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  • 139 - Inside the mind of successfully recovered porn addicts

    139 - Inside the mind of successfully recovered porn addicts
    Oct 22 2025
    What is it that makes some people successful in sex or porn addiction recovery? There are several key commitments/mindsets/beliefs that all individuals who get into recovery share and we are breaking them down in today's episode. 1. They want recovery (intrinsic motivation) 2. They commit to honesty no matter the cost 3. They are willing to get uncomfortable to the point of sacrifice 4. They Understand it's a long term commitment 5. If married, they own it and take responsibility for the impact We notice that everyone who recovers shares these ways of thinking and behaving. If you are a betrayed partner, these are good landmarks to look out for when you are wondering if recovery is real. You may also want to listen to previous episodes: Sobriety vs Recovery (ep 96): https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-sex-addiction-support-betrayal/id1674653111?i=1000684064277 Choosing your Identity in Recovery (ep 7): https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-sex-addiction-support-betrayal/id1674653111?i=1000606456712

    If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql

    Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8

    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2

    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org

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    46 min
  • 138 - Where Modesty Culture Goes Wrong

    138 - Where Modesty Culture Goes Wrong
    Oct 15 2025

    Modesty is a good thing right? But what if the messaging around modesty keeps individuals stuck and instead of protecting people, actually causes harm?

    In today’s episode Kylene and Patrick discuss why they think that the pornography culture and modesty culture have the same end impact —> that is, communicating that humans are objects.

    We know this is a sticky topic and one that involves deeply rooted faith culture, personal conviction and more. We encourage you to listen to this episode with open hearts.

    If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql

    Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8

    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2

    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org

    Follow Kylene:

    On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune

    On IG: @KyleneTerhune
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    1 h
  • 137 - Learning to Trust Yourself and Making the Tough Decisions

    137 - Learning to Trust Yourself and Making the Tough Decisions
    Oct 8 2025
    Today's guest is Kaija Dawn, a relationship coach specializing in sacred intimacy, nervous system regulation, and relationship energetics.

    She shares her personal story and together she and Kylene discuss making difficult choices, learning to trust yourself through the process, and feeling vs intellectualizing decisions. You can find Kaia on Instagram @iamkaijadawn and her podcast: The Woman Behind it All Listen to the episode where she interviewed Kylene here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/041-repair-boundaries-and-healing-after-betrayal-in/id1770275741?i=1000726891473

    If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql

    Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8

    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2

    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org

    Follow Kylene:

    On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune

    On IG: @KyleneTerhune
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    43 min
  • 136 - Redefining Milestones: Rings and Anniversaries after Betrayal

    136 - Redefining Milestones: Rings and Anniversaries after Betrayal
    Oct 1 2025
    After discovery, a betrayed partner is left trying to make sense of a reality that suddenly feels upside down. Moments and symbols once filled with joy -like wedding photos, anniversaries, rings - can now feel heavy and confusing.

    In today’s episode, Kylene and Patrick share their personal approach to some of these difficult moments. They explore the emotions these events bring up from both perspectives, and reflect on the different choices other couples may make as they move through their own recovery journeys.

    If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql

    Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8

    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2

    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org

    Follow Kylene:

    On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune

    On IG: @KyleneTerhune
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    59 min
  • 135 - Navigating Sobriety: Expect the Unexpected

    135 - Navigating Sobriety: Expect the Unexpected
    Sep 24 2025
    In today's episode, Kylene and Patrick share several experiences to anticipate as you navigate initial sobriety from porn or sex addiction patterns including:
    • Dreams and Intrusive Thoughts
    • Uncomfortable Emotions
    • Nocturnal Emissions
    • Alternative coping mechanisms or behaviors
    They discuss the importance of choice through sobriety, how deep recovery means living a life making conscious choices vs falling into the belief that life just happens to you. They also share some basic techniques to help in the moment of stress in order to feel more grounded, become more present, and step into conscious choice. They mentioned the Intrusive Thoughts Episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-sex-addiction-support-betrayal/id1674653111?i=1000652006011 and the Faster Scale which they discuss in more detail in this episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/recoveru-betrayal-trauma-sex-addiction-support-betrayal/id1674653111?i=1000658758308

    If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql

    Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8

    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2

    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org

    Follow Kylene:

    On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune

    On IG: @KyleneTerhune
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    53 min
  • 134 - Facing Life's Hard Moments After Betrayal

    134 - Facing Life's Hard Moments After Betrayal
    Sep 17 2025
    Content Warning: Today's episode is discussing some of traumatic events that have happened in our society lately and that are all over the news leading to a heavier episode. Please be aware of where you are in your recovery if this episode is appropriate for you. Things we discuss: The impact of national violence and how it impacts us individually How societal change starts individually The importance of connection and community for mental health, grieving and healing Our personal faith and how it impacts our views on how we love others Kylene's health scares and how they impact her view of the world and her life While this episode is heavier than most, we hope it also helps you feel seen, encouraged, and loved.
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    47 min
  • 133 - When Both Are Hurting: The Complex Layers of Recovery

    133 - When Both Are Hurting: The Complex Layers of Recovery
    Sep 10 2025

    Life and recovery are rarely simple. Sometimes, unique dynamics add even more layers to an already complex journey.

    In this episode, Kylene and Patrick explore three challenging scenarios that can complicate the recovery process:

    • What if the betrayed partner has also struggled with addiction but in another form?
    • What if the betrayed partner has also had an affair in the past?
    • What if the betrayed partner has looked at porn?

    Together, they unpack why personal responsibility matters, how choosing individual health impacts the relationship, and the importance of showing empathy for the pain we may have caused—whether intentional or not—even when we’ve been hurt ourselves.

    These are tough conversations, and one episode can’t cover every nuance. We encourage you to seek guidance from trusted professionals who can support you in your unique situation.

    If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql

    Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8

    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2

    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org

    Follow Kylene:

    On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune

    On IG: @KyleneTerhune
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    53 min
  • 132 - The Reality of Grief After Betrayal

    132 - The Reality of Grief After Betrayal
    Sep 3 2025
    As much as we wish it were, healing isn't always linear. There are ups and downs, and moments where we are living happily in the present and are reminded of the past. In today's episode Kylene and Patrick share about grief, how confusing it can feel for the betrayed partner, and how important it is to recognize that healing doesn't mean we forget what happened. It's normal for thoughts, emotions or memories to come up years later, and it's important to create safety with each other in order to have connecting conversations together.

    If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql

    Submit Questions and Feedback to the RecoverU podcast here: https://forms.gle/uww5sWK1WP8T8dbc8

    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoveru2

    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org

    Follow Kylene:

    On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune

    On IG: @KyleneTerhune
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    54 min