You ever find yourself stuck — your brain playing the same mental track on repeat? That loop of doubt, second-guessing, and what-ifs that you can’t switch off? It’s exhausting AND believe it or not, those loops aren’t your enemy.

They’re the secret doorway to a kind of confidence no one talks about.

My guest on this episode, Amy Kemp, has spent years untangling how these mental patterns work. She’s not here to hand you easy answers or you-go-girl pep talks. Instead, she helps us see the messy, tangled process beneath the polished idea of confidence — how real strength comes from leaning into those repeating thoughts, not trying to silence them.

Get ready because Amy and I get intimate with those thought loops — the ones that trip us up, keep us stuck, and sometimes even feel like our worst enemy. Then, Amy shows us how to tune into the vital clues these loops carry. If you learn to listen to your thoughts differently, you can find your way out and rebuild confidence from the ground up.

No pretending to be fearless. No faking it till you make it. It’s about owning the struggle, understanding what your mind’s really doing, and using that knowledge to create a confidence that’s solid, authentic, and unshakable.

Highlights from our conversation:

• Why the mental loops you dread are actually the foundation of lasting confidence.
• How embracing discomfort rewires your brain to break free from stuck thinking.
• The patterns hidden inside your thought loops that signal where your real power lies.
• Why confidence grows through fear, not despite it.
• Concrete steps to turn repetitive doubts into your greatest strengths.

Amy Kemp is the owner & CEO of Amy Kemp, Inc. As a certified Habit Finder coach, Amy helps leaders and business professionals understand how deeply thought habits impact every part of their work and lives. Learn more about Amy, her work and her book, I See You, at amykemp.com.

I’ve spent years studying what real confidence looks like—studying it, practicing it, helping other people build it. And one thing I know for sure? Most of us are still waiting for permission.

We think once the signs are all pointing the right way, or we’ve gathered enough evidence, or we feel 100% certain, then we’ll choose. Then we’ll move. Then we’ll feel confident.

But that’s not how it works. That’s not how it ever works.

Confidence doesn’t show up fully formed before the decision. It shows up because of it. You choose first—often in the fog, often with shaky hands—and then, step by step, the confidence follows.

That choice might be finally walking away from a job you’ve outgrown. It might be naming what you really want in a relationship that’s been in “polite autopilot” for too long. It might be applying for the thing you’re not quite “qualified” for, or saying no to something everyone else thinks you should want.

These aren’t easy choices. But they’re the ones that shift everything.

This episode is for the moment right before you move—when you’re circling the truth but haven’t spoken it yet, when the decision is hanging in the air and your brain is still begging for a guarantee. The kind that says, I want “this”, even if no one else claps.

If you’ve been circling something—an idea, a shift, a truth you’re not quite ready to say out loud—this episode’s for you. Because we’re going to talk about what it takes to choose your life before it all makes sense and why that’s often the most confident move you can make.

When I invited Nina Manelson onto the Real Confidence podcast, I wasn't prepared for how deeply the phrase "body peace" would hit home. There I was, thinking I'd mastered body image stuff (hello, recent weight loss!), but within minutes I was like, "Wait, she's reading my diary?" The way Nina explained our relationship with our bodies hit me right in the heart.

I've spent DECADES in what Nina calls "body hate." You know that voice, right? The one that whispers "you shouldn't have eaten that" after every damn cookie. The one that blames EVERYTHING on your size. Zipper breaks? Because you're fat. Knees hurt? Fat. Didn't get that job? Definitely because you're fat.

I literally blamed my body for all my problems! Nina nailed it when she said this toxic relationship affects literally everything – from how we show up in bed with our partners to how we pitch ideas in meetings. The mental space this crap takes up is EXHAUSTING.

So there we were chatting, and Nina does this thing where she has me put my hand on my heart and just say "hello body." I'm not even kidding – I felt something shift instantly. It was like... peace. Just simple peace.

It wasn't some complex therapy technique or 30-day challenge. Just acknowledgment. Connection. Nina kept saying body peace isn't about suddenly loving every dimple (though wouldn't that be nice?), it's a practice, like any relationship. Some days you're madly in love, other days you're annoyed as hell, but you stay in conversation.

What really got me was when Nina talked about her clients who stopped obsessing over food rules and body management BS and started, you know, LIVING (one woman who had been spending all her mental energy on clean eating and workouts suddenly freed up so much headspace that she went back to school, got a major promotion, and basically reclaimed her life).

That's when it clicked for me – body confidence isn't just about feeling prettier in photos. It's about the freedom to be a whole damn person again.

Listen to the conversation and:

• Discover why body comparison is actually a form of self-sabotage (and how to catch yourself doing it)
• Understand why the traditional "wellness culture" approach might be keeping you trapped in body management instead of true body connection
• Learn how a simple 30-second practice can begin repairing your relationship with your body starting today
• Find out why Nina believes our relationship with our body is the most important relationship of our life
• Hear about the surprising connection between body peace and professional confidence

Learn more about Nina Manolson at ninamanolson.com and her Body Peace Journal and masterclass.