Confidence isn’t just about what you say yes to, it’s about learning when to say no.

In this week’s episode of Confidence After Cancer, Gabby explores what she calls the art of the selective yes: how to protect your energy, your time, and your peace by saying yes only to what truly serves you.

Drawing on her own experience as a recovering people-pleaser, Gabby reflects on why so many women find it difficult to say no — especially after cancer, when gratitude and guilt often blend together. Through gentle guidance and practical steps, she shares how to break the habit of overcommitting, make decisions that align with your values, and reclaim your energy without apology.

You’ll also discover her simple three-step filter for your next yes:

1. Does it align with my values?
2. Do I have the energy for it?
3. Does it move me towards thriving?

If the answer isn’t a full-body yes, it’s probably a no.

What You’ll Learn from this Episode:

• Why we say yes too often (and how to break the habit)
• How people-pleasing drains your energy and confidence
• The three questions to ask before saying yes
• Practical ways to pause before agreeing to something
• How to replace guilt with gratitude
• Why every no creates space for your best yes

Resources & Links:

• Book a free clarity call with Gabby: Schedule here
• Connect with Gabby on Instagram: @gabby.mottershead
• Thriving After Treatment: https://www.confidenceaftercancer.co.uk/page/671204
• Visit the website: confidenceaftercancer.co.uk
• Watch on YouTube: Subscribe here
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