• Ep 268 - Breaking Free from Survival Mode
    May 8 2025

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    Welcome back to Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast! In this compelling episode, your hosts Tim and Ruth Olson, licensed marriage and family therapists, dive into the pervasive issue of "survival mode," a state many people unknowingly live in due to past trauma or chronic stress. Discover how survival mode manifests in daily life, leaving individuals emotionally and physically drained even with ample rest.

    Tim and Ruth utilize their expertise in trauma therapy to break down the mechanics of a nervous system stuck on high alert, detailing its impact on your mental, physical, and emotional health. They illuminate common behaviors stemming from survival mode, such as chronic fatigue, persistent guilt for resting, and an inability to relax.

    The episode isn't just about identifying the problem but offers transformative strategies to help listeners shift out of survival mode. From grounding techniques and the importance of intentional rest to resetting false alarms and establishing healing rituals, Tim and Ruth provide actionable advice. They emphasize the significance of teaching your nervous system new patterns of safety and the role of therapy, especially EMDR, in aiding this transformation.

    Join the conversation on finding peacefulness amidst life's chaos, and learn how to reclaim your energy and mental peace one nourishing step at a time. Whether you're battling lingering childhood trauma or the pressures of adult responsibilities, this episode offers hope and practical tools to guide you back to a state of calm and control.

    [Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.]

    {Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment. For personalized support, please seek professional help or call the National Suicide Hotline at 988 if you or someone you know is contemplating suicide or needs emotional support.}

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    17 min
  • Ep 267 - Unmasking Relationship Conflicts: Surface vs. Story
    May 6 2025

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    Welcome back to Mr. and Mrs. Therapy, the podcast that delves into turning life's challenges into avenues for growth and healthier connections. In this episode, your hosts, licensed marriage and family therapists Tim and Ruth Olson, delve into the dynamics of communication within relationships, particularly focusing on recurring conflicts.

    Are you and your partner repeatedly arguing over seemingly trivial issues like chores or phone usage? Tim and Ruth unravel the true nature of these conflicts, revealing that beneath the surface lies a deeper story or unmet emotional need. Together, they guide listeners through recognizing when they're arguing over the 'surface' and how to identify the underlying 'story' that fuels these debates.

    The episode provides practical steps to pause, reflect, and communicate effectively, transforming potential arguments into opportunities for understanding and connection. By examining real-life examples and offering strategies to reframe conversations, Tim and Ruth empower couples to explore and address the emotional narratives that impact their relationships.

    Whether you're winding down from a long day or navigating through emotional storytelling, join the conversation that encourages healing, empathy, and lasting love.

    [Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.]

    {Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment. For personalized support, please seek professional help or call the National Suicide Hotline at 988 if you or someone you know is contemplating suicide or needs emotional support.}

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    19 min
  • Ep 266 - "Walking the Tightrope: Balancing Adventure and Stability in Relationships"
    May 1 2025

    Welcome to another insightful episode of Mr. and Mrs. Therapy, where hosts Tim and Ruth Olson explore the intricate dynamics between partners with differing desires for stability and unpredictability. With their combined expertise in marriage, family therapy, and trauma, they delve into how couples can thrive despite having contrasting needs.

    This episode uses a beloved song from The Greatest Showman to illustrate these dynamics, sparking a discussion about the challenges and opportunities present in relationships where one partner craves adventure and the other seeks stability. Tim and Ruth share personal anecdotes about how they navigate their differing approaches: Ruth's tendency towards spontaneity and Tim's preference for planning.

    Listeners are guided through understanding the core emotional needs that drive each partner’s behavior, such as security, predictability, freedom, and growth. The Olsons offer practical strategies for meeting these needs respectfully while maintaining a balance between stability and adventure.

    The episode emphasizes the importance of mutual respect and communication, highlighting how couples can transform potential conflicts into opportunities for deeper connection. By exploring topics like compromise, micro-adventures, anchor days, and the celebration of differences, this conversation provides a comprehensive roadmap for couples to appreciate and leverage their unique traits for a more harmonious relationship.

