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Women shrink at work long before they realize they’re doing it. It shows up in the automatic apology, the softened email, the over-explaining, the meeting where you take up less space than you were assigned.

In this episode, we talk about the hidden costs of shrinking and why it quietly slows careers, drains confidence, and reinforces the very dynamics women are trying to outgrow. We break down how shrinking shows up in meetings, presentations, hiring and promotion moments, and even salary negotiation. We also share real stories from inside corporate leadership and talent acquisition, including what happens when women hand their ideas to male counterparts just to get traction.

This is not about blame. It’s about awareness and choice. If you’ve ever edited yourself to be “easier,” “more likable,” or “less direct,” this episode will give you language for what’s happening and a starting point for changing it.

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Corporate language has evolved. The outcomes for women often have not.

In this episode, we unpack the gap between what organizations say and how power actually functions inside them. From “seat at the table” promises to performative empowerment, cultural fit, loyalty, and feedback that focuses on personality over performance, we name the patterns women are still expected to navigate quietly.

We share real experiences from inside leadership, recruiting, and executive rooms to help women recognize when language is being used to stall, soften, or deflect accountability. More importantly, we talk about what awareness gives you back: agency, discernment, and the ability to make strategic moves without internalizing dysfunction.

If you have ever felt praised but blocked, empowered but constrained, or included without influence, this conversation is for you.

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Episode 3: The Identity Trap (and the “Work Mask” We Slide Into)

People love to talk about imposter syndrome, but women are dealing with something else too: the identity trap.

In this episode, we break down the difference between:

• Imposter syndrome: doubting your competence even when you are capable
• The identity trap: slowly becoming a version of yourself that “fits” the workplace, even when it costs you

We talk about the masks we learn early, like customer service voice, polite professionalism, and the corporate “tone it down” filter. Then we get real about what happens when those layers stack over time: new environments, higher stakes, more politics, more pressure to manage other people’s comfort. Eventually the mask gets heavy enough that you look up and think, who is this person and when did I start performing my job instead of doing it?

We also go deeper than the workplace. We unpack how childhood conditioning shapes the way women show up, how quickly we learn to be adaptable, and why that adaptability can quietly turn into self erasure. And we talk about the wake up moment most women have at some point: realizing you have become smaller, quieter, more careful, and more exhausted than you have ever been.

Most importantly, we close with what to do when you recognize the identity trap in real time:

• how to tell the difference between professionalism and performance
• how to rebuild your real voice without blowing up your career
• how to make an intentional exit strategy if the environment requires you to be less of yourself to survive

This episode is for the woman who is high performing on paper but feels disconnected from herself in practice.

Listen now and ask yourself one question: Is this mask helping me do the job, or is it costing me my identity?