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  • What belief systems do you have that may contribute to your mental health?

    What belief systems do you have that may contribute to your mental health?
    Dec 30 2023

    What are belief systems?  They are beliefs about religion, world views, economical views, based off what has been experienced in life, while be raised as a child, and could be developed by harsh treatments well into adulthood. Some beliefs that I've heard are about races of people, it is stated that some groups of people are lazy and just want to be taken care of. While other groups of people work hard for what they want, and are entitled to wealth. Belief systems are taught, and are not necessarily positive ways of thinking. If your belief system is causing you to be confused about life and the world you live in, then those belief systems have given you a false sense of being, or reality.

    Some of my beliefs that was ingrained in my mind, is that if you cry its a sign of weakness. I had to be strong, not letting anyone know what you didn't have. In otherwords if you have financial difficulties, that is not to be broadcast. Don't ask for assistance, because it's embarrassing, Use what you got to get what you want was another thing that was told to me as a child. I knew some of these things were wrong, but how could I decipher the good from bad. I grew up trying to figure things out in the world. Another thing that was developed is fear of eating, or spending the night at other peoples houses. I was raised not to eat because people are evil, and not to sleep at others' home because they are not clean. So, as an adult I had all these belief systems that needed to be reconstructed with truth. I had developed a fear although noone was aware of this, but I started being careful where I sit in someone's home, if I went to use their restroom I had to look at the toilet to make sure it was clean, in restaurants I looked at the utensils, the glasses, the food itself to make sure there wasn't anything in it that did not belong, I had developed a form of OCD. I had a fear of being in crowds, because that's when conflict arises, so I didn't go to house parties or to many school events. 

    So, now as an adult I have figured out that a lot of my OCD issues were developed by false beliefs. How do you demolish false belief systems? You have to seek answers by reading, researching and asking questions to family members about why were these beliefs passed on to you.

    I personally realized that the beliefs were passed on to me, because a cousin of mine, was poisoned, she went out to a club with friends, had drinks and someone slipped a mickey in her drink. She passed away. So of course the family members had issues with these things already, and it just built more mistrust in the world that we all live in. Our belief system was then validated, but it was validated using fear as a way to keep us from experiencing life. 

    What are some of your belief systems that are giving you a false sense of exhistence, false sense of security, and causing you to have emotional and mental stressors in your life.

    Here are a few examples of belief systems that have been passed along to us through our home life and church life.

    Behavioral beliefs, how we should behave, should we express our true feelings, or supress our feelings, anger, outburst in order to get our way. Unconscious beliefs, maybe you think you are better than someone else because of your education or financial status in the world, Conscious beliefs you could be very arrogant and prideful, noone can correct you, rational beliefs they seem right, but maybe its not completely rational thinking. Religion is a major belief system that maybe you feel that your race is the chosen race and noone else is truly saved, or worthy of salvation. 

    We have to renew our minds, changing our worldly views and breaking the negative belief systems that cause us heartache, confusion and pain. 

    Romans 12:2 says Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and perfect. 

    2 Samuel 24:14 says David said to Gad, I am in deep distress. Let us fall into the hands of the Lord for his mercy. But do not let me fall into human hands.

    We have to first identify the issues we have, then place them at the alter of God, allowing him to transform us into a new person by changing our old ways of thinking. 
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    7 min
  • Wounds from words spoken over our lives.

    Wounds from words spoken over our lives.
    Oct 2 2023

    I pray that today finds you in good spirits, I pray that you have overcome wounds that you never thought you could or would overcome and heal from. Today, we will talk about wounds from words spoken in your life. Many people have said that sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt us. That is not true. 

    According to Proverbs 18:21 Amplified states: Death and Life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it and indulge it will eat its fruit and bear the consequences of their words.