    Whether you’re the adventurer or the planner in your relationship, this episode offers valuable insights into appreciating and complementing each other’s strengths, ultimately creating a fulfilling partnership that thrives on diversity.

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    18 min
  • Ep 265 - From Strikeouts to Strength: Mastering Resilience with Self-Talk
    Apr 29 2025

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    In this episode of Mr. and Mrs. Therapy, hosts Tim and Ruth Olson guide listeners on a transformative journey through the concepts of resilience and emotional strength, inspired by Kenny Rogers' song "The Greatest." As experienced marriage and family therapists, they delve deep into how perspective shapes our view of the world, highlighting the unique lens of a young boy in the song who reframes his failures into a narrative of success.

    Listeners are invited to explore the importance of healthy self-talk as Tim and Ruth emphasize its role in building emotional strength. Through personal anecdotes and practical tips, they show how nurturing positive internal dialogues can counteract the tendency to internalize failure and shame.

    The episode also tackles the significance of viewing failure as a stepping stone rather than a final verdict. Drawing parallels between childhood innocence and adult self-perception, the Olsons discuss how maintaining a hopeful perspective can lead to personal growth and healing from past trauma.

    Join Tim and Ruth as they share invaluable insights on fostering resilience in relationships and self-identity, encouraging listeners to redefine their narratives and embrace a mindset of curiosity and kindness towards oneself. Whether navigating personal hardships or supporting loved ones, this episode offers a beacon of hope and practical strategies to turn life's challenges into opportunities for growth.

    [Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.]

    {Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment. For personalized support, please seek professional help or call the National Suicide Hotline at 988 if you or someone you know is contemplating suicide or needs emotional support.}

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    16 min
  • Ep 264 - Overcoming the Fear of Success: Five Powerful Steps
    Apr 24 2025

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    Welcome to this enlightening episode of Mr. and Mrs. Therapy, where licensed marriage and family therapists Tim and Ruth Olson dive into the intricacies of personal growth and overcoming the fear of success. In this second part of a compelling series, they explore the root causes of why success can be intimidating and offer practical solutions to help you move past guilt, burnout, and self-sabotage.

    The Olsons discuss five transformative steps you can take to enjoy success on your own terms without fear or guilt. They start by helping you redefine success based on your current values and personal needs, separate from societal expectations. Exploring questions like "What do I want success to feel like?" can help clarify your personal path.

    You'll also learn how to identify and challenge the underlying fear stories that hold you back, and how to release the guilt associated with personal growth. Tim and Ruth emphasize the importance of focusing on your identity rather than your achievements to ensure a grounded and fulfilling success journey.

    Finally, they encourage you to take purposeful action, recognizing that the process might be messy, but it's essential for progress. By following these steps, you'll be equipped to handle the anxieties and uncertainties of pursuing your goals.

    Join Mr. and Mrs. Therapy as they empower you with the tools to transform your fear of success into a gateway for healing, wisdom, and deeper connection. If this episode resonates with you, don't hesitate to share it with someone who might benefit. Remember, your mind is a powerful thing, and you're allowed to succeed joyfully and peacefully.

    [Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.]

    {Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment. For personalized support, please seek professional help or call the National Suicide Hotline at 988 if you or someone you know is contemplating suicide or needs emotional support.}

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    14 min
  • Ep 263 - Unveiling the Fear: When Success Holds You Back
    Apr 22 2025

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    Welcome back to another enlightening episode of Mr. and Mrs. Therapy, where licensed marriage and family therapists Tim and Ruth Olson dive deep into an often-overlooked psychological concept: the fear of success. This intriguing episode picks up where the previous discussions on fear left off, focusing on how the fear of success can hold you back from achieving your dreams and transforming your life.

    In this episode, Tim and Ruth explore the underlying causes of the fear of success, delving into how the potential consequences of growth, increased responsibilities, and changes in interpersonal dynamics can become intimidating obstacles. They discuss the concept of 'upper limiting,' where the mind resists change to maintain comfort, even at the expense of success and improvement.

