In which areas of your life are you saying yes, when you really want to say no, because you are afraid of the consequences of a no?

Maybe you take on an extra project at work, even if you know it will burden you?

Maybe someone asked for your time or energy, and you hear your mouth saying sure, no problem even if it actually is a problem?

If someone asks for your opinion, do you say what you thin they want to hear, or do you share what is true for you?

You might think being agreeable or being the yes person at work is just you being helpful, kind and generous.

The truth is, this has little to do with being kind.

Today, I’m talking about the misunderstood behavior so many high-achieving women struggle with: People-pleasing.

We’ll explore why it’s not really about pleasing others, but about keeping yourself emotionally safe, and how learning to say no can actually deepen connection — not destroy it.

This is the final episode of Season 1 of Self Path Podcast. I'll be back in August again.

Are you ready to find the courage to say no and finally speak your needs? I'm going to work with a handful of private clients this August.

If you feel you'd like to be one of them, shoot me a message at monika@theselflovepath.com

Stuck in perfectionism, procrastination and busyness, while not really getting anything meaningful done?

Downloading my free guide: theselflovepath.com/guide . I walk you through my 3 step body-first process to help you stop procrastinating.

If you want to discover what working with me looks like, book a free Discovery call and we'll have a conversation (no pressure, simply discovery).

📩 Get in Touch:

• Visit my website: The Self Love Path
• Connect with me on Instagram: @monikamolander

Summer is here and for most of us summer means vacation and taking a break from our normal routines. In the Nordics this week marks the celebration of midsummer – which is one of our biggest holidays.

Summer is marketed as our prime time.

Everywhere you look it seems like people have sexy and exciting plans.

Everyone’s tanned, everyone’s surrounded by friends, family, a good looking man and happy kids, everyone has flowers in their hair, cute summer dresses and it seems as if the sun is always shining.

One moment on social media and you feel lonely, anxious and unhappy with your life.

You consume a 10 second reel from someone else’s life, and conclude that they are doing much better at life, while you are failing and living a boring life.

You feel stressed that you haven’t made big enough summer plans.

You feel sad and disappointed that you haven’t been invited to the summer party everyone else is going to.

Maybe your friend has holiday plans she happily shares with you, but at the back of your mind you’re thinking:

“Why am I not invited? “Why am I always the one who has to invite myself to events?”

In this week’s episode, I also talk about how unstructured time — like summer holidays — can be especially triggering for high-achievers.

When the work calendar disappears, all of a sudden you’re left with this blank space. And if you’re used to defining your worth by doing, that space can feel unbearable.

Stuck in perfectionism, procrastination and busyness, while not really getting anything meaningful done?

Downloading my free guide: theselflovepath.com/guide . I walk you through my 3 step body-first process to help you stop procrastinating.

If you want to discover what working with me looks like, book a free Discovery call and we'll have a conversation (no pressure, simply discovery).

📩 Get in Touch:

• Visit my website: The Self Love Path
• Connect with me on Instagram: @monikamolander

Do you feel pressured by all the self-care “to do’s” you feel you should do?

Exercise. Walk at least 10,000 steps daily. Lift weights — but let’s also do fasted cardio.

Stretching, mobility, yoga. Meditate. Write a gratitude journal. Catch the sunrise. Ground in the grass.

All before you’ve even started your day.

It’s easy — just get up 20 minutes earlier! That’s all it takes. Easy, they tell you.

And in between all of that, you’re trying to manage life. But also, actually enjoy it.

In this episode, I explore what happens when we try to fix our stress and self-worth struggles with the same energy and strategies that created them — and why real change starts deeper.

Find the full transcript at theselflovepath.com/13

Do you feel the pressure is constant? And no matter how much you achieve, it never feels like enough?

If you’re stuck in a loop of overachieving to feel worthy — caught in a life you didn’t fully choose — the best way I can help you is through my 1:1 coaching.

All spots are full until mid-August, but you can get on my waitlist simply by emailing me at monika@theselflovepath.com.

Stuck in perfectionism, procrastination and busyness, while not really getting anything meaningful done?

Downloading my free guide: theselflovepath.com/guide . I walk you through my 3 step body-first process to help you stop procrastinating.

If you want to discover what working with me looks like, book a free Discovery call and we'll have a conversation (no pressure, simply discovery).

📩 Get in Touch:

• Visit my website: The Self Love Path
• Connect with me on Instagram: @monikamolander