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The Imperfect Mens Club Podcast

The Imperfect Mens Club Podcast

Auteur(s): Mark Aylward & Jim Gurule
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 The Imperfect Mens Club Podcast is a space for men to have real, raw and sometimes difficult conversations to help guide middle aged men through hard decisions in life. Mark & Jim are are both mentors focused on serving others. Tune in to hear authentic, and often funny discussions on well-being, personal growth and professional developmentCopyright, Imperfect Mens Club Développement personnel Hygiène et mode de vie sain Médecine alternative Réussite
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  • Motivation is emotional - Self discipline is reliable

    Motivation is emotional - Self discipline is reliable
    Jan 8 2026

    Season 5, Episode 1: Self-Discipline
    The bridge between who you say you want to be and what you actually do.

    Mark and Jim kick off Season 5 by doing what they always do best: questioning the stuff we're supposed to accept, leaning on lived experience, and dragging timeless wisdom into the present. This episode centers on self-discipline, inspired by the teachings of Jim Rohn, and explores why motivation fails but structure, identity, and self-respect don't.

    Core Themes & Takeaways 1. Why Goals and Resolutions Fail

    • Roughly 95% of people abandon resolutions by February.

    • The problem isn't desire or intelligence.

    • It's a misunderstanding of self-discipline and how it actually works.

    2. Knowledge vs. Wisdom

    • Knowledge is knowing what to do.

    • Wisdom is doing it consistently, especially when no one is watching.

    • Self-discipline is where wisdom shows up.

    The IMC Framework: The Five Areas of Life

    The conversation grounds itself in the Imperfect Men's Club "Wheel of Life," where Self sits at the center.

    1. Profession – Work as identity and purpose

    2. Relationships – With others and with time

    3. Health – Physical and mental

    4. Worldview – Beliefs, faith, politics, upbringing

    5. Money – Scarcity vs. abundance mindset

    Self-discipline touches all five whether you acknowledge it or not.

    Five Jim Rohn Insights on Self-Discipline 1. Self-Discipline Bridges Vision and Reality

    Discipline is the backbone of progress.
    Ideas don't execute themselves. You do. Or you don't.

    2. Self-Respect Is Built in Private

    • Every kept promise builds internal trust.

    • Every skipped commitment quietly erodes it.

    • Integrity counts most when no one's watching.

    3. Identity Beats Emotion

    • Discipline isn't about how you feel.

    • It's about who you decide you are.

    • Structure reflects identity, not mood.

    4. Self-Leadership Begins With Resistance

    • Courage isn't fearlessness.

    • It's acting while fear is screaming in your ear.

    • Leadership starts with leading yourself through discomfort.

    5. Emotional Independence Is Freedom

    • Authenticity requires disappointing people.

    • "I don't know" is often the most honest answer.

    • Alignment beats approval every time.

    Discipline, Time, and Daily Rituals

    Mark breaks down why simple, fast, low-friction routines work better than grand plans:

    • Short

    • Enjoyable (or rewarding afterward)

    • Low cost or free

    When structure is right, discipline becomes execution instead of willpower warfare.

    Memorable Lines

    • "Self-discipline is showing up for yourself."

    • "The imperfection is the perfection."

    • "You can feel resistance fully and still move forward."

    • "Frameworks reduce the need for motivation."

    Final Thought

    Self-discipline isn't punishment.
    It's self-respect in action.

    If your life feels scattered, it's not because you lack ambition. It's because you're letting emotion drive the car instead of identity. Build the structure. Honor your word. Let confidence catch up.

