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In moments of fear and upheaval, intent is often centered as proof of goodness, while impact is dismissed as inconvenient, exaggerated, or misunderstood.

In this episode of No People Pleasing Zone, EZ explores the difference between intention and impact through a nervous-system and relational lens.

This episode examines what happens when intent matters more than lived experience. And how power-over becomes normalized when impact is ignored.

This is not an episode about bypassing anger or rawness.
It’s about noticing the patterns that shape how we relate, personally and collectively. And how autonomy collapses when fear becomes the organizing force.

The episode closes by reframing power-with as a stabilizing, embodied alternative, inviting listeners to return to their own bodies as a site of truth, choice, and re-membering.

In This Episode, EZ Explores:

• The difference between intention and impact — and why intent alone is not enough
• How people-pleasing and fawning emerge as nervous-system survival responses
• Autonomy vs. protection in relationships, parenting, and community
• Why fear-centered systems prioritize control over trust
• How gaslighting at scale destabilizes bodies and communities
• Power-with as an embodied, relational alternative to power-over

A Moment to Sit With:

• Where in your life does intent get centered at the expense of your lived experience?
• What might shift if your body’s sense of impact
  was allowed to matter there?

Let it linger.
Let it land.
Let it percolate.

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What if love was never asking you to disappear?

In this threshold episode of No People Pleasing Zone, EZ revisits a childhood story that reinforced her understanding of sacrifice, belonging, and love.

This time she hears it differently.

Through the story of Barrington Bunny, EZ explores how devotion rooted in self-knowing is fundamentally different from the kind of self-erasure that often masquerades as goodness. This episode gently disrupts the belief that belonging must be earned through sacrifice, and invites a re-seeing of what love actually requires; and what it never asked of you.

This is not an episode about fixing yourself.
It’s about shifting lenses.
And letting that change how you live, love, and belong.

In This Episode, EZ Explores:

• The difference between self-erasure and devotion rooted in self-knowing
• How people-pleasing forms when belonging feels conditional
• Why sacrifice without identity leads to disconnection, not intimacy
• The body’s role in signaling when love costs too much
• What becomes possible when the gift comes first

A Question to Sit With:

Where in your life did you learn that belonging required you to disappear?

And what might become possible if you let yourself know who you are before you give yourself away?

Let it linger.
Let it land.
Let it percolate.

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You get to create a life with more "Hell Yeses".

Today's episode is full of affirmations meant to support you in leaning into more "hell yeses" and a whole lot less exploitative yeses. Listen to them as often as is helpful. Put them on a play list - and listen to build your "hell yes" muscle. Use them when making decisions.

I'd love to hear how you're using them!