    Colossians 3:8-9 states: But now you yourselves are to put off all these: anger, wrath, malice, blasphemy, filthy language out of your mouth. 9. Do not lie to one another, since you have put off the old man with his deeds, 10. and have put on the new man who is renewed in knowledge according to image of Him who created him

    When I was a child I remember my grand mother saying if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all. Once I got older I realized that the word nice is deceptive, although it starts out complimentary, it ends and deceptive. So I understand now that we should be kind with our words. Kindness is being truthful, but with tact as Jesus spoke he spoke truth even when he addressed his disciples and Mary Magdalene. However, in society today we have people just spreading hate speech all across this land, people are slandering others names, and then we have those that gossip about others personal lives and it causes alot of discord. 

    Depending on how you use your words they can go out and set a tone to do you or the person those words were meant for, some very hard times. Do you ever ask yourself why Proverbs 18:21 states that the power of llife in death are in the tongue, its because once we received the Holy Spirit, then we have the same power in us to speak blessings or curses over our lives or the lives of others.

    How many of you have had someone close to you or even family members curse you telling you that you are no good, you're bummy, you are low class and will never amount to anything. Those words are harmful to a person's mental state. Especially, when it comes from someone you respected. That's why we need to be mindful of the things that we say out of our mouths, because once you said it, it's too late to turn back from it. The enemy used you to belitte someone and damage them to the point that they feel useless. Some words that have been said to some people have also caused them to commit suicide. Words to people can damage more sometimes than actions. I know that people will tell you to grow a pair, or they'll tell you that you need to get tougher skin and stop wearing your feelings on your sleeves.

    Here's the thing, if you don't like being talked to harshly, then don't you speak harshly, if you don't like being lied on then don't lie to others, if you don't like being gossiped about or slandered then don't you gossip or slander anyone. See we sit and become hypocrites about the very thing we don't want done to us and it causes havoc in our lives. 

    I wish that we could all realize the hypocrisy of the society that we live in today. Its more or less that it's not offensive to you until it happens to you, or it's not your problem until it happens to you. I recall years ago being around some one that said they couldn't believe a paticular individual fell in to adultry because of the Leadership position, they compared themselves to that person saying I wouldn't fall into that, and of course, the Lord had to show them that the very words you said about someone else, is now your situation, and now your sitation is out publicly. Would you want people to show you mercy, because that's what the other person was wanting when they went through it.  We have to stop pretending or feeling like we are untouchable. Stop spreading slander, stop using your words to hurt others and you have all rights to stop someone from speaking negatively about your life, your children, your job, your finances and your spiritual walk. If you are upset, frustrated, or anxious about something, be slow to speak and quick to listen, that's one of the best things you can do to keep from saying something you didn't mean to say.

    If you have ever spoken words over yourlife or anyone you can recant them in prayer. You just go into prayer asking the Lord to retract every negative statement and you name it out in prayer and allow uplifting, empowering, encouraging words to come from your lips, let them be blessings and not curses and end in Jesus Mighty name. Amen.

    We have to watch every word that we say even in joking, I'm not saying you can't have fun, but just be careful that you don't place word curses over yourself or anyone else, no matter how upset you are, remain silent as Jesus did with Pontius Pilate.

     
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    7 min
  • Soul Ties Influencing Your Life and What are They?

