❌ Are you stuck getting rejected after every first date? Dating apps can feel exhausting when you're anxiously trying to perform for someone who barely knows you. Aaron spent 18 months going through 50+ first dates, constantly hearing "you're great, but [polite rejection]." Sound familiar? 📱

💻 As someone who treats problems like debugging code, Aaron spent over a year Googling dating advice like error messages. He tried following the scripts, behaving as he thought people wanted, and analyzing every interaction afterward. But that people-pleasing approach just left him more exhausted and hopeless 😩

🤹🏽‍♂️ The anxiety was real. Every date felt like a performance where he had to get everything right. The more dates that didn't work out, the more he'd over-analyze why it was happening and fall deeper into rabbit holes of "doing the right thing." 🐰 The constant failure was wrecking his confidence, and 18 months in, he was ready to give up entirely.

🎯 But then something shifted. Through our work together, Aaron learned to stop treating dating like a problem to solve and started showing up as himself (anxious parts included). He stopped following generic advice and started building genuine connections, both on apps and at in-person meetups. The difference? Night and day ☀️

😎 This isn't a story about becoming "confident" overnight or following some magic formula. It's about what happens when you stop performing and start being real. In this episode, Aaron and I talk about how the coaching process helped him go from feeling hopeless to becoming more successful and even enjoying the process! 🏆

💬 If you've been rejected after every first date and feel like something must be wrong with you, listen to Aaron's story. You're not broken. You just need a different strategy 👾

🎧 Press Start and level up your dating without following any scripts! 📜

👾 WONDERING IF COACHING IS RIGHT FOR YOU?🕹️
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Related Episodes:

• From No Dates to Feeling Truly Seen and Accepted: Kirk's Story
• The Hidden Cost of Finding Love With Red Pill Dating: John’s Nerd Love Story
• 'I'm Cooked' (Where to Find Dates After College), with Single Player Brandon

Timestamps for lazy nerds:

• 00:00:00 Intro
• 00:01:14 What Makes Him a Nerd
• 00:02:30 Life Before Coaching
• 00:06:43 The Dating App Experience
• 00:10:52 Quantity vs Quality
• 00:12:12 Troubleshooting Dating
• 00:16:23 Experience with Previous Dating Coach
• 00:18:07 Date Like A Nerd Coaching
• 00:24:27 Just Be Yourself
• 00:36:51 Why There's No "Right Thing"
• 00:42:36 Knowing Yourself
• 00:45:45 Accountability in Coaching
• 00:47:33 Quick Results
• 00:51:17 Where to Meet Someone
• 00:54:58 Online Dating Improvements
• 00:59:19 Social Anxiety Improvements
• 01:00:31 A Piece of Advice

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🏋️‍♀️ Afraid to approach your gym crush? Most dating advice tells you to "just be confident and approach them," but does that actually work at the gym? The gym should be a safe space, kind of like your respawn point, where you recharge after a tough day. People go there to lift weights and decompress, not to be hit on by random NPCs. So how do you bridge that gap? 🤨

👨🏻‍💻 In this episode, Jordan Yaklin, an online health and lifestyle coach who helps gamers level up their fitness and reclaim their health, breaks down why the gym is a completely different dungeon than bars, dating apps, or cold approaching strangers 👀

💡 If you've ever wondered when it's okay (and how) to start a conversation, how to tell if someone's open to chatting, or what separates a friendly gym regular from a creep who makes everyone uncomfortable, you will gain the clarity you've been searching for.

🎯 Whether you're a gamer who's new to the fitness meta or an introvert who struggles with small talk, this episode will help you gain enough charisma to navigate gym social dynamics. Just like 68% of nerd couples who started as friends, the gym can be one of the best places to meet people who share your goals. You just need the right build for it 💪

🎧 Press Start to learn how to approach your gym crush without being creepy! 🧟

👾 FREE GUIDE: WHERE NERDS REALLY MEET THEIR PLAYER 2 🕹️

Based on real-world nerd data. Download it at https://datelikeanerd.com/reality

📱 Have questions? Join me on Discord! https://www.datelikeanerd.com/discord

Jordan's Links:

