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Is your behavior accidentally destroying your marriage? In this video, Kimberly Beam Holmes reveals one of the top predictors of divorce—second only to affairs—that most people don't even realize they are doing.

Control is a silent relationship killer. You might think you are just trying to "help" your spouse, protect your family, or make sure things are done "the right way." But to your partner, it feels like intrusion, intimidation, and a lack of trust.

At Marriage Helper, we see thousands of couples in crisis, and control is one of the hardest hurdles to overcome—but it IS possible. In this video, Kimberly breaks down the psychology behind why good people become controlling, the 5 distinct ways control manifests in a marriage, and gives you a 5-question self-assessment quiz to see if you are guilty of these behaviors.

In this video, you will learn:

• The Root Causes: Why fear, low self-esteem, and poor emotional regulation lead to controlling behavior.
• The 5 Types of Control: Intrusion, Intimidation, Correction, Disempowerment, and Emotional Coercion.
• The Self-Assessment: 5 honest questions to ask yourself right now.
• The Solution: Practical steps to stop controlling your spouse and start saving your marriage.

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Are you being gaslighted in your marriage, or is something else going on beneath the surface? In this video, Kimberly Beam Holmes breaks down what gaslighting actually is, how to know if it’s truly happening, and when a painful pattern in your marriage might be caused by miscommunication, different backgrounds, fear, or unhealed wounds—not intentional manipulation.

If you’ve ever felt confused, crazy, or like you’re losing your grip on reality during arguments with your spouse, this is the video you need to watch. You’ll learn the real signs of gaslighting, what makes it different from normal disagreements, and the three key statements you can use to set boundaries, stay grounded, and stop getting pulled into endless arguments.

Kimberly also explains why the term “gaslighting” is often misused, how fear can drive controlling behavior, and why two people can remember the same event in completely different ways. Most importantly, she shows you what to do when you feel invalidated, dismissed, blamed, or overwhelmed in conversations with your spouse.

In this video, you’ll learn:

• What actual gaslighting looks like in marriage
• The difference between gaslighting and conflicting perspectives
• How past experiences shape how spouses interpret situations
• Why you may feel "crazy" even when no one is gaslighting you
• Signs of emotional control or manipulation
• Three powerful statements that help you stay calm and set healthy boundaries
• How to reset destructive communication patterns
• When it’s time to pause the conversation—and how to exit with strength
• How to turn painful conflicts into productive conversations

Whether gaslighting is happening or you’re simply stuck in damaging communication loops, this video gives you actionable next steps to protect your sanity, improve conversations, and move your marriage toward healing.

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If you’re a woman who makes more money than your husband, this video is for you.

This dynamic is becoming more and more common—but many couples are struggling silently with the tension it can create. The goal of this video is not to shame success, ambition, or calling. It’s to help you protect your marriage while you continue pursuing the work you feel called to do.

I’ve been the primary income earner in my own marriage for nearly a decade. I know the pressure, the guilt, the loneliness, and the internal tug-of-war that can come with it. And I also know how easy it is to unintentionally say or do things that leave your husband feeling disrespected, unseen, or pushed away—even when that was never your intention.

Today, I’m sharing 3 things you should not say to your husband when you earn more than he does—and what to do instead so that your marriage can feel like a true team again.

Because your marriage can stay strong.
You can be successful and connected at home.
You don’t have to choose one or the other.

In this video, you’ll learn:

• Why earning more can trigger insecurity in your spouse (and what to do with that)
• How to communicate without diminishing your spouse’s role or contribution
• What to say instead of “you’re not doing enough”
• How to rebuild respect, connection, and emotional intimacy—starting today

Whether you’re an entrepreneur, executive, leader, or professional woman—this message matters. And you are not alone.

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