    Season 5 is officially underway.
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    30 min
  • The Year-End Reset 2025 Inventory - 2026 Intentions

    The Year-End Reset 2025 Inventory - 2026 Intentions
    Dec 18 2025
    Episode 48 Show Notes Imperfect Men's Club Podcast Recording date: December 17, 2025 Hosts: Mark and Jim Overview Mark and Jim close out the year by doing what emotionally mature men do in public: taking inventory. They reflect on what shifted in 2025 (in big, practical categories) and then cautiously speculate on what 2026 might demand, especially around AI, personal brand, and how you spend your finite supply of time, energy, and money. Big Themes from the Episode 1) 2025: The Year AI Got Personal AI stopped being "a tech thing" and became part of everyday life for normal, semi-tech-competent humans. Mark frames AI as a relationship: if you give it context, it gets better, like "an infant becoming a teenager" and eventually a useful young adult. Jim reframes AI as Amplified / Augmented Intelligence, not "artificial," because it expands what capable people can do and removes work humans probably shouldn't be doing anyway. The human edge remains: the five senses, real relationships, and embodied experience. Key takeaway: You can use it, or it can use you. Same deal as most tools. And most people. 2) Personal Brand Is Not Optional Anymore Mark talks about the shift from being "a company guy" to being a person with a message, experience, failures, and a lane. Building a personal brand becomes a way to give back, scale trust, and stay relevant in a world that rewards visibility and authenticity. Jim reinforces the basics: know/like/trust still runs the world, and credibility has to lead the way. Key takeaway: Authenticity is the only strategy that doesn't expire. 3) Inventory: Time, Energy, Money (And Who Gets Access) Jim pushes a hard-end-of-year practice: audit your calendar, your spending, your energy, and ask: what did it produce? Mark prefers systems over goals: set up simple processes you'll actually do, and results show up as a byproduct. They discuss the uncomfortable but necessary practice of leaving things behind: habits, commitments, even people. Notable mini-frameworks/tools mentioned: Gratitude letters (thank you letters with real specificity) Farewell letters (closing loops and moving on cleanly) The "Do Not Call List" (a savage little boundary ritual for 2026) Key takeaway: If something drags you down, it's stealing your future. Politely escort it out. 4) Words of the Year Jim: Impermanence (nothing lasts forever, so stop wasting time and start valuing the present). Mark: Gratitude (his daily journal word, and a mental reset that crowds out negativity). Jim also brings up limerence: when your mind gets stuck looping on a person/thing and you have to interrupt the pattern. Key takeaway: Your mind repeats what you don't resolve. 5) Quotes of the Year A rapid-fire stack of principles they keep returning to: "If you're not being taken advantage of once in a while, you're not being kind enough." "If you don't stand for something, you'll fall for anything." "More people, more problems." "We grow bitter or we grow better. It's a choice." "Say less, do more." "90% of life is showing up." "It's not what happens to you. It's how you respond when it happens." "Don't let it define you, let it refine you." "Be referable, be reliable, be resourceful." Key takeaway: The older you get, the more you realize you don't need new quotes. You need to actually do the ones you already know. 2026 Speculation AI is here to stay, and the real variables will be regulation and energy constraints (big forces, bigger than any one person). Mark's 2026 focus: what he's leaving behind vs. what he's taking with him, doubling down on systems, personal brand, and daily AI use without becoming naive about it. Jim lands the plane on the "self" theme: self-awareness, self-reflection, self-forgiveness… the whole "self-" universe that sits at the center of the IMC framework. Listener Challenge Pick ONE inventory move before January hits: Write a gratitude letter. End one draining commitment. Start one simple system you can repeat daily. Create your own "Do Not Call" boundary (yes, it can be metaphorical… or not). Closing Mark and Jim wrap with holiday wishes and the note that this may be the second-to-last (or last) episode of the year. Reflection, clean endings, better beginnings. The usual inconvenient work of becoming a better man.
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    32 min
  • Your Story Matters - Understanding the Self Through the Stories of Our Fathers

