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The Parenthood and Relationship Podcast | Matrescence | Relationship after baby | Motherhood life

The Parenthood and Relationship Podcast | Matrescence | Relationship after baby | Motherhood life

Auteur(s): Markella Kaplani - Clinical-Counseling Psychologist | Parenthood & Relationship Coach | Matrescence Expert
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 Parenthood and maintaining a healthy relationship are ambitious endeavors. Being fully aware, you armed yourself with all the latest books, articles, podcasts, and resources, committed to being present and strong for your family. Yet, despite embracing every piece of advice and strategy in your search for reassurance, there are times you find yourself wondering why the harmony, connection, and closeness you envisioned seem out of reach. If this rings true, let me tell you: it’s not you! It’s what they didn’t tell you. The parenting guidance and strategies we read online lack depth. They hardly ever address the transition into parenthood and the profound impact this has on our identity, partnerships, and ability to show up as the parent we wish to be for our children. But guess what? We’re about to turn that around. Hi there, I’m Markella Kaplani. A clinical-counseling psychologist, a parenthood and relationship Coach, a matrescence coach and facilitator, a former special educator, and a parent myself. In my 15+ years in counseling and coaching, I know this to be true: once a parent is truly supported, not only through being given techniques to overcome parenting challenges, but on a personal and relational level, then the entire family can thrive. So, welcome to the Parenthood and Relationship Podcast! Here, we learn to grow individually, normalizing and validating the processes of matrescence and patrescence (i.e. struggling with identity, mom guilt, dad guilt, postpartum rage, work-life balance, etc). We also grow together by unraveling how parenthood affects marriage and what stands in the way of following the actionable parenting strategies that we know are helpful. So, if you’re feeling ready, let me hold your hand while we tackle intriguing, yet difficult topics, with compassion and curiosity. Interested to know more? - Reach out via email at info@markellakaplani.com with your questions, and - Visit www.markellakaplani.com to access FREE resources and check out ways to work with me personally. Let’s do this! --- 🔎 Is Parenthood Making or Breaking Your Relationship? FIND OUT NOW! https://www.markellakaplani.com/couplesquiz 🖥 Reconcile the ’old’ identity with the ’new’ Grab your FREE Matrescence Mini-Course https://www.markellakaplani.com/videoseries 👥 Join our Circle: www.facebook.com/groups/parenthoodandrelationship/ 🤝 Would you like a more personalized touch? I can offer Parenthood and Relationship Coaching. info@markellakaplani.com www.markellakaplani.com Book an introductory session to explore our chemistry and whether I am the right fit for you: http://tidycal.com/markellakaplani/intro-sessionCopyright 2024 All rights reserved. Hygiène et mode de vie sain Psychologie Psychologie et santé mentale Relations Sciences sociales Éducation des enfants
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  • When Parenthood Changes Us | How Couples Navigate Identity, Relationship & Growth | Ep. 75

    When Parenthood Changes Us | How Couples Navigate Identity, Relationship & Growth | Ep. 75
    Sep 21 2025

    Parenthood doesn’t just change your schedule.

    It shifts who you believe you are.

    In this episode, we dive into those quiet, sometimes painful cracks in identity that open once kids arrive:

    • the lost “you”,
    • the unseen tensions in your relationship,
    • the unmet expectations, and the longing to feel whole again.

    We explore how couples can hold space for one another, learn tools to rebuild intimate connection, and begin to reclaim identity without resentment, guilt, or disconnection.

    This isn’t about returning to “pre-kids you.”

    It’s about integrating growth, grief, love, and change so your relationship and your sense of self can thrive.

    Today, we explore:

    1. How parenthood transforms your self-image, your role expectations & what you didn’t see coming.
    2. Communication tools for couples: naming patterns, navigating the unspoken, co-regulation in moments of mismatch.
    3. Practical micro-movements you can begin at home to restore connection & feel seen again.
    4. The emotional insight: you don’t need to “fix” everything. Sometimes, being witnessed, naming the change, and leaning into vulnerability is the bridge to deeper intimacy.

    If you’re feeling like you’ve lost bits of who you were, or if the person you’re in relationship with is changing in ways you didn’t expect, this episode is for you.

    Listen in, let the discomfort teach you, and find space to rebuild together.

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    Download the [free] Reconnection Roadmap [for him]

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    🔔 Subscribe for more parenting insights 📩 Join my [FREE] newsletter for extra support 👉 Get the [FREE] Calm Parent, Calm Child Guide 📢 Share this with a parent who needs to hear it!

    --- Full Transcript HERE. — Want to take our relationship to the next level? 👉Here are my top Resources 👉 Link to my Newsletter 👉 Join the Reconnect with Your Partner Challenge

    📩 Get in touch with me (Instagram @markella.kaplani; website; e-mail: info@markellakaplani.com) 🎧 Listen, share, and leave a review! Your support means the world! ---

    Markella Kaplani, M.A. Clinical-Counseling Psychologist Parenthood & Relationship Coach www.markellakaplani.com
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    13 min
  • When Fathers Feel Irrelevant | Understanding Patrescence and Relationship Disconnect | Ep. 74

    When Fathers Feel Irrelevant | Understanding Patrescence and Relationship Disconnect | Ep. 74
    Sep 14 2025

    Download the [free] Reconnection Roadmap [for him] !!

    Fatherhood is more than showing up at bedtime or paying the bills. Yet too often, dads enter parenthood without the same acknowledged transformation that mothers undergo.

