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The Language Alchemy Podcast

The Language Alchemy Podcast

Auteur(s): Alejandra Siroka
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 The language you use every day shapes your world and is your bridge to deeply connecting with yourself and others. Through the Language Alchemy Podcast, host Alejandra Siroka, a transformative communication teacher and coach, invites you to explore and express your deepest truths with clarity, confidence, and compassion. Give conscious shape to a fulfilling life and meaningful relationships with Language Alchemy.683428
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  • 189. Break Free from Stuck Patterns in Your Marriage

    189. Break Free from Stuck Patterns in Your Marriage
    Feb 11 2026
    What happens when love stays strong but silence and self protection quietly run the relationship. After more than two decades together, Laurie Kubicek and Kimberly Khare reached a moment many long-term couples recognize but struggle to name. Care and commitment were still present, yet familiar patterns kept pulling them into quiet withdrawal, unspoken frustration, and lingering resentment. In conversation with Alejandra Siroka, they reflect on how habits formed early in life shaped the way they spoke, listened, and avoided hard moments, often without realizing it. This episode explores core relational values like safety and connection and how they can quietly work at cross purposes. Laurie and Kimberly share how tracking each other instead of themselves led to assumptions, faux feelings, and stories that felt true but created distance. The work shifted when the focus moved toward understanding of your patterns, not just wanting your partner to change. From there, they began to notice things to avoid, such as staying silent to keep the peace or speaking from prediction rather than clarity, while also exploring language that helped them reconnect with their own inner experience first. What becomes possible when you slow down and name what you are actually feeling rather than what you assume the other person is doing? How often does silence feel easier in the moment but cost more over time? This conversation invites listeners to consider how long-lasting love deepens through awareness, responsibility, and a willingness to look inward before reaching across the table. Quotes “I really want to be clear about my intention and that my intention is to love you. And that means to grow and to stretch and to learn about myself and to learn what you need that I may not be clear about, but gosh, I want to do the work.” (07:36 | Kimberly Khare)“There was both a large gap, a disconnection that I felt really deeply. And then the other thing I felt was this circle, this rut that we would just slip into so fast and then all of a sudden it's just not going anywhere.” (9:05 | Lorrie Kubicek)“My pattern that I learned about is I tend to track with other people in a way that I prioritize that over tracking with myself.” (11:51 | Kimberly Khare)“If you haven't been your authentic self and I haven't been my authentic self, in some of these moments that may have more charge or conflict, well, then we are creating a narrative that now I'm working with.” (12:58 | Kimberly Khare)“One of the things that was so sad and enlightening at the same time was I realized how disconnected I was from myself. And from even knowing that I didn't know.” (23:24 | Lorrie Kubicek)“My pattern that I learned about is I tend to track with other people in a way that I prioritize that over tracking with myself.” (11:51 | Kimberly Khare) Links To leave a review on Apple Podcasts, click: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-language-alchemy-podcast/id1576461366 To leave a review on Spotify, click: https://open.spotify.com/show/5yTj9hSotq8EAjPCYg2jYw?si=aQNuoStRQomTNUKHGSD56A&nd=1&dlsi=064dcb42ba8d4706 To work with Alejandra, visit: www.languagealchemy.com/workwithme To join the Language Alchemy mailing list, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/mailinglist To ask questions you'd like Alejandra to answer in the podcast, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/podcastquestion To find out about 1:1 transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/oneonone To find out about couple transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/couples To schedule a reduced-rate coaching consultation with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/newclient To follow Alejandra on instagram follow @languagealchemy Podcast Music composed by Gary Lapow: open.spotify.com/artist/1HlMhcNfKIELxYil5mVqD Podcast production and show notes provided by HiveCast.fm
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    40 min
  • 188. Communication Skills Self-Assessment

