This episode explores the difference between compatibility and capacity in relationships. It’s something I’m seeing everywhere in modern dating, myself included. You can feel deeply aligned with someone and still hit a wall if they don’t have the capacity to truly show up. No amount of compatibility can make up for a lack of consistency or follow-through. If the capacity isn’t there on both sides, it’s never going to work, no matter how compatible you feel.

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Flaw-finding can show up when emotional closeness starts to grow and a partner suddenly seems more focused on what is wrong than what is working. In this short episode, we talk about a pattern called flaw-finding and why it is often linked to avoidant attachment. It is less about your shortcomings and more about how someone creates space when connection begins to feel uncomfortable. If you have ever felt confused, criticized, or quietly pushed away, this episode offers language for an experience that can be hard to make sense of in real time.

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Have you ever connected deeply with someone in the first few days, only for them to suddenly pull away? Fearful avoidants (FAs) love deep conversations, emotional growth, and self development. But when that depth becomes real and relational, their nervous system hits its limit. In this episode, I break down why FAs bond intensely, pull away just as fast, and create that confusing 'fast connection to fast exit' cycle. I also share what you can do to avoid falling into the trap and what FAs can do to grow beyond it.

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