In this solo episode of Mindset Matters, Patrick Francey explores why so many people stay emotionally, relationally, or professionally stuck even when they are smart, self aware, and motivated to move forward. The issue, Patrick suggests, is often not a lack of insight, but the lens through which past experiences are being viewed.

Patrick introduces a powerful distinction between gratitude and appreciation, and how confusing the two can quietly keep people anchored to relationships, partnerships, and life chapters that are already complete. While gratitude is often focused on benefit, relief, or gain, appreciation is oriented toward impact, growth, and formation. Gratitude asks, “What did I receive?” Appreciation asks, “How did this experience shape me?”

Drawing from more than four decades of business partnerships, Patrick reflects on relationships that were meaningful, formative, and at times painful. Some ended without clean resolution and carried emotional and mental weight long after they were over. Through reflection and meditation, the word “appreciation” emerged as his word of the year, not gratitude. This shift opened a new way of integrating the past without rewriting it or forcing emotional closure.

Patrick explains how people often try to force gratitude onto experiences that were costly emotionally, financially, or relationally. That effort can create inner friction and keep old stories alive. Appreciation, on the other hand, allows someone to honor what was learned, acknowledge how they were shaped, and release the need to reconcile what no longer exists.

This episode invites listeners to consider whether they are stuck because they have not healed, or because they are using the wrong frame. By choosing appreciation over forced gratitude, it becomes possible to keep the lesson, release the story, and move forward with greater clarity, integration, and momentum. As Patrick shares, clarity comes from understanding what mattered and allowing it to be complete, and that clarity is what creates velocity.