    Soul Ties Influencing Your Life and What are They?
    Sep 16 2023
    Good day everyone! I pray that you all have been doing well and that the Lord has truly been dealing with you all in different areas of your lives. I pray that all is well with your spirits, your mental health, and your financial health as well. Today, I want to talk to you about the topic of Soul ties. I'm almost positive that at some point in your christian life or journey, you have heard the term Soul ties, and were told that they need to be broken from your life.  If you have not heard it, let me give you some insight on the definition. A soul tie is an emotional and spiritual connection between two people. It can be formed through relationships and interactions with certain individuals such as family members, friends, co-workers, romantic partners and even pets. Soul ties can be long-lasting and effect you or impact your life in a negative way, which develops into strongholds. Some of these ties will leave us feeling depressed, anxious, suicidal, angry, financially distressed, emotionally unhealthy and could cause us to ultimately turn away from the Lord depending on the magnitude of the soul tie and its influences. Let me break this down from a biblical perspective. According to Genesis 2:24 It reads: Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. 1 Corinthians 6:16 reads: Or do you not know that he who is joined to a prostitute becomes one body with her? For, as it is written, the two will become one flesh" 1 Corinthians 6:18 reads: Flee from sexual immoraility. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body. Galatians 5:1 reads: For freedom Christ has set us free; stand firm therefore, and do not submit again to a yoke of slavery. From a biblical perspective the reason, we were to refrain from sexual relationships until marriage, is because once you have broken the seal of virginity, which is sacred to marriage vows, you have now become one flesh with the individual you have slept with. Now, lets go further, for everyone that you slept with, and the other person slept with, you have formed a soul tie with them, even if you have not slept with the other individuals. What happens is that the spirit transfers to each one, so if someone is dealing with the spirit of poverty, sucidal, depression, anxiety, low-self esteem, anger, jealousy, whoremongering, etc, then that spirit will spread within the groups of people that either of the two people initally slept with. In other words, if I slept with 5 different people, I have a soul tie with each one of them, and if each one of them are dealing with any of the listed things I previously mentioned, then that starts to manifest itself in my life and the life of anyone else I sleep with, then if they in turn sleep with others the cycle goes on and on and not only do I pass things from myself to others, but others past things to others and we're all in what you would call a bigamist relationship not knowing or understanding the spiritual effects it can and will have on our lives. How, because consummation (sexual intercourse) was the action making a marriage complete, if there was no consummation for a year then the marriage is not considered a marriage until intercourse takes place. In society today, we have gotten away from the morals and values from the bible and we considered them to be old fashioned, but the instructions are clear in the word of God. We have so many people dealing with traumas, wounds from past relationships and we're looking for ways to escape the pain, not realizing that its an accumulation of childhood trauma, combined with the soul ties we have in our lives.  Let me dig deeper, say for instance you have a group of girlfriends that you hang out with on a consistent basis. The soul tie that you will make is your menses will sync up, each one will experience their time of the month a few days apart from each other, or a week a part from each other, also these same friends if one becomes pregnant, another will within a few weeks or months apart from each other.  Also, the same group of friends can be married and if there is maritial problems within the group say arguing ensues with one couple, the next week it will be the next couple and so forth and so on. The sad thing is that they don't recognize the cycle and don't understand the spiritual connections behind it. A soul tie can also cause you to push others that recognize the difference in you away. You will begin to think that they are jealous of your relationship, or they don't know what they are talking about. Listen if someone is draining your mental ability to cope with life in a positive manner as you did before they came into your life, then this is when you need to do a self examination of the relationship. You may have entangled yourself with a negative soul tie. It doesn't mean that the person is a bad person, it just means that you need ...
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    18 min
  • Are you dealing with stubbornness leading you the wrong way? How? and Why?

