my personal deep dive into Netflix’s Unknown Number:

The High School Catfish. 🖤 I’ve been following the comments, the social media conversations, and the shock around Kendra Licari’s story — and I want to take this beyond what the documentary shows.

Netflix gave us the facts. But what about the IMPACT?

The emotional abuse. The grooming. The way a disorganized attachment style can trap someone in fear, shame, and confusion.

That’s the part that hit me hardest .. and that’s where my work as a relationship coach comes in. In this episode, I talk about the red flags most people miss, how parental manipulation destroys self-trust, and why trauma bonding makes it so hard to leave abusive dynamics.

I also share what actually helps: nervous system regulation, boundaries that protect your safety, and rebuilding secure attachment step by step. If you’ve seen the Unknown Number Netflix trailer, read The Cut article on Kendra Licari, or scrolled through the heated debates online — this episode is for you.

Because it’s not just about a documentary. It’s about real people, real trauma, and the reminder that healing and safety ARE possible.

Takeaways: What Netflix didn’t show about the Unknown Number documentary. The deeper emotional impact of grooming and manipulation. How disorganized attachment keeps people stuck in toxic cycles.

Why trauma bonding makes breaking away so complicated.

The role of parental control, secrecy, and narcissistic behaviors.

The importance of spotting red flags early. How daily regulation practices + professional support accelerate healing.

Why boundaries are the foundation of safety and recovery.

Why love doesn’t have to feel like chaos.

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This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions.

This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.

Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

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It only takes eight seconds… or does it? ⏰

Remember scrolling Instagram, seeing that reel, and thinking,

“Why isn’t he replying? It’s just eight seconds!”

That’s exactly how anxious attachment tricks us making us chase validation, obsess over texts, and feel like every delayed reply is rejection.

In this episode, I unpack why this “eight-second trap” fuels anxiety, overthinking, and the addictive chase cycle. I share why your emotional safety doesn’t depend on anyone else, how to stop texting obsessively, and the step-by-step tools I use (and teach clients) to calm your brain and feel secure on your own.

We talk real examples: heart racing when they’re “typing,” overanalyzing likes, messages, and stories, and feeling too much in love or friendship.

I also share practical actions—from journaling out your thoughts, setting boundaries for yourself, spotting patterns without personalizing, and walking away from crumbs—to reclaim your peace and confidence.

If you’ve ever felt anxious waiting for a text, overanalyzed replies, or let someone else control your emotions, this episode is your guide to healing your anxious attachment, trusting yourself, and stopping the chase.

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CHAPTERS:

00:00 The Eight Second Dilemma 03:12 Why its makes sense to want them to reply quickly (but it's wrong) 05:45 The Viral "if he wanted to he would" video 08:03 5 Reasons Why This Is Toxic for Anxious Attachment 12:54 How action plan to feel more secure when they don't reply

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DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions.

This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.

Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

Remember those red flats from my 20s (that probably STILL get overthought if not addressed…)?

The ones I wore on a first date, nervously texting back and overthinking every move?

That was me before I started healing my anxious attachment. In this episode, I share 5 things I would NEVER do again as my securely attached self and the lessons that came from years of dating, heartbreak, and self-discovery.

I dive into letting go of people-pleasing, chasing connection, and believing every anxious thought meant danger, and what I do now instead to show up confidently in love, friendships, and even with family.

If you’ve struggled with anxious attachment, overthinking texts, or feeling “too much” in relationships, this episode is your guide to showing up securely, honoring your needs, and trusting yourself in love.

CHAPTERS:

00:00 Intro 01:46 5 Things I’d NEVER Do as a Secure Partner + Healed Anxiously Attached Woman 02:50 01. I don’t say the same boundary 5 times with no consequence 06:45 02. I don’t “go along” with things that feel bad just to avoid tension 08:54 03. I don’t chase connection when it’s not being met halfway 11:51 04. I don’t stay silent just to be “easy” 13:41 05. I don’t make everything mean something about me 16:32 Why you Don't need MORE reassurance 19:50 06. BONUS: I stopped BELIEVING every anxious thought meant “I’m in danger”

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DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions.

This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.

Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.