In this episode, DB talks with her friend Beatrice (aka Triss) about sex after gender affirming surgery. If you think you know what "bottom surgery" means, you might have more to learn than you think! Hear from Triss about her choice to get an orchiectomy, how the surgery and recovery went for her, and the changes she's experienced since -- plus, her ritual for the wet specimen she took home with her.

Between Us is a new episode format where we speak with folks living through what some of our experts from other episodes have discussed! We're excited to bring you more intimate, one-on-one conversations with real people living their real lives about how sex and sex ed impact them every day.

Guest Details

Beatrice (better known online as Triss) is a Bay Area based Mexican American musician and maker. She's been out as a proudly sapphic trans woman since 2015. As an ADHD brain with an endless thirst for fun facts, Beatrice will happily nerd out over music, video games, DIY electronics, and sex (among other things).

You can catch her tearing up the stage with her band Dirty Twenties (@dirtytwentiesband) and/or watch her solo projects on TikTok (tiktok.com/@trisstunes) and YouTube (youtube.com/trisstunes)."

Listen to "Force Femme Your Dad" by Dirty Twenties!

ABOUT SEASON 12
Season 12 of Sex Ed with DB is ALL ABOUT PLEASURE! Solo pleasure. Partnered pleasure. Orgasms. Porn. Queer joy. Kinks, sex toys, fantasies—you name it. We’re here to help you feel more informed, more empowered, and a whole lot more turned on to help YOU have the best sex.

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Sex Ed with DB is your go-to podcast for smart, science-backed sex education—delivering trusted insights from top experts on sex, sexuality, and pleasure. Empowering, inclusive, and grounded in real science, it’s the sex ed you’ve always wanted.

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Creator, Host & Executive Producer: Danielle Bezalel (DB) (she/her)
Communications Lead: Cathren Cohen (she/her)
Growth Marketing Manager and Producer: Wil Williams (they/them)

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Background music: Bright State by Ketsa
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Have you ever had an experience that you did not consent to but that was enjoyable, transformational, or even pleasurable? This week Leigh (@lshfoster) and Ellie (@elliebrigida) hang out with Dr. Avgi Saketopoulou (@⁠avgolis98⁠), queer psychoanalyst and author of ⁠Sexuality Beyond Consent: Risk, Race, Traumatophilia⁠, to discuss queering consent.

As part of our discussion, Avgi shares stories of times when clients experienced events outside of their consent, including in sexual situations.

Consent is a very nuanced topic, but it tends not to be talked about that way. We do not live in a vacuum and as such consent can be messier than people tend to want to consider. For example, think about our favorite, Teenage Bounty Hunters. When Sterling gathers her courage and kisses April, she doesn’t ask for her consent first, and knowing April it probably would not have gone over too well if she had. Even though April may not have consented to this kiss, she finds that she enjoys it. This is a transformational experience for the two of them, and it happens outside of the realm of consent.

As queer people, we have quite a good amount of experience of running opposite to societal norms. We step beyond our comfort zones just to exist in a heteronormative world. As such, we tend to better understand that many transformational experiences rely on our willingness to step beyond safety. Even so, we tend to still prize consent in a way that is more fantasy than reality. It is just not nearly as cut and dry when applied to real life situations.

Follow along on BlueSky, Facebook, Instagram and TikTok @lezhangoutpod and answer our Q & Gay at the end of every episode. Find our hosts individually: Leigh Holmes Foster (@lshfoster) and Ellie Brigida (@elliebrigida).

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Why are we not talking more about baby-making sex and how stressful it can be?? I spoke to new moms and experts you'll recognize from Sex Ed with DB to figure out what's going on and how we could be doing it better.

DB's Download is a new episode format! Inspired by our newsletter, which ends with a sum up of what I've been reading/watching/etc. each week, this format gives me some room to tell you all what I've been up to. Let us know what you think about this format! Shoot me an email at sexedwithdb@gmail.com.

Mentioned in this episode:
Baby-Making Sex Can Be ‘Some of the Worst Sex People Have’

ABOUT SEASON 12
Season 12 of Sex Ed with DB is ALL ABOUT PLEASURE! Solo pleasure. Partnered pleasure. Orgasms. Porn. Queer joy. Kinks, sex toys, fantasies—you name it. We’re here to help you feel more informed, more empowered, and a whole lot more turned on to help YOU have the best sex.

CONNECT WITH US
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ABOUT THE SHOW
Sex Ed with DB is your go-to podcast for smart, science-backed sex education—delivering trusted insights from top experts on sex, sexuality, and pleasure. Empowering, inclusive, and grounded in real science, it’s the sex ed you’ve always wanted.