    188. Communication Skills Self-Assessment
    Jan 28 2026
    When conversations feel fragile or emotionally charged, it can be hard to know where to begin. This episode offers a steady starting point through what Alejandra calls a communication checkup—an annual checkup that invites self-assessment around how you speak, listen, and repair within the relationships that matter most. Rather than chasing vague goals, you can set yourself up for success when you are aware of your specific needs. Alejandra introduces eight foundational communication skills that help listeners uncover patterns to be aware of, including staying silent to avoid discomfort, overexplaining for protection, or pulling away when tension rises. The focus stays on understanding what happens internally during challenging moments and how small shifts in attention can create more choice. What changes when listening comes from presence rather than preparation? How does emotional safety influence disagreement? Where might appreciation ease tension before resentment takes hold? The episode also broadens the lens beyond individual relationships. Communication teaches others how connection works in real time. Children notice how disagreement is handled. Colleagues observe how feedback is offered. Each interaction becomes part of a larger culture shaped by everyday choices. You are invited to explore communication as a living practice grounded in values, awareness, and care; one that begins by noticing what to understand more deeply, where attention can support steadier conversations, and how to take steps that lead to transformation. Quotes “If you're serious about transformation, you first need to assess your communication capacity and know exactly where you stand.” (02:45 | Alejandra Siroka)“Compassionate understanding means recognizing these patterns without shame or blame or guilt, just with curiosity and kindness.” (08:19 | Alejandra Siroka)“Deep and meaningful relationships have strengthened after conflicts, after disagreements, mistakes, hurts, and misunderstandings.” (19:10 | Alejandra Siroka)“The research is clear. It's not whether couples fight that predicts relationship success. It's how they repair.” (19:20 | Alejandra Siroka)“What you say now is a model of relatedness for others. The way you communicate with your closest people is the way you're impacting the whole world and the future.” (20:19 | Alejandra Siroka) Links Language Alchemy Episode 136: https://www.languagealchemy.com/podcasts/language-alchemy-podcast/episodes/2148547407 Language Alchemy Episode 137: https://www.languagealchemy.com/podcasts/language-alchemy-podcast/episodes/2148560398 To leave a review on Apple Podcasts, click: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-language-alchemy-podcast/id1576461366 To leave a review on Spotify, click: https://open.spotify.com/show/5yTj9hSotq8EAjPCYg2jYw?si=aQNuoStRQomTNUKHGSD56A&nd=1&dlsi=064dcb42ba8d4706 To work with Alejandra, visit: www.languagealchemy.com/workwithme To join the Language Alchemy mailing list, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/mailinglist To ask questions you'd like Alejandra to answer in the podcast, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/podcastquestion To find out about 1:1 transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/oneonone To find out about couple transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/couples To schedule a reduced-rate coaching consultation with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/newclient To follow Alejandra on instagram follow @languagealchemy Podcast Music composed by Gary Lapow: open.spotify.com/artist/1HlMhcNfKIELxYil5mVqD Podcast production and show notes provided by HiveCast.fm
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    28 min
  • 187. How to Communicate with Integrity When Others Don't

    187. How to Communicate with Integrity When Others Don't
    Jan 14 2026

    When the world feels chaotic and conversations feel risky the question becomes where to begin. Choosing integrity, clarity and care in how you communicate may be one of the most meaningful places to start.

    It can be tempting to disengage or speak without much care for impact when public discourse feels fractured and emotionally charged. Alejandra Siroka invites listeners to consider why communication still shapes the quality of our relationships and how local interactions within families, workplaces and friendships remain places where integrity and care are still fully within reach.

    Alejandra highlights patterns to be aware of such as shutting down to avoid conflict lashing out under pressure or staying silent to keep the peace. These responses may feel familiar yet they often pull us away from the values we want to live by. Through relatable examples she offers language that helps set boundaries without escalating tension and express disagreement while staying grounded. In this episode, you will learn to focus less on changing others and more on staying aligned with your values when conversations get uncomfortable.

    At the end of the episode, Alejandra guides you through a practical exercise to support steadier conversations and reduce unnecessary drama.

    Quotes

    • “The health of the world depends on the health of our families. And the health of our families depends on how healthy our communication is. Healthy communication gives us healthy relationships.” (00:00 | Alejandra Siroka)
    • “If you react by avoiding, attacking, or shutting down, then you are using what I call the language of survival.” (07:14 | Alejandra Siroka)
    • “You are not communicating in alignment with your values to try to change the other person. That’s not the point. You communicate with integrity because of who you are.” (12:23 | Alejandra Siroka)
    • “When you communicate in alignment with your values, you are being authentic. But when you communicate in alignment with your usual habits and inherited communication patterns, you are not being authentic.” (13:23 | Alejandra Siroka)
    • “You're not being in the present moment and you're not being authentic. True authenticity requires presence, which means pausing effort, willingness, and awareness. Authenticity means taking the space to check in with yourself and making the effort to ask yourself, what do I value in this relationship? And am I communicating in a way that reflects those values? ” (15:17| Alejandra Siroka)

    Links

    Group Coaching: https://www.languagealchemy.com/groupcoaching

    To leave a review on Apple Podcasts, click: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-language-alchemy-podcast/id1576461366

    To leave a review on Spotify, click: https://open.spotify.com/show/5yTj9hSotq8EAjPCYg2jYw?si=aQNuoStRQomTNUKHGSD56A&nd=1&dlsi=064dcb42ba8d4706

    To work with Alejandra, visit: www.languagealchemy.com/workwithme

    To join the Language Alchemy mailing list, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/mailinglist

    To ask questions you'd like Alejandra to answer in the podcast, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/podcastquestion

    To find out about 1:1 transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/oneonone

    To find out about couple transformative communication coaching with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/couples

    To schedule a reduced-rate coaching consultation with Alejandra, visit: https://www.languagealchemy.com/newclient

    To follow Alejandra on instagram follow @languagealchemy

    Podcast Music composed by Gary Lapow: open.spotify.com/artist/1HlMhcNfKIELxYil5mVqD

    Podcast production and show notes provided by HiveCast.fm
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    26 min
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