’s driven by fear, past wounds, and a deep desire to protect oneself, but often causes more harm than good — leading to emotional shutdown, miscommunication, and growing distance.

The fix? Replace assumptions with curiosity. Ask instead of assume. Recognize when your mind is writing fiction. Instead of dramatizing, communicate. When you stop jumping to conclusions, you step out of fear and into real connection.

As Greg says — ditch the detective work, and just ask her how she’s doing. WalktheMountain.com

In this episode, we dive into the faulty thinking trap of Disqualifying the Positive — the mental habit of rejecting compliments, kindness, and progress.

Whether it’s your partner saying, “Thanks for helping with the kids”, or “I appreciate how you listened”, your inner critic swats it away with thoughts like, “She’s just being polite”or “I still screwed up.” This mindset often stems from past experiences where praise felt unsafe, and it trains your brain to only see failure.

Over time, it erodes intimacy and keeps connection out of reach. Greg uses humour and real-life examples to call out this “Compliment Ninja” mentality and offers a simple, powerful antidote: pause, receive, and let it land. Practice saying “Thank you, that means a lot” — and take the win. Because real growth starts when we let the good stuff in.

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