1. https://www.instagram.com/jordanyaklin/
2. discord.gg/pnfW7jZp42

Related Episodes:

1. Beat the Fear of Rejection Through Your Gamer’s Journey, with Dr. Daniel Kaufmann
2. Gamify Your Dating Anxiety, with Michael Berger
3. The Nice Guy vs the Kind Man, with April
4. How to Make Nerd Friends, with Pete “Belmont”
5. The Hidden Cost of Finding Love With Red Pill Dating: John’s Nerd Love Story

Timestamps for lazy nerds:

• 00:00:00 Intro
• 00:01:08 How to Approach Your Gym Crush
• 00:02:01 Gym Etiquette
• 00:04:53 Fear of Looking Dumb
• 00:07:08 Gradual Escalation
• 00:09:27 Benefits of Making Friends
• 00:11:14 Meeting Outside the Gym
• 00:13:32 How to Show You're A Nerd
• 00:15:29 Your Safe Spaces
• 00:20:28 Gaining Confidence and Energy
• 00:23:28 Gamifying Social Skills
• 00:29:48 Conversation Starters for the Gym
• 00:36:12 Jordan's Contact

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🏫 How do you find dates after you're done with college? 🕰️ For many people, high school and uni gave us the perfect place to meet people. But once that's over, what do you do? How can you meet someone to date if you're not meeting... well, basically anyone? 🤷

📜 After graduating, Brandon went from having built-in social circles to basically meeting nobody new. His dating life? Non-existent. His social life? Hanging out with the same small group of friends 2-3 times a year. His solution attempts? Cold approaches (didn't work) and dating apps (traumatizing) 😰

🏢 "I'm stuck in the office for most of the time," Brandon explains. Between his 9-to-5 and studying for nursing boards, he's caught in the classic post-college trap: knowing he wants to meet someone but having zero clue where to start and feeling like he has no time to do it.

🥘 If you're feeling "cooked" because college social life seems like a distant memory, this episode breaks down exactly how to transform solo activities into friend-making (and potentially date-finding) opportunities 💘

🎧 Press Start and learn how to set your single-player hobbies to multi-player mode!

👾 FREE GUIDE: WHERE NERDS REALLY MEET THEIR PLAYER 2 🕹️

Based on real-world nerd data. Download it at https://datelikeanerd.com/reality

📱 Have questions? Join me on Discord! https://www.datelikeanerd.com/discord

Related:

• The Tolkien Association: Where to Meet Nerds, with Vir
• Find Your Nerd Community: Where to Meet Nerds, with Jose
• Animé Los Angeles: Where to Meet Nerds, with Matt
• Find Love Through Online Games, with Kaylee Lopez
• Hobbit Hike: Where to Meet Nerds, with Sompi Harmetz
• Dating In The Tolkien Association, with Jose
• How to Make Nerd Friends, with Pete “Belmont”
• Where can Nerds Find a Partner? (Without Dating Apps!)
• Challenges of Dating Without Apps (for Shy, Introverted Nerds)
• How to Find Groups and Socialize as a Shy, Introverted Nerd (Step-By-Step Guide)
• I Surveyed 273 Nerds in Canada: Here's The Dating Strategy That Worked

Timestamps for lazy nerds:

• 00:00:00 Intro
• 00:01:02 Dating Life After College
• 00:05:03 Dating App Trauma
• 00:09:57 Getting Rejected
• 00:18:26 Riot Games Arena
• 00:20:33 Where to Meet Someone
• 00:24:35 Step 1: Your Hobbies
• 00:29:45 Step 2: Where to Meet People
• 00:33:00 No Free Time to Socialize
• 00:35:18 Socializing with Snowboarding
• 00:40:05 Being shy... or not?
• 00:46:26 Socializing At The Riot Games Arena
• 00:53:14 A Video Shoot Missed Opportunity
• 00:58:48 Having Options to Meet Someone
• 01:03:53 Difficulties for Meeting Partners

#datingtips #datingadvice #dating #nerdlife #nerd #gamer #single #socialskills #podcast #postcollege #officejob #skateboarding #surfing #esports #riotgames

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dm@datelikeanerd.com or
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