    Are you dealing with stubbornness leading you the wrong way? How? and Why?
    Jul 19 2023
    I believe all of us in times have dealt with someone who exhibits stubborn behaviors and we either ignore them or we address them with truth. We have probably gotten cursed out, because people don't want to deal with the truth of their behaviors. Well, the word of the Lord gives us correction, and sometimes we get upset when we read his word, so we begin to overlook different scriptures dealing with our own attitudes, or behaviors so to speak. I know you're asking yourself what does this have to do with stubbornness? My answer to that is a lot!  Most of us do not handle correction well, we are set in our ways and for so long we haven't had any true friends that loved us enough to tell us the truth about ourselves.  Proverbs 12:1 says: whoever loves disicpline loves knowledge, but he who hates reproof is stupid. Proverbs 29:1 says: He who is often reproved, yet stiffens his neck, will suddenly be broken beyond healing. Stubbornness is defined as having or showing dogged determination not to change one's attitude or position on something, especially in-spite of good arguments or reasons to do so. Refusal to learn from experience, someone that is hard to convince, persuade or move.  It's also a sign of insecurity and a way to hold onto a very fragile mental equillibrium. It is said that truly strong people know how to compromise when necessary. It is also said that Stubborn people are often fearful of change, which explains the rigidity that characterizes much of their behavior. People who have been wounded hold on to their points of view, because they feel vulnerable or they don't want to feel that they are weak, or that they aren't standing up for themselves. It's their protective mechanisms kicking in to form a barrier wall of protection. Their mindset is that, I'm not going to allow anyone to get the best of me again, and that they are protecting themselves from becoming a victim again. The stinking thinking forms. Once people have experienced mental, emotional and or physical abuse, they do view things differently. Those that have experienced mental and emotional abuse state that they could have dealt with the physical abuse better, Why? Because, it's just physical scars, and the mental and emotional is worse. They feel that it's harder because they deal with feelings of depression, suicidal thoughts, not knowing what to feel or even how to feel. I can relate, but at the same time I was a victim of all three the mental, emotional and physical abuse. I'm not saying that my case was worse, it depends on each individuals experience and how they dealt with their life while going through it. My physical scars you can't see them, my emotional and mental scars are their, but I have learned to deal with life from a spiritual point. If it wasn't for the word of the Lord I truly don't know where I'd be at this moment in my life. It was only the Lord that healed me from my stinking thinking. I felt that I needed to vindicate myself and retalliate against those that did harm to me, but reading the word showed me that I had to forgive others, so that I could be forgiven. So, I had to face my emotional, mental and physical abuse issues head on. I took a look in the mirror and I hated what I saw staring back at me. The pain from it all was depressing, and I truly wanted to end the pain, the sufferring, I really didn't think about what would happen to my son, I just wanted to be free from the pain. That was my stinking thinking, before my mindset changed. I thought that I needed to be strong, don't allow anyone to tell me anything, because they're not walking in my shoes, so I developed this strong willed attitude, because I didn't want to be a victim, or feel weak. I made myself not feel, I got angry when something caused me to shed a tear, I was so jacked up mentally and emotionally and dealing with the physical scars that only my husband that I'm married to now, and I can see. I felt worthless at some points in my life. I was determined to not allow anyone to get the best of me again.  That type of thinking was the birth of me becoming stubborn or hard headed. I had to decide not to allow the pain to cause me to complain or spiral downward into that depressed state of mind, the enemy of our souls will bring past situations up in order to paralyze us from reaching the destiny that the Lord has for us. I was searching for peace, and I didn't want to be robbed of a future designed by the Lord. So, Yes! I thought my stubbornness was actually helping me and keeping me from being abused. The Lord wants us to be set free from those burdens, those things that so easily besets us. Although we all have had some form of trials, struggles in life, I personally feel that once we get on the other side of the pain, we can begin to see clearer and learn the lesson from it. Now, I look back and I know the difference of being in a healthy relationship compared to a toxic one. I had to make up my mind to not be a victim over ...
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    32 min
  • Refrain from the Norm