ASK AN ANONYMOUS SEX ED QUESTION
Fill out our anonymous form to ask your sex ed question.

SEASON 12 TEAM
Creator, Host & Executive Producer: Danielle Bezalel (DB) (she/her)
Communications Lead: Cathren Cohen (she/her)
Producer and Growth Marketing Manager: Wil Williams (they/them)

MUSIC
Intro theme music: Hook Sounds
Background music: Bright State by Ketsa
Ad music: Soul Sync by Ketsa and Soul Trap by Ketsa

Can weed actually make sex better? And what does the science have to say about it? This week, DB breaks down what the research really says about cannabis, desire, arousal, and orgasms. We’re talking sexy highs, not-so-sexy side effects, and how to use weed to enhance pleasure.

Mentioned in this episode:
Ketamine, Couples Therapy, and Psychedelic Pleasure with Dr. Genesee Herzberg

ABOUT SEASON 12
Season 12 of Sex Ed with DB is ALL ABOUT PLEASURE! Solo pleasure. Partnered pleasure. Orgasms. Porn. Queer joy. Kinks, sex toys, fantasies—you name it. We’re here to help you feel more informed, more empowered, and a whole lot more turned on to help YOU have the best sex.

CONNECT WITH US
Instagram: @sexedwithdbpodcast
TikTok: @sexedwithdb
Twitter: @sexedwithdb
Threads: @sexedwithdbpodcast
YouTube: Sex Ed with DB

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GET IN TOUCH
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FOR SEXUAL HEALTH PROFESSIONALS
Check out DB's workshop: "Building A Profitable Online Sexual Health Brand"

ABOUT THE SHOW
Sex Ed with DB is your go-to podcast for smart, science-backed sex education—delivering trusted insights from top experts on sex, sexuality, and pleasure. Empowering, inclusive, and grounded in real science, it’s the sex ed you’ve always wanted.

ASK AN ANONYMOUS SEX ED QUESTION
Fill out our anonymous form to ask your sex ed question.

SEASON 12 TEAM
Creator, Host & Executive Producer: Danielle Bezalel (DB) (she/her)
Producer: Sadie Lidji (she/her)
Communications Lead: Cathren Cohen (she/her)
Growth Marketing Manager: Wil Williams (they/them)

MUSIC
Intro theme music: Hook Sounds
Background music: Bright State by Ketsa
Ad music: Soul Sync by Ketsa and Soul Trap by Ketsa

In this episode, DB sits down with Dr. Genesee Herzberg to talk about ketamine, couples therapy, and psychedelic pleasure. They get into common myths, what actually happens in a session, how ketamine can help couples break old patterns, and why novelty can reignite connection and desire. Plus: how touch and consent can be part of healing.

Guest Details
Dr. Genesee Herzberg is a clinical psychologist from the California Bay Area. She is co-founder of Sage Integrative Health, a holistic psychedelic clinic and training institute, Alchemy Community Therapy Center, a non-profit, sliding scale psychedelic clinic, and the International Alliance of MDMA Practitioners. She has worked as a trainer and supervisor in ketamine-assisted therapy through Sage. Genesee is an author and co-editor of the book Integral Psychedelic Therapy.

ABOUT SEASON 12
Season 12 of Sex Ed with DB is ALL ABOUT PLEASURE! Solo pleasure. Partnered pleasure. Orgasms. Porn. Queer joy. Kinks, sex toys, fantasies—you name it. We’re here to help you feel more informed, more empowered, and a whole lot more turned on to help YOU have the best sex.

CONNECT WITH US
Instagram: @sexedwithdbpodcast
TikTok: @sexedwithdb
Twitter: @sexedwithdb
Threads: @sexedwithdbpodcast
YouTube: Sex Ed with DB

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GET IN TOUCH
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Subscribe to our BRAND NEW newsletter for hot goss, expert advice, and *the* most salacious stories.

FOR SEXUAL HEALTH PROFESSIONALS
Check out DB's workshop: "Building A Profitable Online Sexual Health Brand"

ABOUT THE SHOW
Sex Ed with DB is your go-to podcast for smart, science-backed sex education—delivering trusted insights from top experts on sex, sexuality, and pleasure. Empowering, inclusive, and grounded in real science, it’s the sex ed you’ve always wanted.

ASK AN ANONYMOUS SEX ED QUESTION
Fill out our anonymous form to ask your sex ed question.