    The episode also examines cultural influences, personal experiences, and the paradox of humility, shedding light on why many people shy away from achieving their full potential. Tim and Ruth share personal stories, including their own experiences with fear of success and its impact on their professional and personal lives.

    Listeners will gain insights into how fear of success can manifest as perfectionism, procrastination, and even relationship sabotage, along with practical tips to identify and overcome these barriers. Throughout the episode, Tim and Ruth encourage listeners to reflect on their past experiences and cultural messages about success, urging them to embrace their potential without fear.

    Join the conversation and community as Tim and Ruth invite listeners to share their stories and continue the dialogue on their Facebook group. Don't miss next week's episode, where they'll provide actionable steps to conquer the fear of success and step confidently into your purpose. Remember, there's hope and healing in every journey, and your mind is a powerful thing.

    [Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.]

    {Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment. For personalized support, please seek professional help or call the National Suicide Hotline at 988 if you or someone you know is contemplating suicide or needs emotional support.}

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    18 min
  • Ep 262 - Conquer Your Fear of Failure: 5 Practical Steps to Triumph
    Apr 17 2025

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    Welcome to an engaging episode of Mr. and Mrs. Therapy, where hosts Tim and Ruth Olson, licensed marriage and family therapists, dive into the heart of overcoming the fear of failure. In this continuation of their insightful series, Tim and Ruth provide invaluable guidance and therapeutic wisdom as they introduce five practical steps to help you conquer your fear.

    Throughout the episode, they explore the importance of naming your specific fears and understanding the unrealistic nature of the worst-case scenarios you might envision. Listeners are encouraged to rewrite their narratives and respond to their fears with truth and compassion, fostering a healthier mental state. With actionable advice, they discuss the benefits of starting with safe experiments and highlight the power of celebrating efforts rather than just outcomes. The episode emphasizes leading with identity and values, offering a fresh perspective on personal growth.

    Join Tim and Ruth as they share touching examples from their therapeutic practice and personal experiences, including stories from raising their own children. Whether you’re eager to transform fear into courage or seeking to better understand and refine your personal identity, this episode offers a path toward embracing bravery and creating meaningful change. Plus, discover how you can work directly with Tim and Ruth through personal coaching to further your journey in overcoming fear. Don’t miss this compelling offering from Mr. and Mrs. Therapy and take the next steps in your journey to a fear-free life.

    [Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.]

    {Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment. For personalized support, please seek professional help or call the National Suicide Hotline at 988 if you or someone you know is contemplating suicide or needs emotional support.}

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    17 min
  • Ep 261 - Unveiling the Fear of Failure: Where Does it Come From?
    Apr 15 2025

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    Welcome to Mr. and Mrs. Therapy, a podcast designed to transform life's challenges into opportunities for personal growth and healthier relationships. In this week's episode, hosts Tim and Ruth Olson, both licensed marriage and family therapists with expertise in trauma, delve into the complex fear of failure that influences self-worth and relationships.

    Join the Olsons as they kick off a compelling two-part series that seeks to uncover the roots of this pervasive fear. In part one, they explore its multiple origins: childhood experiences, internal and external messages, perfectionism, shame, and emotional memories stemming from trauma. Real-life examples and psychological insights illustrate how these factors collectively shape our perception of failure.

    Drawing from personal stories and therapeutic practices, the episode provides listeners with a profound understanding of how fear of failure can unknowingly dictate life choices. It challenges listeners to reflect on their upbringing, perfectionism tendencies, and past traumas, encouraging a deeper self-awareness.

    Prepare to embark on a journey of self-discovery and healing, as Tim and Ruth share strategies to alleviate the burden of fear and inspire change. Stay tuned for the next episode, where they will provide actionable steps to confront and overcome these fears, empowering you to take risks and embrace growth.

    [Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.]

    {Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment. For personalized support, please seek professional help or call the National Suicide Hotline at 988 if you or someone you know is contemplating suicide or needs emotional support.}

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    13 min