Ever notice how some kids just cannot talk about hard things- especially if it’s about their own mistakes or ‘bad’ behavior? Maybe they melt down the second you bring it up… or shut down completely.

Let’s unpack what’s really going on when kids refuse to talk about mistakes or anything that feels “bad.” You’ll learn why their brain might be protecting them from feelings that are just too much - and how you can gently help them build the capacity to feel bad and still be okay.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why refusing to talk about hard things isn’t defiance—it’s protection
• What’s happening in the brain when a child remembers something painful or shame-filled
• How to scaffold conversations about mistakes using stories, characters, and your own modeling
• The difference between avoiding hard conversations from connection mode versus protection mode

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Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/talkaboutmistakes

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Is your child suddenly quiet… but you can feel something bubbling under the surface?

They aren’t yelling, running, or arguing like usual- but you can tell their system is still fired up and on high alert.

Today, we’re talking about that “quiet volcano” version of watchdog energy. It looks calm. Still. Almost possum-like.

But inside? Their nervous system is holding a TON of activation right under the surface.

In this episode, you’ll learn how to tell the difference between true shutdown and contained watchdog energy, why some kids start holding everything inside, and how to help that “stuck” activation soften and move in safe, co-regulated ways.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why watchdog energy can go quiet and look totally still, even though it’s NOT regulated
• How to figure out what’s really going on underneath the “calm” exterior
• What to do when your child is a volcano on the inside, including simple movement-based strategies that help the nervous system come back into rhythm and relational safety

Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/volcanoes

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Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)
eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)
LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: The Baffling Behavior Training Institute’s (BBTI) Professional Immersion Program (formerly Being With)