What can decades of lived BDSM history teach us about power, desire and the erotic mind?

We’re closing out the year with a special End-of-Year Erotic Realm Series — two episodes every week, some brand new, some returning favourites.

Together they trace the biggest themes that emerged across 2025: gender, BDSM roles, fantasy, and the psychology of desire.

You’ll hear our first-ever live recordings from the Erotic Realm Confessional at OzKinkFest, reflections from past guests, and a 40th birthday special exploring my own erotic realm — all building toward a New Year’s episode on kinky desires and erotic resolutions for 2026.

This week we go all the way back to episode 3 and explore The Hedonist Mentor: Kinkalong on 40 Years of BDSM, Bisexuality & Erotic Psychology

In this episode, we delve into the rich experiences and wisdom of Marc, a bisexual hedonist, switch, and mentor with decades of involvement in the kink community.

We discuss:

• The evolution of the kink scene over the past few decades.
• The intersection of bisexuality and mental health in navigating identity.
• Lessons learned from living the lifestyle as a mentor and switch.
• Balancing power dynamics in relationships with his Domme wife.
• And much more...

Research paper: Disclosure and Concealment of Sexual Orientation and the Mental Health of Non-Gay-Identified, Behaviorally-Bisexual Men.

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Emma

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What do kinksters confess live at a kink festival?

Recorded live at a real kink festival, this third in the series of the special edition of The Erotic Realm invites you into the world’s first anonymous kink confessional booth—where people step behind the curtain to whisper their erotic truths.

We explore:

• What people confess when given total erotic anonymity.

• How shame, curiosity, and power shape desire in public spaces.

• Real power-exchange relationships as they unfold in real time.

• The raw psychology of kinksters inside a living, breathing event.

In the background you’ll hear music. Laughter. Conversations. People playing, watching, wandering.

In the booth, you’ll hear anonymous confessions of darker desires.

This is the soundscape of a living, breathing kink event. Unfiltered, immersive, alive.

Some listeners will find headphones are a must for this episode, and they will deepen the intimacy—like you’re leaning in to overhear something you were never meant to hear.

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The Erotic Realm Confessional — Where you confess your desires.

Thanks for listening!

Stay perverted,

Emma

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How can a feminist enjoy submission?

We’re closing out the year with a special End-of-Year Erotic Realm Series — two episodes every week, some brand new, some returning favourites.

Together they trace the biggest themes that emerged across 2025: gender, BDSM roles, fantasy, and the psychology of desire.

You’ll hear our first-ever live recordings from the Erotic Realm Confessional at OzKinkFest, reflections from past guests, and a 40th birthday special exploring my own erotic realm — all building toward a New Year’s episode on kinky desires and erotic resolutions for 2026.

This week we explore Feminist Submission, Masochism and Kink Education with AncillaL.

In this episode of The Erotic Realm Podcast, I sit down with Ancilla, a 33-year-old polyamorous writer, masochist, and slave who has dedicated her life to exploring power exchange, pain, and the art of kink education. Ancilla’s journey intersects with her roles as a emotional masochist, and educator, creating a deeply personal and transformative story.

We discuss:

• The strength in submission and what it means to her as a slave.
• The psychology of pain and how masochism connects to altered states and self-discovery.
• Her groundbreaking Sextbook Initiative and its mission to make kink education accessible and actionable.
• Balancing feminism and masochism in the kink world.
• And much more...

Research article: No Pain, No Gain?: Therapeutic and Relational Benefits of Subspace in BDSM Contexts.

The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

If you enjoy what you hear please follow and rate the show, and if you want to support Emma's work please consider supporting her ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack on the Psychology of Desire.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you!

Thanks for listening!

Stay perverted,

Emma

See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.