In this episode, Eimear explores what it truly means to choose yourself, even when that choice disappoints people. Drawing on the ideas from "The Courage to Be Disliked," she breaks down approval addiction, boundaries, life lies, and the deeper self-concept work required to finally live a life aligned with your truth.

What would become possible in your life if you stopped organising everything around being liked?

In this solo episode, Eimear dives into the fear that quietly shapes so many women's lives: the fear of being disliked. She unpacks the psychology of approval-seeking, how it leads to self-abandonment, and why boundaries are not only about the words you say but the self-concept you stand in. Inspired by Adler’s philosophy in "The Courage to Be Disliked," this episode offers both insight and practical steps for stepping into your authentic, aligned life.

Topics explored in this episode include:

• Why approval feels safe and how it quietly dictates your choices
• The difference between performing and living
• Adler’s core boundary question: Whose task is this?
• The relationship between The Elegant No (your words) and The Confidence Key (your self-concept)
• The concept of “life lies” and how they keep you stuck
• A personal story from Eimear about delaying sobriety and the fear beneath it
• Why self-acceptance, not approval, is the foundation for confidence
• Five practical ways to practice the courage to be disliked this week

This episode is an invitation to reclaim your voice, your needs, and your truth without apology. Midlife is not too late to rewrite your story. It is the ideal time to begin.

The Elegant No: https://stan.store/eimearzone/p/the-elegant-no-set-boundaries-without-guilt
The Confidence Key: https://eimearzone.com/confidence-coaching/

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