    This episode of The Parenthood and Relationship Podcast pulls back the curtain on patrescence - the emotional, psychological, and relational journey of becoming a father.

    While society expects women to evolve when they become mothers, men are still told to “provide, not process.”

    The result?

    Emotional disconnect, intimacy breakdowns, and couples who love each other but feel worlds apart.

    In this episode, we dive deep into what happens when fathers aren’t invited into their own becoming, and why that gap leaves both partners lonely.

    With warmth, honesty, and practical tools, we unpack the barriers that hold men back from fully stepping into fatherhood, from cultural conditioning to fear of failure.

    More importantly, you walk away with a roadmap for reconnection that doesn’t blame men, but instead calls them into deeper presence, courage, and love.

    This isn’t about fixing your partner. It’s about understanding the unseen layers of patrescence and reclaiming connection — for yourself, your relationship, and your children.

    Today we explore:

    1. What patrescence is and why it’s rarely talked about.

    2. How men experience fatherhood differently (and why it often goes unnamed).

    3. The barriers that stop dads from fully shifting.

    4. Practical micro-movements couples can use to rebuild closeness.

    Moms, if you’ve ever wondered why your partner seems unchanged while you feel completely transformed, or if you’re a dad who feels “not enough” no matter what you do, this conversation will meet you right where you are.

    👉 Don’t miss the free resource mentioned in the episode: The Reconnection Roadmap, a simple 7-step guide to help couples rediscover admiration and affection without needing a heavy emotional talk.

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    Episode Transcript HERE.

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    🔔 Subscribe for more parenting insights 📩 Join my [FREE] newsletter for extra support 👉 Get the [FREE] Calm Parent, Calm Child Guide 📢 Share this with a parent who needs to hear it!

    --- Download the [free] Reconnection Roadmap [for him] -- Want to take our relationship to the next level? 👉Here are my top Resources 👉 Link to my Newsletter 👉 Join the Reconnect with Your Partner Challenge

    📩 Get in touch with me (Instagram @markella.kaplani; website; e-mail: info@markellakaplani.com) 🎧 Listen, share, and leave a review! Your support means the world! ---

    Markella Kaplani, M.A. Clinical-Counseling Psychologist Parenthood & Relationship Coach www.markellakaplani.com
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    16 min
  • 3 Practical Steps to Heal Emotional Disconnection in Marriage After Children | Ep. 73

    3 Practical Steps to Heal Emotional Disconnection in Marriage After Children | Ep. 73
    Sep 7 2025
    Get the [free] Reconnection Roadmap [for him] that I referred to!! Have you ever looked over at your partner in bed and thought, we’re right next to each other… but it feels like we’re living on different planets? If so, you’re not alone. This episode is all about what psychologists call emotional drift: that quiet, subtle distance that creeps into so many relationships after kids arrive. Today, we unpack one of the most common questions couples ask: “Why do couples feel like roommates after kids?” Because let’s be honest: Parenting together can sometimes feel more like project management than partnership. You share a home, a schedule, maybe even a Google calendar… and yet, there’s this ache of where did we go? In this conversation, I’ll walk you through: What emotional drift in marriage actually is and why it’s not the same as resentment or incompatibility.The hidden reasons why marriage after kids struggles even when the love is still there.Why moms often feel invisible carrying the mental load, and why dads often feel they’re “still not enough” no matter what they do.What research from The Gottman Institute shows about bids for connection and why missing them slowly erodes intimacy.Simple, science-backed tools for how to reconnect with your partner after having children without forcing awkward conversations or waiting for “date night.” You’ll learn practical ways to shift the emotional temperature in your home through what I call micro-moments - small, doable gestures that rebuild safety and closeness over time. Think six-second hugs, honest one-liners like “I miss us”, or learning to regulate your body before you try to relate with your partner. If you’ve been Googling things like feeling alone in my marriage after kids, emotional distance in marriage, or how to save your relationship after children, this episode will meet you right where you are. Because the truth is: the drift isn’t proof you’ve fallen out of love. It’s a signal that your nervous systems are overloaded, your emotional labor is uneven, and your relationship needs small acts of repair, not blame. And here’s the most important part: your kids are watching. They’re learning what love looks like by seeing how you and your partner reach for each other, or drift apart. Repairing emotional distance isn’t just about saving your marriage. It’s about giving your children a model of resilience, tenderness, and connection they’ll carry into their own lives. So if you’ve been feeling like roommates in the same bed, press play on this episode. You’ll walk away with compassion for yourself, insight into your partner, and clear steps for creating connection again. And if you want to go deeper, don’t forget to grab my free Reconnection Roadmap — seven simple steps to reawaken admiration and intimacy without long talks or therapy jargon. Because love after parenthood is a whole new game… and with the right tools, you can win it together. –- 🔔 Subscribe for more parenting insights 📩 Join my [FREE] newsletter for extra support 👉 Get the [FREE] Calm Parent, Calm Child Guide 📢 Share this with a parent who needs to hear it! --- Full Transcript HERE. — The [free] Reconnection Roadmap [for him] that I referred to — Want to take our relationship to the next level? 👉Here are my top Resources 👉 Link to my Newsletter 👉 Work with Me 📩 Get in touch with me Instagram @markella.kaplani; website: https://markellakaplani.com; e-mail: info@markellakaplani.com) 📢 Listen, share, and leave a review! Your support means the world! --- Markella Kaplani, M.A. Clinical-Counseling Psychologist Parenthood & Relationship Coach www.markellakaplani.com
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    17 min
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