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The Anxious To Secure PODCAST

The Anxious To Secure PODCAST

Auteur(s): Jula - The Anxious To Secure Coach
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 Welcome to Anxious to Secure - the podcast for anyone who feels anxious in love and wants to feel calm, confident, and connected. If you’re chasing an emotionally unavailable (Avoidant) partner… If you’re attaching out of fear, not love… Your relationship is running on survival mode. (I’ve been there - and it can change.) 🤍 I’m Jula: an anxious attachment coach + certified life coach. In just 6 months, I became a more secure version of myself 🫳🏻🎤 Now I help you stop overthinking every text and feel safe, even when your partner pulls away. If you’re tired of the doubt, panic, and never feeling enough: this is for you. Let’s get you into your Secure Era. 🖤Copyright 2024 All rights reserved. Développement personnel Relations Réussite Sciences sociales
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  • 116: *36 Life Lessons* Part 2 about becoming securely attached, love, relationships YOU'll need to know

    116: *36 Life Lessons* Part 2 about becoming securely attached, love, relationships YOU'll need to know
    Jan 13 2026

    36 LESSONS I’VE LEARNED ABOUT LOVE, RELATIONSHIPS, ATTACHMENT & SELF-WORTH 🎙✨🖤

    This episode is for you if you’ve ever loved deeply… and lost yourself in the process 🫂💔

    👇 RESOURCES 👇

    💎 Courses ✨ Stop FINALLY Obsessing Over Texts

    ➞ https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety

    💛 Free Stuff – 30+ resources Free Attachment Library ➞ https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach/shop

    If you’ve ever: ➞ overthought every text 📱⛈ ➞ confused anxiety with intuition 🔮🚩 ➞ stayed too long because of hope 🎢 ➞ abandoned your routines, friends, or goals for love ➞ felt “too much” and “not enough” at the same time 🥶🔥

    These 36 lessons are not theory. They’re lived. Felt. Learned the hard way 💎🧠✨

    This episode is about anxious attachment, emotional safety, boundaries, self-esteem, self-worth, friendships, and secure love. Not in a perfect, polished way. But in a real, honest, nervous-system-level way 🫂🔒

    You’ll hear why secure people don’t chase, they attract. Not because they’re lucky. But because they choose themselves first 🖤✨

    You’ll learn how your body knows before your brain does. Why butterflies aren’t always a green flag. And how tight chests, knots in your stomach, and “chemistry” can actually be your past asking for attention 🚩🪞

    We talk about boundaries. Why they don’t push the right people away. Why they filter out what no longer matches your energy. And why people-pleasing was never keeping you safe in the first place 🔒✨

    You’ll hear the truth about “boring” love. Why healthy love can feel unfamiliar when chaos felt like home. And how peace becomes the most exciting thing once your nervous system learns it’s safe 🌤🧘🏼‍♀️

    This episode breaks down why chemistry without safety is often trauma bonding. Why you don’t need one soulmate. Why slow, steady connections deserve time. And how peace doesn’t mean lack of passion long-term 💛🔥

    We also talk about self-esteem. Not the fluffy kind. The real kind 💪🏽🖤

    You’ll learn why self-esteem grows through actions, not affirmations alone. Why tiny brave acts change your attachment patterns. And how choosing yourself consistently changes who chooses you 💎

    There’s also truth about growth. How you may lose people as you heal. Why that’s not a failure. And how outgrowing old dynamics is often a sign you’re finally coming back to yourself 🦋✨

    You’ll hear why love should add to your life, not become your whole life. Why interdependence beats obsession. And how missing someone doesn’t automatically mean they belong in your future 🫂🚪

    We talk about nervous system regulation. Why the same relationship feels different when YOU are regulated. Why you stop sending anxious paragraphs. Why you stop abandoning yourself first 🧠🔒

    And finally, the truth that changes everything: Hope is not a strategy. Action is.

