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The New Fatherhood

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 "Like one big group text with other guys fumbling their way through fatherhood." — Esquire

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  • Dads Get Messy at This Year’s Oscars, with Bilge Ebiri

    Dads Get Messy at This Year’s Oscars, with Bilge Ebiri
    Mar 11 2026

    From Jay Kelly to Sentimental Value to One Battle After Another, Oscar season 2025 is overflowing with dads—absent ones, ambitious ones, ones who chose career over family and are now reckoning with the cost. We dig into how this year's best films moved beyond the “scary dad" trope to give us fathers who are flawed, human, and genuinely complicated, and what that shift says about how the world is thinking about fatherhood right now.

    Credits

    Host: Kevin Maguire

    Managing Producer: Elizabeth Van Brocklin

    Sound Editor: Sam Williams

    Theme Music: Sohn

    More of Bilge’s work:

    Bilge’s writing on Vulture

    Bilge’s dad’s film notebooks

    Review of Train Dreams

    Review of Jay Kelly

    Review of Hamnet

    Review of One Battle After Another

    Bilge’s Dad Watchlist

    The Champ

    The Shining

    Bigger Than Life

    Train Dreams

    Jay Kelly

    One Battle After Another

    Walking with Dinosaurs

    Other show references:

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    Kevin’s essay on Train Dreams

    Timestamps

    00:00 Hello

    00:31 Becoming Nemo’s Dad

    03:30 Let’s talk movies!

    05:00 Film diaries c. 1940s

    06:10 Apocalypse Now

    07:20 Present dad award

    10:43 Core memory of The Shining

    15:00 Masculinity crisis

    16:48 [SPOILERS] Train Dreams

    19:15 Providing vs. protecting

    19:58 [SPOILERS] Hamnet

    20:20 [SPOILERS] Sentimental Value

    21:04 [SPOILERS] Jay Kelly

    23:50 [SPOILERS] More Train Dreams

    27:24 [SPOILERS] Leo is best film dad

    29:10 The Shining easter egg

    31:21 Letting go in the teen years

    33:00 Watching movies with your kids

    36:43 The outcast dinosaur



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    39 min
  • The Unexpected Loneliness of Fatherhood with Sam Graham-Felsen

    The Unexpected Loneliness of Fatherhood with Sam Graham-Felsen
    Feb 10 2026
    Why do so many dads lose touch with their friends — and why does no one talk about it?Kevin Maguire sits down with writer Sam Graham-Felsen for a candid conversation about male loneliness, modern masculinity, and the friendships fathers quietly need but rarely prioritise. From the myths of toughness to the courage it takes to reach out, this episode challenges the idea that men are supposed to do parenthood alone.Where to Find Sam Graham-FelsenWebsite: https://www.samgf.comSam's novel "Green": https://www.amazon.com/Green-Novel-Sam-Graham-Felsen/dp/0399591141Episode ReferencesSam’s Badlands essay: “I Tried to Toughen Up My Son. Things Didn’t Go as Planned.” https://www.nytimes.com/2025/10/19/magazine/national-parks-badlands-roosevelt-south-dakota.htmlSam’s essay on male loneliness: “Where Have All My Deep Male Friendships Gone?" https://www.nytimes.com/2025/05/25/magazine/male-friendships.htmlKevin’s essay, “Where’s My Jenny?” https://www.thenewfatherhood.org/p/wheres-my-jennyBrooklyn Stroll Club (example of dads building community): https://brooklynstrollclub.substack.com/p/welcome-to-brooklyn-stroll-clubMan of the Year podcast episode on the “TCS method” (Text/Call/See): https://bleav.com/shows/man-of-the-year/episodes/86-how-often-should-you-see-your-friends-aka-the-tcs-method/Theodore Roosevelt and the Strenuous Life: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Strenuous_LifeDadurdays: IRL meetups in a city near you https://www.thenewfatherhood.org/p/introducing-dadurdays-irl-meetupsMen calling to wish each other goodnight https://vm.tiktok.com/ZNRyyCCyx/Ray Charles — "America the Beautiful" (YouTube): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2FXN1Z6Q004Bruce Springsteen — "Badlands" (Official Lyric Video, YouTube): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a-ME4n-mKKcWoody Guthrie — "This Land Is Your Land" (YouTube): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wxiMrvDbq3sTimestamps00:00 — Why adult men lose friendships (and why it matters)02:00 — The loneliness gap in early fatherhood: “Where are the people checking on me?”04:00 — The first time Sam felt like a dad (Prospect Park leaf walks)08:00 — The Badlands trip, Theodore Roosevelt, and the myth of “toughening up your son”12:00 — Bullying, humiliation, and how confidence collapses in unexpected places15:00 — What’s changing for boys (gender norms) vs what’s worsening (cyberbullying)18:00 — Helping kids pick friends: “nice” and shared interests over status21:00 — Writing publicly about loneliness: why it’s hard, and why it lands22:00 — The cultural script: dads should provide, achieve… and outgrow friendship23:00 — Friendship as the most underrated mental health strategy25:00 — “Where’s my Jenny?” + being the dad who reaches out first26:00 — The “intruder dad” feeling in mum-heavy parenting spaces29:00 — Dad Days + WhatsApp groups: you get out what you put in33:00 — TCM/TCS method: text weekly, call monthly, see quarterly35:00 — Why phone calls are weirdly hard (and how to make them work)36:00 — Voice notes + “private podcasts” as friendship glue37:00 — The “asynchronous book club” idea Get full access to The New Fatherhood at www.thenewfatherhood.org/subscribe
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    38 min
  • The Great Screen Time Debate with Jacqueline Nesi

    The Great Screen Time Debate with Jacqueline Nesi
    Feb 2 2024

    On Screen Time, like with so many parenting conundrums, theres no right answer, but there’s a whole world of others parents who will tell you that you’re doing it wrong. We need better guidance to help us navigate through these issues, and that’s why I’m thankful for the work being done by Dr Jacqueline Nesi in her excellent newsletter Techno Sapiens. I’ve found it an essential resource to help me understand more about the challenges I face as a parent today, enabling me to make decisions based on data, not fear, and to enable me to prepare for what comes next, as my kids get older and mobile phones and social media move into the frame.

    Key Timings:

    Introduction to Jackie Nesi and Parental Tech Fears (00:00-02:18)

    Jackie discusses parents' concerns about technology and screen time, with Kevin reflecting on her journey from academia to writing.

    Screen Time and Childhood Development (02:18-06:01)

    Delving into the role of technology in children's lives, discussing the impact of various screen activities and guidelines for young children.

    Influence of Parental Tech Habits (06:01-10:48)

    Conversation about how parents' technology use affects children, including the concept of 'technoference' and co-viewing as family bonding.

    Managing Screen Time and Discipline (10:48-16:18)

    Jackie talks about setting screen time rules, consistency in parenting, and alternatives to screen activities.

    Parenting Teenagers in a Digital World (16:18-23:25)

    Strategies for disciplining teenagers around technology and considerations for when to give children phones.

    Closing Thoughts on Balanced Digital Parenting (23:25-32:05)

    Concluding advice on navigating the balance between technology's risks and benefits in parenting.

    You can sign up for Techno Sapiens here.



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    35 min
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