Whether you’re a ‘new year new me’ aficionado, a 5-year planner, or get sweaty at the thought of setting goals, this episode is for you.

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Joined by our resident psychologist Dr Emily Musgrove, we’re unpacking goal setting, which at its core, is the intention to change our behaviour.

In this episode, Hugh, Ryan and Josh, with the help of Dr Em, talk through why goals may seem intimidating, and how to reconcile the idea that there is no growth when you are not changing.

Leading us into a very lovely introduction of a strengths-based approach to change, Dr Em explains SMART goals using Hugh’s bedtime as a real-life example. And for those with a particularly strong inner critic (or rocky relationship with goals), Dr Em gently guides Hugh, Ryan and, especially Josh, through the blessing of allowing ourselves some slack, leading from the feet up and engaging in committed action.

AND, we learn about temptation bundling and Hugh’s taste in music (not as dirty as it sounds).

Dr Em, you’re in all of our inner cheer squads

To watch this full video on YouTube, follow this link: https://youtu.be/bUOUs0UKg_w

🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

• Chrissie Swan - Honesty - http://bit.ly/3IQd6zq
• Getting Vulny - Josh’s Big Announcement - http://bit.ly/4h5RI5V
• Dr Emily - The Meaning of Mid-Life - http://bit.ly/3IZGQtE
• Dr Emily - What Are Your Values? - http://bit.ly/4mZwvvI
• Kemi Nekvapil - A Compass for When You’re Lost - http://bit.ly/4q2UFIw
• Maria Ruberto - Sleep Your Way To Your Top - http://bit.ly/470shxZ
• Josh van Cuylenburg - Midlife Crisis Averted - http://bit.ly/4mRxLkt

📖 Things to read

• Unstuck by Dr Emily Musgrove - http://bit.ly/4o8JFay
• Rick Hanson, The Inner Caring Committee - http://bit.ly/4h7USGq
• Katy Milkman, Fresh Start Effect - http://bit.ly/3J2sKrq

🎧Things to listen to

• River Deep Mountain High by Celine Dion - http://bit.ly/48Wuk8J

💻Things to do

• VIA Character Strength Ranker - http://bit.ly/4h2KYFJ

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If you’re not navigating your life through your values, what are you using?

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Our lord and saviour is back (in a secular, informal way).

Kemi Nekvapil is back in the Academy of Imperfection to talk all things values: what they are, how we choose them, and how you add croissant as one of yours. Extending the conversation of our previous episode on values with Dr Em, Kemi talks with the guys about how their current personal values are working in their life.

Introducing terms such as val-rules, aspirational values and umbrella values, Kemi walks them through the difference between manipulation and modelling, and why the hard work starts AFTER we’ve chosen our values.

In a peak behind the metaphorical (and literal, hi Producer Bridge) curtain, we discuss what went down in our company values session with Kemi, and how these values come into play in a day-in-the-life of The Imperfects production team.

If you’d like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/TV-GL3dgtjg

🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

• Dr Emily - What Are Your Values? - http://bit.ly/4nWgRCf
• Hugh’s Open Letter to Parents of Neurodivergent Parents - http://bit.ly/4gVbQYu
• Kemi Nekvapil - How to Live a Life Without Apology - http://bit.ly/4q3NLCW
• Kemi Nekvapil - The Secret of Your Success - http://bit.ly/473cJuv

📖Things to read

• Grounded Success, by Kemi Nekvapil - http://bit.ly/4mOWw0J
• Power, by Kemi Nekvapil - http://bit.ly/4nTsZnn
• The Gift of Asking, by Kemi Nekvapil - http://bit.ly/4nvKgU8
• Dare to Lead, by Brene Brown - http://bit.ly/46GMMzC

💻Things to check out

• Kemi’s Website - https://www.keminekvapil.com

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🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz

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The mid-life update we've all been waiting for.

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In the final instillation of the Vulnerabilitea Volume 2 Cards Announcement Week, where Ryan, Hugh and Josh have each answered one of the 52 brand-spanking-new-vulnerable-questions, it’s Josh’s turn.

Answering the question, “what moment from your life are you grateful for, that profoundly changed you?” Josh reflects on the recording of the episode; Dr Emily – The Meaning of Mid Life, where he vulnerably disclosed that he was really struggling with finding meaning in the second half of his life.

Sparked from this moment of authentic connection, Josh shares with Hugh and Ryan how he was able to find compassion for himself and the joy of adopting a beginner’s mindset.

Josh, we love it when good things happen to great people. And we love you!

This can be a stand-alone episode, however Ryan and Hugh’s have been absolute corkers (and we don’t say corker lightly) and you can listen to them here https://bit.ly/3VBvcrH and here http://bit.ly/4nNXNWK.

If you’d like to watch this episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/MrL2No3YiLQ

🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

• Ryan Shelton - The Friend I Want To Be - https://bit.ly/3VBvcrH
• Hugh van Cuylenburg - This Is Burnout - http://bit.ly/4nNXNWK
• Dr Emily - The Meaning of Mid Life - https://bit.ly/4nNzmIP
• Maria Ruberto - Advancing Despite Adversity - https://bit.ly/3Kr9KTP
• Maria Ruberto - Sleep Your Way To Your Top - https://bit.ly/4nHTc8s
• Dr Emily - Other People Matter - https://bit.ly/46SBaL0
• Rick Davies - Living with OCD - https://bit.ly/4ndG2Ae

📖 Things to read

• Hitch-22, by Christopher Hitchens - https://bit.ly/4gC4yZk

📺 Things to watch

• Homer Simpson’s Spice Rack - https://bit.ly/46PCzlD

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, (with the new cards!) purchase here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz

🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz

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The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.