    If something in your life isn’t working, waiting won’t fix it. Healing requires movement. Boundaries. New standards. New choices ✨💥

    This episode is a mirror. Not to judge you. But to remind you who you are 🪞🖤

    Listen if you’re ready to stop chasing love… and start choosing yourself.

    Because your healing doesn’t start with someone else changing. It starts with YOU. Thought by thought. Action by action. And one honest decision at a time

    🖤 About me I’m Jula, an attachment style coach. I help women heal trust issues, stop chasing, and build secure love ✨

    💌 Work with me ➞ All offers: https://tr.ee/PInPmy

    WhatsApp Coaching ➞ https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textandtalk

    CHAPTERS:

    Part 02:

    00:00 intro 36 Lessons about love, attachment, self-esteem etc 00:36 lesson 19 05:04 lesson 25 10:01 lesson 30 13:05 lesson 35

    14:52 lesson 35

    DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor.

    This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions.

    This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.

    Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.
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    16 min
  • 115: *36 Life Lessons* about love, relationships Attachment

    115: *36 Life Lessons* about love, relationships Attachment
    Jan 8 2026
    This episode is for the version of you who feels like they’re behind in life… even though they’ve already survived so much 🫂⛈ If you’ve ever thought: ➞ “I should be married by now” ➞ “Everyone else has it figured out except me” ➞ “Why do I always overthink, attach, or care more?” ➞ “Why does love feel so hard when I try so much?” This episode will land DEEP 💎🧠✨ In Part 01, I’m sharing the first 18 life lessons I’ve learned about love, anxious attachment, self-esteem, self-worth, friendships, confidence, healing, and choosing yourself. Not from books. Not from theory. From LIVING it 🖤 We start with one of the most important truths: You are not behind. Even if you’re not married. Even if you don’t have the house, the kids, or the five-year plan. Even if your life doesn’t look “right” on paper 📄🚩 You’ll hear why your brain lies to you about timelines… and how comparison keeps you disconnected from your own growth 🪞 We talk about why your brain obsesses over the ONE person who doesn’t choose you… while ignoring the people who already do 💔🎢 And how anxious attachment turns “hard to get” into “must have” 🚩 You’ll learn why everything you want already exists… and how following the right blueprint changes what feels possible for you We also get real about confidence. The difference between external confidence (looks, body, validation) and real inner confidence that doesn’t disappear when no one texts back 📱🥶 You’ll hear why anxiety isn’t proof something is wrong. It’s proof your brain THINKS something is wrong 🧠🚨 And how butterflies, nerves, and intensity are not the same as love ❤️‍🔥🚩 We talk about: ✣ Why doing the same thing over and over keeps you stuck ✣ Why closure doesn’t come from them, it comes from YOU ✣ How repetition literally rewires your brain and attachment style ✣ Why self-criticism trains your nervous system to feel unsafe ✣ How self-trust is built in seconds, not years There’s a powerful reminder that one day… you’ll miss the life you’re living right now 🌤🫂 Even the “boring” days. Even the messy chapters. We talk about gratitude without bypassing pain. About how modern dating and technology have changed connection. And why slowing down your nervous system matters more than getting answers 🔒🧘🏼‍♀️ This episode also dives into: ✣ Why postponing happiness keeps you anxious ✣ Why healing is about the DAILY habits, not the end goal ✣ Why forcing love never creates safety ✣ Why anxious attachment is NOT your personality ✣ How abandonment wounds make you chase reassurance instead of safety And one of the biggest shifts: If you’ve abandoned yourself long enough, others will too. Over-giving isn’t love. It’s fear wearing a cute outfit 🫂🚩 This episode is a mirror 🪞 Not to shame you. But to remind you who you are beneath the anxiety 💎 Listen if you want to: ➞ stop chasing reassurance ➞ stop overthinking texts ➞ stop feeling “too much” ➞ and start building real emotional safety within yourself Because healing doesn’t start with fixing your partner. It starts with choosing yourself. Again. And again. And again 🖤✨ 🎧 After listening, tell me: Which lesson hit you in the chest the most? And which one are you ready to LIVE next? Lots of love 🫶 I see you. And I’ll see you in Part 02 ✨🎙 👇 RESOURCES 👇 💎 Courses ✨ Stop FINALLY Obsessing Over Texts ➞ https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety 💛 Free Stuff – 30+ resources Free Attachment Library ➞ https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach/shop 🖤 About me I’m Jula, an attachment style coach. I help women heal trust issues, stop chasing, and build secure love ✨ 💌 Work with me ➞ All offers: https://tr.ee/PInPmy WhatsApp Coaching ➞ https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textandtalk CHAPTER: 00:00 Celebrating 36 Years: A Journey of Lessons 01:15 lesson 01 03:36 lesson 02 04:18 lesson 03 05:18 lesson 04 06:17 lesson 05 07:19 lesson 06 07:47 lesson 07 08:12 lesson 08 08:55 lesson 09 09:58 lesson 10 11:29 lesson 11 13:59 lesson 12 16:12 lesson 13 17:06 lesson 14 17:34 lesson 15 18:05 lesson 16 19:38 lesson 17 20:52 lesson 18 DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns. Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.
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    23 min
  • 114: Why affirmations can make you MORE anxious or simply don't work (for love, relationships, secure attachment))