SEASON 12 TEAM
Creator, Host & Executive Producer: Danielle Bezalel (DB) (she/her)
Producer: Sadie Lidji (she/her)
Communications Lead: Cathren Cohen (she/her)
Growth Marketing Manager: Wil Williams (they/them)

MUSIC
Intro theme music: Hook Sounds
Background music: Bright State by Ketsa
Ad music: Soul Sync by Ketsa and Soul Trap by Ketsa

What’s the deal with hormones, anyway? DB breaks down how they impact your sex life, mood, energy, and overall health. Learn what’s normal, what’s not, and how to better understand what your body’s telling you.

Mentioned in this episode:
Rediscovering Desire: Sex, Hormones, and Libido through Middle Age and Beyond with Dr. Rebecca Levy-Gantt

ABOUT SEASON 12
Season 12 of Sex Ed with DB is ALL ABOUT PLEASURE! Solo pleasure. Partnered pleasure. Orgasms. Porn. Queer joy. Kinks, sex toys, fantasies—you name it. We’re here to help you feel more informed, more empowered, and a whole lot more turned on to help YOU have the best sex.

CONNECT WITH US
Instagram: @sexedwithdbpodcast
TikTok: @sexedwithdb
Twitter: @sexedwithdb
Threads: @sexedwithdbpodcast
YouTube: Sex Ed with DB

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GET IN TOUCH
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FOR SEXUAL HEALTH PROFESSIONALS
Check out DB's workshop: "Building A Profitable Online Sexual Health Brand"

ABOUT THE SHOW
Sex Ed with DB is your go-to podcast for smart, science-backed sex education—delivering trusted insights from top experts on sex, sexuality, and pleasure. Empowering, inclusive, and grounded in real science, it’s the sex ed you’ve always wanted.

ASK AN ANONYMOUS SEX ED QUESTION
Fill out our anonymous form to ask your sex ed question.

SEASON 12 TEAM
Creator, Host & Executive Producer: Danielle Bezalel (DB) (she/her)
Producer: Sadie Lidji (she/her)
Communications Lead: Cathren Cohen (she/her)
Growth Marketing Manager: Wil Williams (they/them)

MUSIC
Intro theme music: Hook Sounds
Background music: Bright State by Ketsa
Ad music: Soul Sync by Ketsa and Soul Trap by Ketsa

Sex gets better with age...if we let it! In this episode, DB sits down with her mom, badass OBGYN Dr. Rebecca Levy-Gantt, to talk all about sex and aging, They get into responsive desire, menopause, hormones, vaginal estrogen (gamechanger!), and why more women than ever are asking for what they want in the bedroom. Plus: how to talk to your doctor about your pleasure!

GUEST DETAILS
Dr. Rebecca Levy-Gantt is an obstetrician and gynecologist who has been taking care of women of all ages for more than thirty years. She is on LinkedIn, and her practice website is Premierobgynnapa.com.

ABOUT SEASON 12
Season 12 of Sex Ed with DB is ALL ABOUT PLEASURE! Solo pleasure. Partnered pleasure. Orgasms. Porn. Queer joy. Kinks, sex toys, fantasies—you name it. We’re here to help you feel more informed, more empowered, and a whole lot more turned on to help YOU have the best sex.

CONNECT WITH US
Instagram: @sexedwithdbpodcast
TikTok: @sexedwithdb
Twitter: @sexedwithdb
Threads: @sexedwithdbpodcast
YouTube: Sex Ed with DB

SEX ED WITH DB SEASON 12 SPONSORS
Lion's Den, Uberlube, & Magic Wand
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GET IN TOUCH
Email: sexedwithdb@gmail.com
Subscribe to our BRAND NEW newsletter for hot goss, expert advice, and *the* most salacious stories.

FOR SEXUAL HEALTH PROFESSIONALS
Check out DB's workshop: "Building A Profitable Online Sexual Health Brand"

ABOUT THE SHOW
Sex Ed with DB is your go-to podcast for smart, science-backed sex education—delivering trusted insights from top experts on sex, sexuality, and pleasure. Empowering, inclusive, and grounded in real science, it’s the sex ed you’ve always wanted.

ASK AN ANONYMOUS SEX ED QUESTION
Fill out our anonymous form to ask your sex ed question.

SEASON 12 TEAM
Creator, Host & Executive Producer: Danielle Bezalel (DB) (she/her)
Producer: Sadie Lidji (she/her)
Communications Lead: Cathren Cohen (she/her)
Growth Marketing Manager: Wil Williams (they/them)

MUSIC
Intro theme music: Hook Sounds
Background music: Bright State by Ketsa
Ad music: Soul Sync by Ketsa and Soul Trap by Ketsa