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Ep 664: Ever wondered how childhood experiences secretly shape your sexual desires and why most women struggle to ask for what they want in bed?

In this eye-opening episode, Ruin Willow sits down with Tash Doherty (Miss Educated), a London-born writer, author, and sexuality advocate now based in Mexico who's on a mission to make the world "shamelessly sexy." Tash breaks down her three-pillar approach to sexual empowerment: discover what you want, believe you deserve it, and ask for it.

The conversation dives deep into how family and cultural shame impact our sexuality, with Tash sharing insights from her upcoming **Sex Journal** launching on Kickstarter. This beautifully designed journal features 20 poems and themed prompts exploring ecstasy, obsession, longing, and desire—all designed to help women reduce shame and align their sex lives with their values.

From discussing how childhood associations create unexpected fetishes to exploring the healing power of erotic writing, Tash traces sexuality's role throughout history—from Sappho to the Song Dynasty. She shares her journey from teen romance novelist to sex blogger, including viral pieces like "Get a Man Who Loves Your Bush."

The duo also tackles the complex role of pornography in sexual education, highlighting ethical alternatives, and emphasizing the importance of self-exploration through masturbation and quality toys.

Ready to explore your own sexual narrative without shame? Tune in for this transformative conversation about reclaiming pleasure and rewriting your story, thereby also improving your relationships.

Key Takeaways:

• A simple three-pillars formula—know what you want, believe you deserve it, ask for it—reframes sexual confidence as a learnable practice.
• Erotic journaling can dismantle familial shame and scaled into a mainstream coffee-table Sex Journal launched on Kickstarter.
• Stigmatized practices (masturbation, toys, "healthier" porn, open communication) are portrayed as deliberate tools to build self-knowledge, pleasure, and agency.

Chapters Timeline:

00:00:02 - Shamelessly Sexy
00:04:23 - Writing a Sex Journal for Women
00:07:23 - Shame and Sexuality
00:12:37 - Exploring Female Sexuality and History
00:16:09 - Exploring Sexuality Through Design
00:18:12 - Achieving Orgasm Equality
00:28:16 - Consent, communication, and sexual exploration
00:30:56 - Orgasm Equality and Sexual Empowerment
00:38:50 - Sex Tech and Favorite Toys
00:39:38 - Sex Toys: Tools Not Replacements
00:43:32 - Sex Toys Changed My Life, sexual health
00:48:09 - Clitoris Shapes, Stimulation, and Orgasm, libido
00:52:17 - Vulva vs Vagina, female anatomy

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Ep 663: Spring Break and Stranded with Her Best Friend's Brothers, Layla Gets Raunchy, Excerpt from Chapter 5, erotic romance fiction. College student Layla finds herself at a cabin with 8 med school students and they begin to hookup to fulfill each other's sexual fantasies. It's a forced proximity romance and they are all at the cabin together for spring break, so, why not? In this excerpt, Layla has decided the men are going to play a cum shooting game, aimed at her, and the winner gets his wish granted by her. It's hot! Scorching hot! This is spicy smut, the full book is an erotic romance fairy tale retelling of Snow White, a why choose romance with lots of sex scenes, plus a love triangle with the two brothers, lots of sexual exploration and empowerment, and ...seriously...it's so hot your ears might start on fire!

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Episode 662: Why Women Stop Wanting Sex and How to Get it Back Even Juicier with Intimacy with Expert Allana Pratt.

Summary:

Reclaiming True Intimacy: A Journey of Self-Discovery and Sexual Healing

Discover how intimacy expert Allana Pratt breaks down the barriers between sexuality, self-acceptance, and genuine connection in this transformative episode. From overcoming trauma to embracing personal pleasure without shame, Allana guides us through the essential journey of understanding our bodies and honoring our desires.

The conversation delves deep into how societal pressures often lead women to disconnect from their sexual selves, offering practical insights for rekindling that vital connection. Learn why true intimacy starts with self-love and how creating a safe space for exploration can revolutionize your relationship with yourself and others.

Key highlights:
- The importance of self-exploration before intimate partnerships
- Breaking free from achievement-based self-worth, and get out of performance mode in the bedroom
- Embracing the divine feminine and masculine within
- Tools for healing sexual trauma
- Creating structures for self-care and pleasure

Ready to transform your relationship with intimacy and self-acceptance? This episode offers the guidance and permission you've been seeking. Tune in to start your journey toward authentic connection and sexual healing.

Timeline (an estimation):

00:00:02 - Understanding Women's Desire for Intimacy
00:08:28 - Exploring Yoni and Sexual Healing
00:11:49 - Exploring Body Awareness and Sensation
00:15:22 - Exploring Sensation and Emotional Release
00:17:11 - Embracing Self-Worth and Pleasure
00:27:00 - Breaking Free from Worthiness Pressure
00:28:25 - Embracing Age and Personal Growth
00:32:27 - Empowering Women Through Boundaries
00:35:03 - Integrating Emotions and Setting Boundaries
00:47:03 - Understanding Trauma and Intimacy
00:53:06 - Finding Alana Pratt's Resources

Allana Pratt is an intimacy expert, relationship coach, author of 6 books, and the host of the edgy podcast “Intimate Conversations”.

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