You do take up space in people’s lives. You do “bother” your spouse. Good. Do it on purpose and do it with love!

This episode dives into what it actually means to care for others in community—especially in recovery. Michael and Nick unpack how love isn’t just a feeling, but a choice to seek another’s good at your own expense. They talk about why presence matters more than fixing, how to receive love before trying to give it, and why isolation always kills growth. It’s an honest look at how real connection—spiritual, emotional, and physical—is built one intentional act of care at a time.

In this episode we cover

• Four kinds of love (fast + useful): phileo (friendship), storge (family allegiance), eros (passion; notably not used in the NT as a verb), agape (God’s self-giving love)
• Agape made concrete: John 13–17; “no greater love” = your good at my expense
• Presence > fixing: why texting isn’t enough, why a phone call is better, and why in-person is best (“borrow the calm”)
• Bearing burdens without controlling outcomes: Gal. 6:2 as the gut-check for real care
• Receiving before giving: if you can’t receive love, you’ll have nothing real to offer (Luke 7:36–50)
• Emotional presence for men: what it looks like to sit with anger, sadness, fear—without fixing or fleeing
• Compassion as an anchoring emotion: Jesus with the Samaritan woman (John 4); attunement before advice
• Stop the “pornified” quick fix: community is cultivated, not hacked—take the first small step and stay

Links & resources

• Free Quick Start Guide: rscky.com/quickstart
• Coaching / Next Step: rscky.com
• Instagram: @mikekamber • @nickwbuda DM “FREEDOM” on IG to get connected.

If you’re new here

Stuck in isolation? Start small. Show up somewhere this week. Ask one person for coffee. Say, “I don’t need you to fix anything—just be with me.”

How to break free from pornography and sexual brokenness through the renewal of the mind.

In this episode of the Restoration Soul Care Podcast, Michael Kamber and Nick Buda sit down with Kyle Idleman, teaching pastor at Southeast Christian Church and author of Every Thought Captive and Not a Fan.

Together they dig into one of the most critical topics facing the Church today: how to break free from pornography and sexual brokenness through the renewal of the mind. Kyle brings decades of pastoral experience and deep biblical insight to a conversation that bridges faith, neuroscience, and emotional healing.

They explore:

• Why shame never leads to true change—and how vulnerability does.
• The connection between neuroscience and spiritual transformation.
• Why both men and women are impacted by today’s pornified culture.
• How cognitive and biblical truth align in the process of healing.
• Practical steps to take every thought captive and retrain your brain.

If you’ve struggled with pornography, shame, or unwanted sexual behavior, this conversation will give you hope and a clear path toward freedom.

🎧 Listen now and remember: Don’t do this alone.

🔗 Resources & Links:

• Restoration Soul Care – Coaching, groups, and resources for recovery
• Every Thought Captive – Kyle Idleman
• The Quit Porn Quick Start Guide - Michael Kamber
• Follow Michael on Instagram: @mikekamber
• Follow Nick: @nickwbuda

Rejection stings for a day. Regret owns you for years.

If you’re tired of hiding, this episode hands you the lens—and the guts—to choose freedom.

Episode Summary

Short, punchy solo from Michael on the trade-off we all face: the short-term pain of rejection vs. the long-term weight of regret—especially in porn recovery and relational healing. We hit shame (healthy vs. toxic), integrity vs. approval, and why connection—not white-knuckling—is the exit ramp.

What You’ll Learn

• How fear of exposure (toxic shame) keeps you stuck and isolated
• Why “avoid rejection” is secretly building lifetime regret
• Integrity vs. approval: the real cost of playing it safe
• A simple way to reframe rejection as feedback (not a verdict)
• Practical prompts to move toward honest, connected relationships today

Reflection Prompts

• Where are you currently avoiding rejection?
• Which relationships are honest and safe vs. image-managed?
• What single conversation would move you toward integrity today?
• If nothing changes, what regret are you building a year from now?

Free Resource (Start Here)

Quit Porn Quick Start Guide — frameworks and practices Michael uses with clients: rscky.com/quickstart

Work With Us

Coaching & inquiries: rscky.com

IG: @mikekamber • @nickwbuda