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Why does rest feel so wrong when God designed it for our good?

In this episode, I'm getting raw about my unhealthy relationship with rest and the breakdown that changed everything.

If you've ever felt guilty for taking a break or exhausted from performing even your faith, this one's for you.

In this episode, we talk about...

The lies we believe:

• "Rest is a luxury I can't afford"
• "If I rest, everything will fall apart"
• "I need to perform rest correctly"

The pivotal moments:

• Jasmine's shift from constant improvement to God's invitation to "dream, sit, and play"
• My fast food parking lot meltdown when God said "you've passed the test"
• Choosing resting over a Sunday service and finding God there

Why rest doesn't work when we do all the "right" activities:

• The heart shift vs. behavior change
• Sitting with uncomfortable emotions (guilt, shame, fear)
• How rest is where we actually get to know God

Plus practical reflection questions to uncover what's blocking your rest.

Key quotes:

"My worth has nothing to do with what I can produce. Rest does not take away from work."

"Rest and joy are tied together. You can't separate them."

"Fun is not childish, fun is childlike. God wants us to have childlike faith."

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If you’ve ever found yourself saying, “Why am I STILL struggling with this?” - this conversation is for you.

We open up about the heartbreak of feeling like we're back at square one in our healing process and the surprising ways God meets us there. We explore what real healing looks like when it’s messy, cyclical, and slower than we expected... and how the Holy Spirit gently leads us through the process with compassion, not condemnation.

During this episode, we unpack:

• The myth that healing should always be moving forward
• What to do when old coping tools stop working
• How to recognize growth even in the middle of triggers
• Why nervous system takes longer to heal than the mind
• How to reframe setbacks as God’s invitations to deeper freedom

This episode will help you breathe again, release the pressure to “get it right,” and recognize that you’re not failing. You're simply in the healing process.

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Have you ever felt afraid that if you stopped doing... stopped reading your Bible, stopped serving, stopped performing... that God might love you a little less?
You’re not alone.

In this raw and honest conversation, we unpack the deep-rooted lie that love must be earned... a lie many of us first learned in childhood, and one that still shapes how we relate to God today. Together, we explore how trauma, performance, and perfectionism condition our brains to equate doing with being loved and how the gospel, neuroscience, and the gentle heart of Jesus invite us into something different.

We talk about:

• Why unworthiness feels “true” in your body (and how to gently rewire it)
• How spiritual disciplines can become performance and how to return to intimacy
• The science of neuroplasticity and renewing your mind in Christ
• What it means to rest in love that doesn’t have to be earned

If you’ve ever wondered, “Does God still love me if I don’t do X, Y, or Z?” this episode will meet you in that question and remind you that love was never something you had to earn.

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