    114: Why affirmations can make you MORE anxious or simply don't work (for love, relationships, secure attachment))
    Jan 6 2026

    Why do affirmations sometimes make you MORE anxious instead of calm? 🌪 Why do they feel fake… forced… or even triggering? 🧨 And why do you end up overthinking MORE after saying them? 🧠💭

    If you’ve ever thought: ➞ “Affirmations don’t work for me.” ➞ “I feel worse after saying them.” ➞ “They just make me more aware of my fears.”

    You’re not broken 🫂 You’re not doing it wrong 🖤 Your brain is just doing EXACTLY what it’s designed to do 🔒🧠

    In this episode, I explain why most affirmations don’t work for anxious attachment — and how they can actually strengthen your abandonment fears, texting anxiety, and relationship overthinking 🚩

    You’ll learn: ✨ Why your brain hears fear words FIRST ✨ Why repeating affirmations without feeling them backfires ✨ Why big “I am secure” statements get rejected ✨ Why timing matters more than repetition ✨ Why your BODY must feel safe before your mind believes

    And then I walk you through a simple 5-step action plan to make affirmations ACTUALLY work — in real life, in real relationships, during real triggers 💪🏽🖤

    This is for you if: ➞ You overthink texts 📱 ➞ You panic when there’s space or silence 🌪 ➞ You feel needy, clingy, or “too much” 🩹 ➞ You want secure attachment but don’t know how to get there 🗝

    No fluff. No toxic positivity. No lying to your nervous system.

    Just attachment-safe tools that calm your body, rewire your brain, and help you feel steady inside yourself 🔒✨

    CHAPTERS:

    00:00 Understanding Affirmations and Attachment Anxiety 01:03 Why changing your limiting beliefs is important to becoming securely attached 02:28 01. The brain hears words literally 05:10 02. Repeating without feeling doesn’t work 10:28 03. You affirmations are NOT believable 13:46 04. You're not repeating it in the RIGHT moment 17:11 05. Aligning Actions with Affirmations 20:02 How to become secure with coaching 23:23 5 Steps how to make affirmations work for love, secure attachment and self-esteem 32:05 Bottom line

    👇 RESOURCES 👇

    💎 Courses ✨ Stop FINALLY Obsessing Over Texts

    ➞ https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety

    💛 Free Stuff – 30+ resources Free Attachment Library ➞ https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach/shop

    🖤 About me I’m Jula, an attachment style coach. I help women heal trust issues, stop chasing, and build secure love ✨

    💌 Work with me ➞ All offers: https://tr.ee/PInPmy

    WhatsApp Coaching ➞ https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textandtalk

    DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor.

    This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions.

    This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.

    Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.
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    34 min
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