    Refrain from the Norm
    Jun 8 2023
    STOP don't fall for the normal tricks, you know the one that got you hurt the last time, and the time before. You know the pattern that you always tend to fall for, either in intimate relationships or in friendships. What is wrong with you? Why do you keep setting yourself up for failure, and then fall into a depressed state? Do you have " use me" written across your forehead, or, are you putting too much expectations on relationships, or in people who do not care about the relationship as much as you? Why do we automatically feel that just because you associate with someone that you are best friends or that it would be a two-sided relationship? In relationships, you must have common interests, and you should get to know each other on different levels. Get to know a persons character, the morals and values, their pet peaves or likes and dislikes.  When we speak or elaborate on the norm, What are we truly asking? Are we inquiring about the norms of society? or the norm for different genders? or the norm for different ethnic groups and races of people? or the norm for those that are christian or athiest?  I think that the norm is basically what each individual or group considers to be normal based on experiences.  For example: An abusive home life compared to a nurturing homelife. If someone has grown up in an abusive home, would it be fair to assume, that they think it is normal? Especially if they only witnessed abuse throughout their life.  Would someone that was raised in a nurturing home understand the problems of someone that was raised in an abusive home? How would they respond to visiting someone in an abusive environment? Would they have more understanding of the behaviors of the abuse victim?  Would they sympathize with the individual? Would they think that it is just a victims mentality they are protraying, are they seeking attention from others if they share their life history, or have they overcome these obstacles in life and share their testimony to help others, or express who they are and what they've overcome in life as a way of strengthening themselves?  For me I share my testimony, because I am amazed how the Lord brought me through and I still have peace, joy, happiness. You know the unspeakable joy the bible speaks about. I have that type of joy now in my life. I am ever so thankful to the Lord, he is the one who gets the Glory when we share what he brought us through, and it helps others who think they are alone to know that their is someone else in the world that experienced what they have and survived.  My life as a teenager and into adulthood was surrounded by abuse for many years, things that I witnessed as a child with different female relatives and even while in school. It had my thought process thinking that abuse was normal, being hit by a man, keeping you in line. But, then as I got older and started dating I found that it was not normal, but constant occurrence. I personally experienced domestic violence in different relationships and each time I thought I was getting out, I ended right back in a new abusive relationship, if it wasn't sexual assault, it was financial, verbal or physical abuse. It truly became my normal for a few years, until the last straw. That's what I thought!  Relationships would start out beautiful, but after a few months it would go down like a fiery flame. I don't know what changed, was it me, was I naive? Did I miss something? Did I cause the problem or did they have a problem? Why didn't I see the evidence, or did I just dismiss the evidence? Those were the questions I started asking myself after decades of turmoil. I know those maybe the same questions you might have asked yourself as well. Sometimes we can get so wrapped up in the beauty of the relationship that we miss those signs when he/she would get verbally aggressive and chalk it up to them having a bad day at work or something. Other times we dismiss the aggressive grab or push and they realize it, so they immediately apologize, so again you dismiss this behavior as a bad day or bad mood. It was evident already where this would end up, but you stayed in it, because it felt good to be loved. I know; and so we decide to give it a try after all, he/she couldn't be that bad of a person. Look at how many friends they have, and the fun we have together, the family life, and yes you feel security there, or is it a facade? As I got older I realized that a person can only pretend to be something they are not for about 30 to 60 days, you'll start to see evidence within 30 days, but chalk it off to something else. Guess what? You just fell into the pattern of the norm that you are accustomed to. Things you need to refrain from: Rushing a relationship, having intimate relations after a short period of time, sharing past relationship failures, and letting people know just how vulnerable you are. Once I realized that fighting, yelling, sexual abuse, financial abuse or control was not normal, I ...
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    21 min
  • What's residing in your heart?