    Your Story Matters - Understanding the Self Through the Stories of Our Fathers
    Dec 11 2025
    Summary In this episode of the Imperfect Men's Club Podcast, Mark and Jim use the anniversary of Jim's father's passing to explore legacy, fatherhood, and the quiet ways men leave an impact. Jim walks through a timeline of his dad's 29,352 days on earth, overlaying major world and U.S. events with his father's life story, and connects it all back to the Imperfect Men's Club framework. Mark shares stories about his own 97-year-old father, the gratitude that comes from growing up poor, and the urgency of capturing our parents' stories while we still can. Together, they reflect on generational differences, emotional expression in men, the meaning of work, and why every man's story deserves to be told before it's too late. In This Episode Year-end reflection, impermanence, and why this season intensifies thoughts about legacy Jim's father's life: 1939–2019, told through a 29,352-day lens Using AI to build a life timeline that blends personal milestones with world events The Imperfect Men's Club framework applied to one man's life: Profession Worldview Health (mental & physical) Relationships Money How poverty, war, and big historical moments shape a man's identity and values The quiet, stoic father who showed love through consistency instead of words Generational trauma, culture, and the power of understanding your grandparents' stories Why technology, innovation, and early "startup" work shaped Jim's dad's career and investments The gap between how fathers see their love and how sons experience it Boundaries in marriage, privacy, and what we don't get to know The importance of recording our parents' stories before they're gone Simple pieces of fatherly wisdom that end up directing a son's entire life The Imperfect Men's Club Framework in This Conversation 1. Profession Jim's father as a long-term government employee, scientist, and early tech innovator Working on radiation imaging technology that helped change how we diagnose and treat disease The dignity of consistent, stable work vs more entrepreneurial paths "There's never a shame in work. Whatever you do, be the very best at it." 2. Worldview Born into scarcity at the end of the Depression and on the brink of World War II Growing up in a deeply patriotic era: U.S. wins the war, man lands on the moon Seeing himself as "American first" despite Latino heritage and different appearance Political intensity in his later years, especially around modern U.S. politics How the world events of 1939, 1949, 1959, 1969, 1979, 1989, 1999, 2009 shaped one man's lens 3. Health (Physical & Mental) Strong physical health for most of his life, followed by predictable decline in later years Lung issues and unaddressed mental/emotional burdens surfacing near the end The generational tendency to "push through" rather than talk about mental health How men's internal struggles often stay hidden behind reliability and duty 4. Relationships Marriage that lasted decades, with conflict that remained private and off-limits to the kids Raising four children with consistency, presence, and provision The moment Jim confronted him about never saying "I love you" "I'd like to get to know you better… why don't you come around more often?" The boundaries around his marriage: "I don't get involved in your marriage, and I don't expect you to get involved in mine." 5. Money Growing up with nothing during a time when poverty was normal Leaving his wife in a strong financial position and something for each child Quietly investing in tech companies like Apple and Tesla because he understood innovation Modeling that money is a tool, not an identity, and that stability is a form of love Key Stories & Moments The 29,352-Day Life Jim calculates his father's life in days and overlays those days with major world events, revealing how much context, culture, and history shape who a man becomes. Coal Mines, Accidents, and Migration A coal mining accident in southern Colorado forced Jim's father's family to pack up and head to California with ten kids, shifting the entire trajectory of the family. Quiet Innovation, Loud Impact Jim's dad worked on early radiation imaging technology, building the electronics for cameras that would eventually help diagnose and treat serious illnesses, including saving Jim's brother when he developed meningitis. "You Never Told Me You Loved Me" Jim confronts his dad about never saying "I love you," only to be met with a simple, almost confused response: how could you not know? Love, to him, was shown in work, presence, and provision, not words. "I Don't Get Involved in Your Marriage" When Jim is sent by his siblings to "check in" on his parents' struggling marriage, his father shuts it down with one line: you don't know what's going on, and you don't need to. Work & Worth From dump runs with a hamburger reward to life lessons in the car, Jim's father teaches him that no job is beneath a man and that the honor is in ...
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    35 min
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