What is it that people love so much about Andrew?! Within six months of meeting now-husband Andrew, Zoë wrote a document containing 12 items that she loved about him; 12 truths that made her want to be in a relationship with him. The presence of safety, security, and deep relaxation in a partnership is the bedrock of true freedom. It's the point where life stops being a complicated burden and becomes an open field for shared growth. Join the conversation as Zoë (and Andrew) take listeners through those 12 truths, sharing nuggets of wisdom, relatable stories, and other key relationship insights along the way. Thanks for listening!

Key Points From This Episode:

• The topic of today’s conversation: 12 truths about who Andrew is.

• Why she chose the title “The Trouble with Andrew” for today’s podcast.

• He knows who he is.

• He knows who he is not, and he shows up as himself in all situations.

• Andrew is present to what is.

• He is curious: he asks questions to mine for the truth.

• Why you should try to cultivate resilience: working to resolve your triggers.

• Zoë shares a quick aside: the spanking story.

• Andrew knows how to slow down: maximizing connection and intimacy.

• He allows the process of unfolding.

• He doesn’t always take Zoë seriously.

• They both share their perspectives on the story about the first time Zoë allowed him to make her angry.

• He holds me while I try to figure myself out.

• Andrew has a high tolerance for discomfort.

• He is available and will receive Zoë at any time.

• He’s able to accept Zoë and her experience of the world as her truth.

• Andrew walks the talk: he has a strong, constant awareness of the relative and the absolute in every moment.

Quotes:

“Andrew is curious, he doesn’t make assumptions based on his own expectations or judgements. [He] asksquestions to mine for the truth.” — Zoë Kors [0:08:13]

“The more easily you're triggered, the more easily you can be manipulated.” — Zoë Kors [0:10:49]

“I'm able to be wildly expressed with Andrew.” — Zoë Kors [0:25:31]

“Most men try to fix me. Andrew simply holds me while I figure out how to fix myself.” — Zoë Kors [0:27:23]

“When you point a finger at somebody else, you're pointing more back at yourself.” — Andrew Thomas Roth [0:28:16]

“Some people want to have a tight leash on their partners. If you have a leash on your partner, who's at the other end of it? You think that you're controlling the other partner, but you're at the other end of that leash and neither party can be truly free in that.” — Andrew Thomas Roth [0:35:20]

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Zoë Kors

Bhakti Fest

Eckhart Tolle

Terry Real

Thich Nhat Hanh

Radical Intimacy

The Radical Intimacy Podcast