So many of us are frustrated by our lack of motivation or change. But here's the truth: You're not lazy. You're likely burned out, stuck in survival mode, or running on a nervous system that thinks "rest" is a threat. And willpower? It's not a moral issue—it's a limited resource, not a personality trait.

In this episode, I'm breaking down:

• Why change feels so damn hard in midlife (even when you really want it)

• What your brain is doing when you try something new—and why it slams the brakes

• How perimenopause can make motivation and memory even harder

• The difference between extrinsic and intrinsic motivation (and why one actually works)

• Why shame, blame, and "just push through" doesn't create change—but self-compassion does

This one's for every Gen X or elder millennial woman who's ever said, "I'll start Monday," only to spiral by Wednesday. Let's get into the science, the humor, and the tools that actually work when life feels stuck.

✨ Mentioned in this episode:

• Dr. Devon Price's Laziness Does Not Exist

• What's really happening in your brain during change

• Why I created Thrive Midlife (and yes, there are goats 🐐 and pizza farms 🍕)

💌 Questions or takeaways?
DM me on Instagram @kirasabin or email kira@thrivewithkira.com.
I want to hear what resonated—and where you're still feeling stuck.

Do you need more laughter and joy in midlife? That's what Thrive Midlife is all about: a small group coaching intensive for women who are ready to LIVE LIKE THEY FUCKING MEAN IT.

Real tools. Real support. Real connection. No fluff. This is your LAST chance to join Thrive before prices go up.

🍁 PLUS—this fall, we're meeting in Madison, Wisconsin for a soul-filling weekend retreat with full-on Stars Hollow in October vibes:

Lake views. Cozy sweaters. 🍎 Apple orchards. 🍕 Pizza farms. 🐐 Goats in sweaters. 🔥 Firepit chats. 🤩 Emotional breakthroughs. Real joy. Real connection.

✨ Want in? Head over to https://www.thrivewithkira.com/thrive

Welcome to the final episode of my five-part podcast series, Why Did No One Warn Us About This Midlife Sht?* If you've been feeling like the life you built doesn't quite fit anymore, you're not alone—and you're not broken.

Today's episode? This Isn't the Life I Ordered. Now What?

The episode is all about the gut-punch realization many of us face in midlife: you can create a life that looks "perfect" on paper and still feel deeply disconnected from it. Maybe the house, the career, the relationship, the life you worked so hard for… doesn't feel like you anymore.

In this episode, we dive into:

• 🎯 Why the life you built may no longer fit who you are now.

• 💔 How to process the grief that comes with outgrowing old dreams.

• 🧠 Why midlife identity crises are really powerful growth moments.

• 🔥 How positive psychology shows us that happiness isn't a destination—it's a daily practice.

• 🧩 Why your nervous system and your soul are begging for a life that feels real, not just Instagrammable.

• 🚫 The myth of the "perfect" checklist life—and why it doesn't lead to fulfillment.

• 🌱 What it really takes to build a life that fits the person you are today—not who you were 20 years ago.

Midlife isn't a crisis. It's a call to evolve. If you're tired of surviving, it's time to learn how to thrive.

💥 Ready to get the support you need?
Doors are open for the Thrive Midlife Program—an intensive, high-touch coaching experience for women who are ready to ditch the burnout and build a life that actually fits.

👉 Check out Thrive Midlife Program or grab a free call with me here.

✨ Takeaways from today's episode:

• Grief is not failure—it's a sign you're growing.

• You don't have to stay stuck in a life that doesn't fit.

• Happiness isn't about checking boxes; it's about building daily rituals that fuel you.

• Midlife is the invitation to rewrite your life—not to disappear quietly.

🔗 Resources & Links Mentioned:

• The Thrive Midlife Program — Early bird pricing extended to June 15th!

• Free Call with Kira — Let's talk about whether Thrive is right for you.

• Follow me on Instagram for Manic Mondays nostalgia and more midlife realness.

In Episode 4 of my five-part series, I'm talking about something that hits all of us in midlife: the rage.

That low-key, high-voltage, "I swear to God if the dishwasher beeps one more time..." kind of rage.

Here's the thing:
You're not broken. You're not crazy.
You're just awake — and your nervous system is officially done putting up with the bullshit.

• Why the rage isn't random — and why it's not a flaw

• What's really going on in your body (hello perimenopause, my old frenemy)

• Why your nervous system is basically a cornered raccoon right now

• How chronic stress + no emotional processing = midlife meltdown

• The two sides of unregulated rage: numbing out vs. exploding

• What NOT to do with all your rage (trust me, I've screamed at a microwave)

• What to actually do to heal, regulate, and stop losing your shit

✨ Key Takeaway:

Rage isn't the problem.
It's the flashing neon sign pointing to what needs healing.

You don't have to stay stuck in rage mode — and you definitely don't have to figure it out alone.

👯‍♀️ Want to stop white-knuckling through life and finally learn how to regulate, reset, and rebuild your energy (and your life)?

Thrive Midlife is my six-month program where we untangle all this shit with tools from neuroscience, positive psychology, and a lot of laughter.

🛠 Check out Thrive Midlife here
📅 Or book a free, no-pressure call with me

Follow me on instagram for a joy & truth bomb explosion!