**This is a driving episode: not driving as in hard-hitting, but driving as in I’m actually driving while I record. It’s where I think best.**

Yes, our parents did the best they could for the times they were in. AND a lot of us came out of our childhoods with complex issues of unexpressed pain, compressed autonomy and aspects of our denied emotional lives that are still stored in our bods and wreaking havoc on our goals.

In this episode we talk about why therapy is only part of the picture of healing and the origins of CPTSD: EMDR, religious trauma, codependency, addiction…oh my!

Pete Walker’s book on CPTSD is the bomb. Find it here

I share stuff about my own CPTSD, how easy it is to be in denial and to breeze over feelings I never actually felt. I also talk about the core principle of developing in community and the importance of trust.

Modern therapists are focused on co-regulating us and that could be a problem for those of us that never had someone angry on our behalf.

My website: krisadams.me

My writing: krisadams.substack

Kris admits she's not a master of self-development and has no interest in branding. She gives the layout here of some of her intersections: ADHD, ACOA, recovering from narcissistic relationships, strict religious thinking. She shares initial thoughts on somatic work, authentic listening and the importance of curiosity.

Website for 1:1 coaching: https://www.krisadams.me/

Donations: venmo @essentialflow

Writing: https://krisadams.substack.com/

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