    What's residing in your heart?
    May 11 2023
    Do you know what's in your heart, and where the root of your troubles come from? Do you wonder or ask yourself why you feel sadness? Why do you get angry about different situations more than others? Are you upset about how you handle situations? Do you question your thoughts or the opinions of others, because you feel uneasy or uncertain about life, and or the general direction your life is going? Are you trying to find yourself, because you feel lost? Have you experienced so much turmoil in life that you second guess everything you think and every thing that is spoken to you?  Do you analyze every decision you've made for your life?  These are signs of insecurity! Insecurities are basically you doubting yourself and having a form of anxiety.  Insecurity can reside in your heart due to past criticisms. Criticisms are not always bad. You have creative criticism which comes from someone who has noticed your potential, such as a teacher, friend, relative or talent agent.  They see the potential in you and they give you insight on some things that you may not have noticed about yourself, in order to improve, develop, or cultivate you into a better version of yourself. It will help you overcome obstacles that could hinder you in the course of your life. They actually have your best interest at heart. Then, you have criticism from negative influences that may tell you, you're overweight, you don't look good, you'll never amount to anything, you're stupid, you can't develop that podcast, you can't write that book, you can't become that lawyer, doctor, teacher, financial advisor, or business owner, you're worthless. These sorts of thoughts primarily come from childhood and some adulthood, as we grow we come across people, no matter whether they are friend, family or foe, that have been recruited by the enemy to discourage us from the plan that the Lord has for us. They belittle us, bully us, and make us feel useless and sometimes it is from someone we hold dear to our hearts or someone we admired.  Guess what? You took what they said as the gospel, because you trusted them, and you replayed what they said to you, over and over again; until you believed what they said was truth. That's how the enemy does, he tells us lies about ourselves to keep us in turmoil of our soul. If you repeat something to yourself enough times, whether it's true or not you'll tend to believe it, whether good or bad. This is the point where the root has settled in your heart. It becomes your belief system. When something resides in your heart, it sits there as if planted like a tree and you have to remove it. NO you can't call a tree removal service, you can't get an escavator, you need Jesus to come in and transform your way of thinking, cleanse your heart and mind, and that is done by reading the word of the Lord. You transform your way of thinking, by the renewing of your mind.  Romans 12:2 says: Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is-his good, pleasing and perfect will. How do you find out what resides in your heart? Listen to the words that come from your lips. Luke 6:45 says: A good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and an evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart.  Basically, the mouth speaks what the heart is full of.  So, if you're full of negativity, then negativity comes out. Stop the negative self talks and speak positive, even if you don't see it. Stop believing the lies that have been rooted in your thought process and tangled in your heart by the enemy. Change your belief system. He comes to kill, steal and destroy.  But, through Christ Jesus you are more than a couqueror.  The next time you get angry or frustrated jot down those things that come to your mind, whether good or bad, find out what's in your heart. If it's evil, then you pray asking the Lord to show you where, why, and how the root or thought came about? Then ask him to remove it from you. Be honest, transparent with him. The Lord already knows you, your thoughts, and where he wants you to be, what it's going to take to get you there, so don't be ashamed of your faults. Give them all to the Lord, he is the one who can and will deliver you, heal you and redeem you. Besides, he already knows what's in your heart.  It is very liberating when you can confess your thoughts to the Lord, and then ask him to help you. I remember having a situation with my ex-husband. I was so angry, I asked the Lord did you see what he did to me? What are you going to do about it?  Then, I said well, Lord, You said in your word that vengeance is yours, but I don't see you doing anything, and well I guess I'll just take care of this myself.  Needless to say, I was crying even more than what I had already been, and nothing I tried to do came to past.  I was extremely hurt, I was naive, my spouse and I ...
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    16 min
  • Are you holding on to relationships due to fear of being alone?

    Are you holding on to relationships due to fear of being alone?
    Apr 18 2023

    Are you holding on to relationships, because you are afraid of being alone? Are you settling for the mistreatment, disrespect, abusive language because they tell you they love you? Are you holding on to that abuser who hits you because, you didn't get dinner cooked on time, or you didn't give them money to go shopping, or to buy drugs or alcohol.  I have one question. Why? Do you devalue yourself that much, that you would tolerate the mistreatment just for someone who claims to love you, but is bringing you down spiritually, mentally, emotionally and financially? I'm not men bashing, because there are women that are out her that do the same things. 

    I'm here to set you free. You are more than what you think and you deserve more than what you are getting. Do not crawl up in a ball and cry yourself to sleep over someone who has done you wrong and who has no desire of changing. If they hit you once, they will hit you again. I know first hand. Everything that I share with you is from first hand knowledge. It wasn't until I decided, I wanted something different, that changes began to be made. I had to make up in my mind that I wanted better. Sweethearts, you have to make up in your mind that you want more, you want better, you want to be treated well and not have fear of being alone for a period of time. You will need that time to heal from the abuse you sustained, if you don't you will just carry that baggage  into another relationship and it will fail. There are no ifs, ands, or buts, about it. 

    Sometimes we hold on to failing relationships, because we are afraid of starting over, or we're afraid of financial situations, emotional attachments, the intimacy of it all, but ask yourself this. Was it healthy for you? Are you able to laugh? Do you have joy?  Are you happy in what you have right at this moment? or, Are you pretending to be all those things just to save face with your peers? 

    You have to be able to face some hard truths when deciding on what is best for you, your health, your mental state. I would say to you chose wisely. There is nothing so sad then someone to spend over 20 plus years of there life with someone that they truly never knew or never truly loved, and what about the one who says after that time period I only married you for convenience.  That is a hurtful thing to have happen.  Think about what is best for you, I'm not telling anyone to leave their marriage, I'm talking to those of you who have been in relationships that are abusive and your life is in harms way. 

