Shame is one of the most isolating and painful emotions we can experience—especially after betrayal. In this episode, I dive deep into how internalized shame takes root, how it quietly shapes our thoughts, and how it keeps us locked in cycles of pain and disconnection. Whether you were the one betrayed or the one who did the betraying, shame shows up in powerful, sneaky ways that can make us believe we are the problem instead of simply experiencing something painful.

I walk through how shame forms, what the “shame loop” looks like in real life, and how to recognize the moment it begins hijacking your nervous system. More importantly, I share the practical steps you can take to meet shame with awareness, compassion, and truth—so you can begin to dissolve its power and reconnect with yourself and others.

Key Takeaways:

• Shame often disguises itself as truth, but it’s a lie.
• Recognizing the “shame loop” is the first step out of it.
• Self-compassion, context, and connection dissolve shame’s grip.
• Healing begins when we stop proving shame right.

If you’re ready to learn how to break free from internalized shame and build real self-trust, I invite you to apply for my program at https://andreagiles.com/get-your-life-back/.

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