You're taking action, building self-worth, doing the hard inner work - so why don't you feel confident yet? This episode explores the quiet self-sabotage that steals your confidence and blocks your transformation. Learn why confidence, self-compassion and Mental Fitness depend on counting your evidence instead of dismissing it.

In this episode you will learn:

• Why confidence comes AFTER action, not before (Dr. Albert Bandura's research)
• The hidden way you sabotage your own confidence without realizing it
• The difference between belief and trust - and why trust is the easier starting point
• Tiny Tool to Build Confidence: Counting What Counts

Part 3 of an 8-part series exploring the questions people were really asking in 2025.

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You know what you need to do - so why can't you make yourself do it? If you've been beating yourself up for not taking action, thinking you're lazy or lacking willpower, this episode will change how you see yourself. The gap between knowing and doing isn't a willpower gap. It's a safety gap. Your nervous system is doing its job - protecting you from perceived danger. In this episode, I explain why information alone never creates transformation, and I share a simple tool called The Next Right Thing to help you finally start moving.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why knowing what to do doesn't automatically lead to doing it - and what's actually blocking you
• How your nervous system responds to emotional danger the same way it responds to physical threat
• Why the self-help equation of "information plus motivation equals transformation" is incomplete
• How to build self-trust through tiny, consistent actions that fly under your nervous system's radar
• The Next Right Thing tool - a simple practice to help you take action without forcing yourself or burning out

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Feeling stuck when your life looks fine on paper? That low hum of anxiety, that sense something's off - it's often a sign your values are out of alignment with the life you're living. This episode explores what I call being a "Quiet Misfit" and offers a simple mental fitness tool called the Honest Naming to help you stop judging yourself and start building self-love and self-worth from the inside out.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why feeling stuck isn't a character flaw - it's information from your deeper self
• What it means to be a Quiet Misfit and why recognizing it changes everything
• The difference between a motivation problem and a values misalignment
• How to use the Honest Naming tool to give your stuckness a voice without rushing to fix it
• Why the first step toward change isn't action - it's honesty

Resources Mentioned:

• Free Guide: Break Free from the Success Trap - https://www.luluessey.com/freetool

This is an inside job. Share this episode with those you love. 💛

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Free Guide: Break Free from the Success Trap – https://www.luluessey.com/freetool

Thank you for being here. You are enough. ✨