    For those of you who are married, seek counseling, but by all means make the right decision for your situation, because everyone situation is different, and the resolution maybe different for each person's situation.

    Here's my prayer for you tonight:

    Dear Lord, I come to you today with lifted hands thanking you for being our Heavenly Father, our protector, redeemer, our prince of peace, the lily of the valley, the bright and morning star. I thank you for your son dying on the cross for our sins and transgressions. Lord right now I lift up the listeners of open the wound asking that you touch each and everyone of them under the sound of my voice. Touch them in the areas of weakness, despair, frustrations, those that are feeling unloved, defeated and they have no way of escape. Show them Lord that you are there with them, wrap your loving arms around them and comfort them, bring peace where there is confusion and restore what is broken, mend it back together better than before. Send men and women of God around them to encourage and strengthen them. I pray that hearts be healed, minds are restored and renewed and the peace of God will be upon you all in Jesus Mighty name I pray. Amen

     
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    11 min
  • Love past your pain

    Love past your pain
    Apr 12 2023

    I know it hurts, but you have to give it a chance. Don't allow the enemy to steal or rob you of what could be a gift from the Lord. You'll always wonder if you let it pass you by. What am I talking about? I'm talking about the opportunity to love, to have a real love, something that is so wonderful it makes you feel like that little giddy school girl or boy with their first crush. I'm talking about the love that the Lord speaks about, the unconditional love, agape love.  In christianity it is the highest form of love, the love of God for man, and of man for God. 

    Is it possible to have such a love in the natural since? Yes, you can have that unconditional love for your spouse, your children, and in friendships. That type of love, that unconditional love allows you to love people after they have done something to hurt you. Your're able to move past the hurt, forgive them and still show love. That is the type of love that only the holy spirit can give you.

    In the book of Hosea the Lord is expressing to us how we have gone after other gods and turned away from him, but he still shows us his love and receives us back. Hosea was directed by God to find a wife of harlotry, and he bore children with her, she also already had children from other men. What the Lord demonstrates is how his people turned from him to go after foreign gods, they forgot all the things they were given and how he set them free. No matter how much pain he felt he still loved them, but he allowed them to go through a few seasons of turmoil to get them to realize he never left them. Sometimes we have to remove ourselves from a situation so that people's eyes can be opened. So the Lord had to show them how it feels to be rejected by the one you show love to, and no matter what he still showed love.

    The Lord made so many sacrifices for us and even today we do not appreciate who he is in our lives. So many times we show and give out our love to people who do not deserve it, they step all over us, lie, cheat, verbally abuse, and some of us just lie down and take it humbly, but there are others that will fight back or seek revenge. I'm not talking about them, I'm talking about those of us who truly love past the pain, trying to be everything that the Lord has placed in us, but you just keep getting punched in the gut.

    I say to you, don't give up, I know the feeling, I know the tears you've cried, I know the heartache and disappointments, and its from people you least expected. Let me tell you, don't allow satan's schemes to rob you of your joy or who God has made you to be. Exemplify the love of Jesus Christ and you will not go wrong. People will mock you, judge you, and persecute you for the name of Jesus, but I stand for him and make no apologies for it. He has showed me how to love past all the pain I have endured, and still teaches me daily. The biggest thing you can ever achieve is to love someone who has done you wrong, or hurt you to your core. I can honestly say, I have overcome some very toxic situations, the word of the Lord says this: NIV 1 Peter 4:8 Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.

    Love past the pain you sustained, you forgive as the Lord showed us in Hosea, and allow the Lord to work out every situation, we have to continue doing the will of God, being who he created us to be. 

    Hosea 14:9 AMP says Whoever is spiritually wise, let him understand these things; Whoever is spiritually discerning and understanding, let him know them. For the ways of the Lord are right and the righteous will walk in them. But transgressors will stumble and fall in them.

    I pray that you will give love a chance, don't put everyone in the same catergory, because you think someone is going to hurt you. Don't ever say what you want do, because you may just find yourself doing that very thing you swore you'd never do again. I gave love a chance once more, and it was the best decision of my life. I learned how to love past my pain. 

     
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